I have 25+ years experience working with the elderly. I'm sorry you & your family are going thru this, it's tough.
1) Social Security Benefits for Surviving Spouse: http://www.socialsecurity.gov/pubs/EN-05-10084.pdf
2) Meals on Wheels isn't quite the program it used to be. Used to be fresh meals brought daily to seniors so that someone was checking in on them daily. Now in most areas it's a weeks (or two) worth of frozen meals dropped off. The frozen food isn't the greatest - you can buy "Healthy Choice" meals that taste better and are more nutritious, if you live nearby.
3) A "Lifeline" unit is awesome in case of emergency - and can be set up so that the senior has to deactivate it daily or a family member will be called.
4) If he was a veteran, depending upon her income and assets she might qualify for Veteran's Aid & Attendance to pay for in-home care. For more info, go to www.veteranaid.org. The downside is that the program takes over a year before the monies are awarded. However, if she is eligible, a company such as Veteran's Home Care (http://www.veteranshomecare.com/) might be the answer. It fronts the money (by providing care) and when the $ are finally awarded, the company is paid back. You must use an in-home care agency with which they contract, and they will only help if it's a no-brainer that she is eligible.
5) Regarding the A&A, the program does not operate by the same rules as Medicaid. If she has more assets, she can set up a trust and divest herself of the assets for the purpose of receiving the veteran's assistance (about $1,200/mo).
My advice to you - see if there is a Geriatric Care Manager in your area. They can help you set up a plan to help the Mom-in-law remain independent. http://www.caremanager.org/. They charge an hourly rate - and are knowledgeable about resources available in the area. They can help set up a living alone plan with your mother-in-law that will allow her to remain independent, yet help to keep her safe.
Also - if you need to set up a trust or move anything around, make an appointment with an Attorney who specializes in Elder Law to get their opinion. NOT ESTATE PLANNING! They can help you understand Medicaid, VA and any other senior issues. They're pricey (as are most attorneys), but worth it if the benefits outweigh the costs.
Finally, make sure that the family monitors mom for her financial decisions (while treating her with respect). There are so many scammers out there, and my experience has been that the elderly not only are easy targets but often are too embarrassed to tell their children about financial matters until it's too late. Good luck
I'll not only never eat there, but will do a goddamned 180 right were I stand leaving every damned thing behind the next damn time I see some son of a bitch behind a counter pulls one of those fucking things out. Fuck that! That was a bunch of Bullhist! Never ever again!
Time to take the valium
But what they don't understand is that, with insurance, providers will be overwhelmed because people will be swarming doctor's offices just because they can. They probably won't even be sick, they'll simply be people who are empowered with unlimited insurance benefits running amok in the streets (or in this case, the doctor's office). Fuckin' Obama
I imagine that there's more gold in the shitty toilets where elitist idiots who will spend shitloads of money (pun intended) on alcohol infused with gold flakes, such as goldschlager, and food with gold in it at fancy restaurants. There's also the water down their drains from creams with gold in it.
what it says that the regular woman is a real mess.
Yes we are. But ya'll ain't no gems, either.
The title should be "Vote Democrat or else, don't."
Researchers at Brigham Young University studied 3 million people.
I wonder how many of these were attendees of BYU. lol
Utah is full of desperate women.
I know of a guy who is the predominant religion in Utah. He fucked anything that moved in college and, of course, married the sweet little virginal girl who pined for him at home. And he fucked around on her from the get-go. I had several classes with him in college, but otherwise we didn't socialize. I thought he was a pompous ass with no redeeming qualities who liked women who slathered their makeup on with a trowel.. He ignored me because I wasn't his type - I wear jeans & flip-flops, no make-up and was taking a woodshop class with him.
We ran into each other several times over the years, each time he was with a different woman. 20 years later, a friend of mine was telling me that he was a major catch (she didn't know that I knew him); he lived in Northern Utah and came down South to troll for idiots (my friend was one of them). He actually got a few friendships broken up over his "Successful Mormon Male" act. He found a lot of his worshippers on a Mormon dating site, where there are substantially more women then men looking for the next Mr. Wallet.
I was with my friend - a gorgeous brunette who dressed impeccably - at a restaurant, a when he walked up to me - ignoring her, even though she was emailing him a lot - and chatted me up. He asked me for my phone number and asked if we could get together, and I declined. My friend was shocked that I would turn him down - she ended up dating him for awhile until the dumped her.
She's been married four times. He has been married three times. Both are single now, back to the Mormon dating sites.
Either than or he married her just cuz (conditioning) and then found out that he could truly feel something deeply for someone. Maybe he will actually love this next woman. Maybe not.
If he actually exists. Story sounds like bullshit to me.
By the time he gets back I've pulled myself together. I've found a way to frame this. Dave is having a crisis and it's up to me to pull him back from the ledge.
I will be our rock. And like a rock, I will not think. I will not feel."
I will be his doormat.
I doubt this story has a happy ending. I also suspect that, if the dude were to write about it, it would NOT be about a happy marriage. Sounds like the guy (if he exists) has been miserable for years and is jumping at anything - or anyone - that he thinks will make him happy.
I blame Obama for that. :)
You had insurance before obama and you have insurance after, not sure what or who there is for you to 'blame'
It was more a commentary on TPB's continual blaming of Obama for the rising cost of everything from his auto insurance to weed.
Since your here why didn't you get a mental evaluation while in the hospital?
Don't you know that following Patnet will make you looney? Hell,I'm proof.
I'm sure that you meant this to be funny (and it was, a little). But I am part of the vast conspiracy that is able to place patients on a psychiatric hold against their will for up to 72 hours. To qualify for the free stay in a hard bed with shitty-ass food, they need to be a danger to themselves or others. A few years back I worked for a nursing home and the administrator wanted me to send a woman with dementia out to the psych hospital so that they could hold her for three days. After that, she would qualify for Medicare to pay $800 per day for her to receive physical therapy, occupational therapy and speech therapy. It didn't matter that she lacked the cognitive ability to retain anything that she might have learned and that the therapies wouldn't make a bit of difference because they weren't at all necessary... so I refused to sign the forms. She yelled at me, then threatened me with my job. She also threatened to file a report against my professional license. She insisted that the patient might wander out the front door into traffic - which doesn't constitute a "danger to herself or others," (although it did say a lot about a nursing home that admitted a patient who wandered without the ability to monitor her whereabouts). But I digress - her threats didn't work.
For those of you who are movie buffs,,. think of the bank scene from "Leaving Las Vegas." I simply couldn't sign the forms.
She got a nurse to sign the forms, and suspended me a couple of weeks later. She was fired soon after that. But she still works in the industry, ruining people's lives and controlling the elderly by ignoring their rights and treating them subhumanely.
Once Ten Ounce Dumbass fixes our healthcare system with his delightful insights, let's allow him to fix the system that allows a confused elderly woman to be held hostage against her will in order to allow a nursing home to fraudulently bill for services she doesn't need while her family stands by, trusting the word of a deranged woman with a two-year college degree, a license and not an ounce of compassion.
My Car insurance went up out of the blue yesterday. NO reason I haven't had as much as a traffic ticket since my twenties.
Maybe they read Patnet and believe you to be oozing with a deep-seated anger, expecting you to explode with road rage when you see a commercial for a healthcare provider? It's a distinct possibility.
Just what kind of Idiot do you think I am anyway?
How much time you got?
So far as Mexico, Canada, etc... I needed surgery and felt like shit. The cost of traveling, difficulty finding providers, etc wouldn't have been worth it. Besides, I have insurance and therefore was able to afford my out-of-pocket costs.
I blame Obama for that. :)
OK, so if I understand you correctly, the bill was $44,000, but they only got a total of $2800, with that being $2000 from your insurance company and $800 from you, correct?
Yes, that's correct (for the surgical suite, nurses and supplies). The pathologist, labs, other "extras", physician and anesthesiologist cost extra as well.
there should be serious investigation into that, as to why the hospitals is playing favorite with insurnace companies. THere shouldn't be any fucking around, and the bill should be what it is.
Thank Godess you were here to tell us this information. No one has ever complained about this issue before. You, sir, are a true pioneer of thought.
Elliemae is in the medical field and I'm supposed to be impressed that her HR department found insurance that would actually pay stuff, rather than the HR lady picked the best insurance package based on the perk package the insurance rep gave her.
I do work in the healthcare field, and my company provides marvelously adequate insurance. I don't know about my current policy, but in years past we weren't even a contracted provider for the insurance company we had. If you, in your infinite wisdom, actually believe that healthcare contractors provide excellent healthcare for their employees, you, sir, are fucking nuts. Of course, I mean this respectfully.
So you mean to tell us you're here to brag about insurance that puts you on the hook for more than 30% of the total tab?
I wasn't bragging, merely following up with a post from months ago. And, even though you blame Obama for my medical costs, I looked at policies past and this insurance provided the same coverage I had several years ago. I also forgot to mention that I had already met my deductible for the year or I would have paid for pretty much the whole thing.
Unlike you, I don't blame Obama. I do blame greedy hospitals and a system that allows multi-tiered billing.
McDonald's food is crap. Cheap crap, tastes like cardboard. No matter where you go you can get that same horrible crap, kinda fast. Now they're trying to compete with Smashburger and other boutique chains (according to the morning paper today).
They could try using beef in their food. Not the sore-eye-downer-beef they're using now, but beef that tastes like real food. And for God's sake, someone tell me what part of the chicken the nugget comes from.
You two are so hot, you should get a room. Let the rest of us worry about Global Warming.
Jesus "H" Christ? It's "Howard."
How do I know this? The prayer says, "Howard be thy name."
Get this through your thick Liberal retarded skull.
Those bills are higher because of Obama care you Dolt!
Who's the "retarded" person?
Bills aren't higher because of Obamacare. They're higher because hospitals charge whatever they want. If one has insurance, bills are lower because the insured is paying the negotiated amount rather than the full cost that the provider pulls out of his ass.
This ex-sheriff - who obviously doesn't believe in socialized medicine - is now asking for society to help pay his bills. He is talking out of both sides of his ass, as are you, my dear sweet uninformed reactionary fish man.
I use Yahoo to keep up with my "myspace" page.
Is marijuana legal where you live? Because if not, you should move.
I will watch Faux and know in my heart that the "news" is the opposite of what they say.
the door is over there (head nod)
I looked for the door... But wasn't sure which way you nodded. :)
this site has morphed into many things. It' always interesting.
The man in the article did not have sex with the woman. She simply lied on a welfare form.
Hopefully he will be able to get out of this. She should be jailed and the kid should go to a good home.
Fathers, and men, have few rights when it comes to support. The court won't address visitation, but will charge a shitload of $$$ anyway.
Don't worry. Just don't play attention to the "mission." I surely don't. :-)
i'm going to have some fun with the site, but it will always be possible to debate whatever you want here.
I still check Patnet, but am tired of the people who are off of their medications. Sure wish they'd take 'em again.