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Women don't ask men out on dates. Well, I won't say never but, certainly nowhere near the % that men do. But yeah, I'd think if I ask someone I am interested in to go to dinner with me, I'd pay. Not only that but, it's a signal that I like her.

My big failing was thinking I had to be married.

It's stupid to play Russian Roulette with a Revolver where there are 3 bullets in the 6-round chamber AND it's the other person that determines where and when the game is played 70% of the time (women file far more often)

Just don't marry them and you can have kids with the least crazy ones (no SSRIs, BiPolar, etc. in her OR her immediate family) that are employed or have licenses, certs, degrees, or extensive work history (very important).

If a woman is into you she won't give a shit.

In the US, paternity is on the birth certificate.

You don't split your assets, pay alimony or spousal support, keep all your shit, and STILL get the visitation rights that are the norm in your state. You pay child support but increasingly, a silver lining from gay marriage, it's calculated with incomes in mind and share of custody.

Think carefully about WHERE you have kids, like Florida which is 50/50 by legal default except in extreme circumstances.

TheAntiPanicanLearingCenter says

You don't split your assets, pay alimony or spousal support, keep all your shit, and STILL get the visitation rights that are the norm in your state. You pay child support but increasingly, a silver lining from gay marriage, it's calculated with incomes in mind and share of custody.

Guess you never heard the legal term 'common law spouse'.

After so many years of cohabitating after marriage, she can go after you just like if you were married.

Granted, very few states have this. But, if you have an established common law marriage in one state, other states have to legally recognize that because of the Full Faith & Credit Clause in the Constitution.

MolotovCocktail says

Guess you never heard the legal term 'common law spouse'.

Only in a few states like California.

But yes, something to keep in mind.

TheAntiPanicanLearingCenter says

Only in a few states like California.

Nope.

California isn't a common law marriage state.

MolotovCocktail says

Glock-n-Load says

I sure wish I could find or download this. I have 2 daughters and some nieces who need to see this.

All the way to the bottom right are three vertical dots. Click on that.

Or just right-click on the video. Works for me anyway.

TheAntiPanicanLearingCenter says

a silver lining from gay marriage, it's calculated with incomes in mind and share of custody

I worked with an Asian woman who got divorced and was furious to find she owed him alimony because her income is higher, and that's how it works in California.

Patrick says

MolotovCocktail says

Glock-n-Load says

I sure wish I could find or download this. I have 2 daughters and some nieces who need to see this.

All the way to the bottom right are three vertical dots. Click on that.

Or just right-click on the video. Works for me anyway.

Got it. I was trying to do it on my phone. Probably better that I wasn't able to because I was ready to send it to my daughter. I think that would have ended badly.

MolotovCocktail says

California isn't a common law marriage state.

California has "Palimony" which is almost as bad, worse in some cases because it leaves too much to the Judge to subjectively rule, and unlike most other states, doesn't require a pre-existing legal contract. "Implicit" claims can be made by the plaintiff.

The threat of a long ass lawsuit where the outcome is nebulous and not predictable along with the total attorney bill is a great way to get an out-of-court settlement.

https://minellalawgroup.com/blog/the-truth-about-common-law-marriage-palimony-in-california/

Lee Marvin, Billy Jean King, Martina Navratilova, etc.

That whole relationship is fucked, in all of the videos.

He's not optimal either, too defensive. He should talk less.

Patrick says

That whole relationship is fucked, in all of the videos.

Yeah, mutual resentment isn't a great foundation for a relationship. The ancient biological imperatives must be observed, and that means a man has to pay to get his sperm anchored.

It's just incredibly easy to field distort women in general in their biologic solipsism, which is why they can so easily be used as a basic tool of subversion.

I think in this particular context, her behavior can be considered to be deceitful.

However, IMHO a woman's first instinct is to evade giving a direct unambiguous answer to a simple question. I think it's hard wired to femaleness - don't offend members of the tribe and keep answers vague, so that everyone can read their desired answer into the wishy-washy response and thus still like the girl.

stereotomy says

don't offend members of the tribe and keep answers vague, so that everyone can read their desired answer into the wishy-washy respons

Sounds like a politician.

HeadSet says

stereotomy says

don't offend members of the tribe and keep answers vague, so that everyone can read their desired answer into the wishy-washy respons

Sounds like a politician.

Politicians cater to the majority of the electorate who are - women.