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I was struck by some of the attitudes toward women on this site, as it's nothing like anything I've encountered in real life. After doing a little research, I've learned the following.

There is a small but growing segment of the population that feels that men get a raw deal in society, and that women get away with all sorts of abuses of men. Some who want to debate this directly on a societal level fall into the Mens Rights Activists. Others, try to study women, and become better at manipulating them for sex. These are the Red Pillers. Collectively, these groups spend time on sites in the Manosphere. These guys (and a few girls) love using the word misandry.

There's a pretty fair appraisal of the red pill reddit here:
http://www.businessinsider.com/the-red-pill-reddit-2013-8

Here is a funny youtube primer on the Manosphere.
https://www.youtube.com/embed/Ew8KPNeEds8

There is a wiki glossary of terms often used on reddits r/theredpill
http://rationalwiki.org/wiki/Manosphere_glossary
The wiki one is much more complete than the reddit glossary, which is here
https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/17xmry/acronym_and_glossary_thread/

If you want to see the red pill in action, go straight to the source: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/

My take on all of this is that most of the red pillers are guys who got emotionally scarred through bad relationships with women. Some were stuck in the 'friendzone,' others were dumped, and some were 'raped' in divorce court. Many of these guys never understood women. A lot of these red pillers thought that they could get a woman to like them by buying them things or being super nice to them. That will never work. Women want to be entertained, laugh, feel good, learn new things, etc. If you can provide that, filter out crazy people, and find someone who shares common interests and beliefs, you can have good reciprocal relationships with women.

To get relief from the emotional pain, these guys have swallowed The Red Pill. The Red Pill gives them two things. First, it provides an excuse for their relationship failures. By showing how it is women's nature that sets nice guys up to finish last, they are relieved from blame. Second, it provides a path forward. After swallowing the Red Pill, going for a satisfying marriage is too risky, so they don't have to take any emotional risks going forward. Also, The Red Pill sites have hookup manual. You just have to follow a few easy steps like hitting the gym, dressing well, and using some game theory when hitting on women. If you do this, you can convince much more women to have sex with you.

It is nice that these guys have some place to go on the internet to get relief. But, it is sad that they have to give up the idea of a productive relationship and make up this intricate story to feel whole. However, much of the game theory on picking up women, such as putting a girl down right before hitting on them works best on emotionally challenged women. So, they are self-selecting women with emotional problems. Plus, these guys are trying hard to become pick up artists, and have demonstrated little understanding on the subject in previous life experience. They are working off of an internet manual. So, it seems like a formula for date rape and false accusations of date rape. This of course is the Red Piller's worst nightmare.

How does this apply to Patrick.net? The RedPillers love to claim that they are not misogynists - that they are just seeking the truth. Further, they suggest that swallowing the red pill is the only way to truly be happy in relationships. Some of them also suggest that you should never admit when you are wrong. Deflection is the best option, because that is all anyone else would do anyway. This seems about right.