The issue is not the shorts, it's the shorts WITH the sandals. Also the bare arms don't help. Too much skin is showing to be considered "business appropriate". The male boss blew it by being unable to figure it out and focused on the shorts.
Unfortunately there is no way to help a man to understand or empathize with the constant underlying fear that a woman has ALWAYS in the back of her mind and psyche that if she somehow ends up in a vulnerable situation (alone with a man), there is the possibility (however minute) she may be raped. Why? Because the man (almost always) is physically stronger and can subdue her.
It's really actually very simple.
The only similarity to fathom I think is the idea of a very weak man sent to a federal prison.
Have you ever wondered why you don't see lots of women out alone late at night? Think about it...in the City there are many men walking around in the later hours. You'll see male-female couples or even a group of women walking. But you don't see a woman alone very often at night, walking around (besides prostitutes who are protected by their pimp). And the reason is FEAR. Women are afraid of being raped.
Most men have no idea of how this fear plays a part in every woman's consciousness.
And it's amazing how little understanding there is on patnet that having multiple temper tantrums about wrongful rape accusations trivializes the actual core problem which is rape itself.
Don't take it personally guys. Women don't expect men to be beautiful, by and large. But they do expect other women to be beautiful, on the other hand.
Sorry chaps, women only get dressed up to impress each other
By Andrew Levy for the Daily Mail
Updated: 19:33 EST, 10 June 2011
Men left waiting for hours as their partners get ready for a big night out won’t be pleased.
Women apparently dress to impress other women.
A poll of 2,000 debunks the myth that they spend hours in front of a mirror on a Saturday night to impress men.
The truth is, two thirds are trying to encourage compliments from their peers.
Six out of ten women aged between 18 and 30 said they had their girlfriends in mind when they chose what to wear on a big night out.
And more than a quarter said the most genuine compliments they received came from women they don’t know – not men. Yesterday a spokesman for Simple skincare, which commissioned the report, said: ‘There is an assumption that women go all out to impress the opposite sex, but this research has revealed this isn’t always the case.
‘The fact that so many women care about what their peers think of their appearance is only natural.’
She added: ‘On the whole, women are much more in the know when it comes to clothes, make-up and style, so it’s not a surprise that girls go out to impress other women as opposed to men.’
Two thirds of women believe that men say they look good regardless of what they look like and just say it as standard, without thinking.
And 48 per cent of women polled actually prefer to get a compliment from a female stranger as opposed to a man.
More than half of women say they have never got themselves ‘dolled up’ purely to snare a man and 22 per cent claim a man’s opinion doesn’t matter to them at all.
Psychiatrists do almost nothing but push, er, I mean, prescribe drugs. Do we really need the whole world on Wellbutrin?
I'm not saying anything bad about these areas -- they are beautiful places. I am just noting these people are buying property far from family and friends back in the BA and unless telecommuting, there is not a lot of local job opportunity.
And what do you classify as 'middle of nowhere'? Is that someplace that isn't in the heart of the city?
I mean away from population and job centers. Two recent examples of BA friends purchasing property -- Mariposa & Placerville, CA. Mariposa is about 45 minutes from Merced and on the way to Yosemite. Placerville is almost midway between Sacramento and Lake Tahoe. These are not "suburbs" or even "exo-burbs", but old gold-mining towns. This is what they could afford.
Also, these are people who are trying to stay in California and haven't thrown in the towel like all the Portland OR and Austin TX migrators, of which there are many.
Renting is DUMB.
I totally agree.
My experience with many of my gen x friends are they are either stuck in their house with no plans to move up or struggling to keep the house they got. Or they moved to the middle of nowhere to afford a place to buy.
It doesn't make sense for them to sell since they don't know if they will even be able to snag another house, let alone a house that isn't much more expensive than the one they have. Some of them have had job changes or pay freezes/cuts a few years ago, which created hardship in paying their mortgage, and they are still struggling.
Some are doing well -- the ones I can think of the wives don't even have to work -- they are just one income and living in high end BA area - husbands of course are involved in tech, yet they are still basically stuck in their current homes. No plans to "move up". It seems like the "move up" market is dying.
The shooter was a mind-controlled patsy. Eight peoplle were tragically collateral damage. The target was Senator Clementa Pinckney.
Speech in May by Senator Clementa Pinckney: "Ladies and gentlemen of the Senate, when we first heard on the television, that a police officer had gunned down an unarmed African American in North Charleston by the name of Walter Scott, there were some who said, "Wow. The national story has come home to South Carolina." But there were many who said, "There is no way that a police officer would ever shoot somebody in the back 6, 7, 8, times." But like Thomas, when we were able to see the video, and we were able to see the gun shots, and when we saw him fall to the ground, and when we saw the police officer come and handcuff him on the ground, without even trying to resuscitate him, without even seeing if he was really alive, without calling an ambulance, without calling for help, and to see him die face down in the ground as if he were gunned down like game, I believe we all were like Thomas, and said, "I believe."
...We have a great opportunity to allow sunshine into this process. It is my hope that as South Carolina senators, that we will stand up for what is best and good about our state and really adopt this legislation and find a way to have body cameras in South Carolina. Our hearts go out to the Scott family, and our hearts go out to the Slager family, because the Lord teaches us to love all, and we pray that over time, that justice be done."
"Somewhat darkly, Pinckney acknowledged in his 2013 homily that the fight for racial justice in the United States, and in South Carolina, has not been without bloodshed. “Sometimes you have to make noise to do that. Sometimes, you maybe have to die… Sometimes you have to march, struggle, and be unpopular to do that,” Pinckney said."
" “I come from a long line of preacher/politicians, men who believed in social change,” Pinckney told the Post and Courier. The story continued:
His great-grandfather, the Rev. Lorenzo Stevenson of Marion, was a minister who sued the Democratic party to allow minorities to vote in primaries. His great-uncle on his mother's side, the Rev. Levern Stevenson, led boycotts in Jasper County. He ultimately sued Gov. John West in the West vs. Stevenson case that led to single-member districts and black representation for the first time in South Carolina."
"CORNISH: Can you tell us a little bit more about the reverend? I understand he had a very rich voice. We heard a little bit of it...
CORNISH: ...Just there.
SELLERS: (Laughter) It was like, a baritone. It was a deep baritone, and he didn't use it all the time. But when he did speak, people listened."
The pharmaceutical companies have won if mandatory vaccinations are put into law. Next will be the loss of our rights over our own bodies and our children's bodies.
Although I agree that there is a lot of good in the Steiner system of educating, I found the Waldorf school my son went to for preschool was mysteriously secretive about what they were teaching, which I found bizarre. I did not feel welcome as a parent in the classroom. They required a particular way of doing things, for instance for my son-- no television, movies or computers, only natural fibers and nature images on clothing, no logo's on clothing larger than a thumbnail, etc. The administration was very secretive on their decisions and choices. I knew from research that Waldorf was based on spiritual principles which I was fine with, but it seemed to me the school was trying to hide that aspect from the parents. Again, strange. I once heard "Waldorf is a lifestyle choice". I actually think for some of the schools it is mildly closer to a cult with the dead Steiner the cult leader.
In the Waldorf system, (based on Rudolph Steiner's educational ideas ) they don't begin teaching reading until 7 year old, or when the "milk teeth" fall out and the adult teeth start to come in. We looked into the Waldorf system and I was concerned that my son wouldn't be reading early enough. Because I started to read at 3 to 4 years old I thought it was way too old to begin reading. I was certain my child would be an early reader and I was determined to make it happen.
So, despite reading daily to my son since he was 3 months old, despite purchasing the whole set of "Baby Can Read" DVD's and flash cards/book,with almost daily exposure from the time he was an infant to about 4 years old, despite reading books with flashing lights and accompanying musical CD's and audio features, despite going hi-tech with V-tech and Leap Frog books and toys meant to facilitate independent reading, despite talking up how exciting and awesome it is to be able to read stories and books, he has only really started to read recently. He is 7 and in first grade. What I've learned from this is a child is ready when they are ready, and not a moment before.
Math on the other hand, he took to and excelled at from a very young age, with absolutely no prodding from me at all. Go figure.
Why would a family of four pay $344 when they can pay $100 for gas and a fast food meal (all there really is along I 5). Plus, then a rental car? Who knows if they will even make car rental available close to the train station? That would actually require logic and foresight.
If they could offer family discount fares to entice families out of their cars, it could be a possible option. Families could be a big market judging from all the minivans in traffic on interstate 5.
"The California Department of Transportation's decision to save money by hiring a Chinese company that had never built a bridge to build major parts of the new San Francisco-Oakland Bay Bridge was troubling to begin with. A major Sacramento Bee investigation pushes it from troubling to terrifying. The article, by Charles Piller, details how Caltrans management was determined to stick with Chinese contractor ZPMC even as Caltrans inspectors repeatedly caught the company making significant mistakes and failing on quality control measures:
Caltrans started out by hiring an inexperienced company labeled as "high risk" and given only a contingent pass by an expert to build parts of a major bridge in an earthquake-prone location. Then, when problems were found by Caltrans' own engineers, its managers said they weren't really problems and threw more money at the project, leading to cost and time overruns after having hired ZPMC because it would supposedly be cheap and fast. Caltrans is insisting that the bridge is safe despite what Piller describes as a "litany of problems" including "suspect foundation concrete, broken anchor rods and rust on the suspension span’s main cable." The problem is, it's not clear Bay Area commuters should believe that."
" We must not let the green movement stand in its way."
The author is following the pied piper of Monsanto right down the lane into the cemetery, which is where we will all find ourselves if we continue to eat the poisoned GMO's foods.
"While 88 percent of association scientists agreed it was safe to eat genetically modified foods, only 37 percent of the public did — a gap in perceptions of 51 points. (The gap on climate change was 37 points; on childhood vaccinations, 18 points.)"
Then the scientist can eat all the GMO foods themselves. People are not that stupid --jeez.
Do not support GMO foods! Buy organic - you are what you eat.
Have either of you ever tried homeopathy?
Rin - was it an open casket funeral? Just curious.
You know, there is a law I believe in California that says if you receive something by mail you did not order, you have the right to keep it, and not pay for it.
It's not just California, it's federal:
This does not explain tight inventory in the Bay Area. According to your chart, San Francisco and San Jose have the lowest number of underwater homeowners. At best, it seems a minimal impact-- so the question is still--why is there such low inventory in the Bay Area, especially on the lower end? People no longer need to move? Families don't need a bigger house? Seniors aren't moving out? I am perplexed by this phenomenon.
This is Patrick.net. This is not my dissertation. There is only so much effort I am willing to put into this. But I thank you for your advice. Dan8267 says
You should demand convincing, especially in this day where journalism is anyone with Internet access and a strong but unfounded opinion.
I put the article up for others to do what they will with it. They can believe it, disbelieve it, or dig further. I honestly don't care. I didn't write the article -- why would I spend an afternoon researching it? If you follow your logic, why have anyone write articles? What is the role of an author? This is why we read authored articles, not read raw data all day. I read an article to get the information the author researched. If I want more information, or I disbelieve it, then I have the option to further research the topic.
If there's nothing else you remember from this thread, remember that.
Translation: I'm too lazy to back up my claims,
I don't know what you spend your days doing, but from the number of posts, it seems like you have more time for this than me. I am occasional on this site because I have many other things to do. Don't you? If you want more information than what I've already given, please feel free to research it yourself. You seem to know much about how to research it, so I ask, who is the lazy one?
I can only speak for experience and say I have NEVER seen a case where a woman earned less than a man BECAUSE she was a woman.
So just because you've never personally experienced it, it is not true? In the face of statistics that show otherwise? Even though you quote the below? Contradictory.
So here you go: 5% discrimination.
Stop protesting like this 5% is actually 100%.
Who's making it 100%? We are talking Silicon Valley, not the whole U.S. And even in your best case scenario--5%-- why should men make even 5% more for doing the same job?
Men who hold Bachelor’s Degrees make 40 percent more than women with the same educational level.
Exactly how are you measuring that? Please show your work.
This is quoted from the article. Here is the article: http://thinkprogress.org/economy/2014/02/12/3282881/silicon-valley-wage-gap/
The charts are from U.S. census bureau. If you need more info -- you are free to research it.
I lived in SV for a long time, albeit in larger companies and the reality I see is very different. I have to take classes every 2 years about how not to joke about sex, so as to not make anyone uncomfortable. It's a repressed world where no one makes any joke, where there no "nudie calendars", or anything else that is not STRICTLY professional.
So women are whining because they don't appreciate being objectified?
I have never seen a woman treated any differently than a man, including with regard to salaries.
"Men working in Silicon Valley with a graduate or professional degree earn 73 percent more than women in the industry with the same degrees, according to an analysis of Census Data from the 2014 Silicon Valley Index.
Men who hold Bachelor’s Degrees make 40 percent more than women with the same educational level. In fact, they make more than women at every level of educational attainment except for high school graduates, where women earn 1 percent more than men."