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https://www.coffeeandcovid.com/p/bicycles-and-man-problems-saturday

The New York Times is, once again, baffled. This time, over the timeless issue of romance. Yesterday, the mystified Grey Lady ran a poignant, but querulous, story headlined, “Men, Where Have You Gone? Please Come Back.” I could have just told the author: they ran away, terrified! But that would spoil the takedown. And the comments were closed, so she isn’t listening anyway. Anyway, she has her own theory. Hint: it’s all men’s fault:

The piece’s writer, Rachel Drucker, 53, described herself as a divorced former custodian of records for Playboy Magazine. Thanks to her smut-peddling experience, she’s become an expert on men. Or at least, that’s what she thinks. “I came to understand,” Rachel lectured readers, “in exact terms, what cues tempt the average 18-to-36-year-old cis heterosexual man.”

But alas! At 53, Rachel’s bag of transactional smut-peddling tricks is empty. Or at least, she’s shot past the 18-36 runway. Rachel now lives in a rom-com. She described her New York life as though she were a main character in Sex and the City. After one gentleman politely excused himself at the last minute from a date, she got dolled up anyway and took herself out for dinner. Rachel doesn’t need a man! ...

Rather than producing any self-reflection, Rachel’s experiences led her to wonder: what is wrong with men? It was her piece’s quiet fulcrum, the tell or giveaway. Blame others. There’s zero indication that Drucker ever questions the dominant feminist narrative of the last two decades, nor wonders if the “quiet confidence” she admires in the restaurant’s other single, liberal women might feel, from across the gender aisle, like impenetrability or even contempt. ...

Beyond its superficial lament for missing male companionship, Rachel Drucker’s piece was a quiet, stylish elegy for the AWFLs themselves. Beneath the carefully curated pathos arose a more subtle grief: the mourning of a cohort of lonely liberal women who followed the progressive script, built their careers, kept themselves radiant and emotionally literate, and yet somehow wound up alone at the restaurant, surrounded by others just like them.

AWFL women were promised —by feminism 2.0, by culture, by prestige media like the Times— that if they became independent, confident, discerning, self-aware, and empowered, the rest would follow. Sure, patriarchal Prince Charming might not show up, but his liberal, emotionally available cousin would. The even-steven relationship would be better. Mutual. Adult. Female-focused.

But beyond that empty promise lies an even bigger falsehood. The AWFLs were assured they would never need men anyway. A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle. But now the bicycle’s gone missing, and the fish are writing op-eds wondering why the ocean feels so empty.

Hello! Rachel! You told men their services were no longer needed! You sneered that their masculinity was toxic in the workplace. Then they stopped showing up for work. Surprise! Consequences, meet cause.

AWFLs created a zero-sum game where they always win, and wonder why men don't want to play. Under their AWFL rules, if a man leads, he’s controlling, but if he follows, he’s weak. If he pursues, he’s creepy—if he doesn’t, he’s cowardly. If he wins, it’s problematic. If he loses, it’s unattractive. Heads, she’s empowered. Tails, he’s inadequate.

If we want to explain the explosion of men —especially young men— flocking to MAGA, look no further than Rachel Drucker. Thank you, AWFLs. The broader MAGA ethos offers men something feminized liberalism never has: respect for masculinity. Strength, protection, risk-taking, family provision— under MAGA, those are not patriarchal threats; they are cherished virtues. ...

“Young men,” said Charlie Kirk, 31, “are profoundly more conservative than people would have expected and, in fact, are the most conservative generation of young men in 50 years. They want to be part of a political movement that doesn’t hate them.” ...

Which brings us to the ghost in the machine, and the Democrats’ most durable and problematic contradiction. Democrats originally recruited women with a seductive, post-feminist message: you don’t need men. For some women, that might be true. But the maximalist message that no women need men contained its own self-destruct script: men are unnecessary.

In other words, if women don’t need men, why does anybody? ...

Until very recently, the no-man message won elections, since party affiliations are sticky, and the timid GOP feared angering feminist harpies. (And who can blame them?) But, instead of balance, the no-men message demanded cultural reversal. Instead of equality, it demanded erasure. And men, increasingly pathologized, began to opt out of relationships, institutions, and even political engagement, in droves … until Trump lit the bat signal.

Meanwhile, Democrats and their faltering progressive culture offer only ambiguity. What even is a man? Progressivism reduces manhood to a lack of boobs and a fake phallus. Modern liberal dating is even worse: Mandatory consent seminars, tattooed feminists, emotional manipulation to date trans men, chronic fear of offending, recurrent false rape accusations, and skeptical partners programmed to expect male failure. ...

Feminism told women they don’t need men. Now, progressives are shocked to discover that, without men, women don’t need progressives. While liberals keep trying to reverse-engineer political outcomes through ad buys, academic jargon, and technocratic policies, the other side is building (or restoring) culture— or at least, riding the post-feminist backlash wave.

Neither Rachel Drucker nor Democrats have any man problem they can “solve.” They face an irresolvable culture problem. The culture is pulling away from the station, and they are still inside, scolding the ticket clerk for wearing his mask too loosely.

"The Progress Of The Harpy". They are startled to know that they can be toxic enough to scare men away from sex, much less men not paying for it any more. Men won't buy into that sit, no matter how hysterically made up, plasticized or yoga pantsed they are.

The first empty headed feminist screed out of their mouths and they surround themselves in barbed wire and danger signs. They might still have a castrated drone or two in orbit, who fit the feminist gelded archetype, but they still want a dominant man somewhere in their itchy egg baskets.

The lady that does my hair says she knows 'lesbian couples' in the industry that have a zipless fuck night when one or the other can go out and try to get laid by a man. They think it's liberation rather than pathetic surrender.

The 'good news' is that the minority, forebrain-less types who will literally hit on and fuck anything are still out there in abundance for those feminist dafters who think that Netflix represents reality.

Anecdote of a smart woman herewith.
Thursday I and a friend took the truck out to explore out past a popular beach near La Paz.
It was 95F.
About a mile from where people are, we saw a car on the beach.
A woman waving her arms at us, and we drove closer. She got stuck driving her rental car on the beach.
She said she's from Mexico City and working in finance. I noticed a tote bag with Black Rock on it.
We let air out of the tires, and dug a lot of sand away from the wheels, and put the floor mats under them.
No dice, so I had 150 feet of thin rope and doubled it a couple of times, then tied to the axle.
The truck was in 4x4 lo gear, and I started pulling in reverse.
After a while the girl told my friend driving her stuck car: "I forgot to tell you, I engaged the emergency brake."
What a stupid bimbo.
Edit: there is no cell reception, and she was at least a mile from anyone who could drive her back to La Paz; she would have had a tough time walking in the broiling sun.

https://www.coffeeandcovid.com/p/the-bourne-coincydink-monday-june

I think we might be onto something: the women will follow the men. Over the weekend, the New York Times accidentally wrote a love letter to the conservative counterrevolution. Headlined “‘Less Prozac, More Protein’: How Conservatives Are Winning Young Women,” the article meant to sound an alarm but instead read like a recruitment brochure.

The piece covered the 2025 Young Women’s Leadership Summit in Dallas, Texas, hosted by Turning Point USA, where roughly 3,000 sundress-clad twenty-somethings packed into a ballroom to fiercly chant “less feminism, more femininity” and ask pointed questions like “How do I find a husband?” and “What’s the best Bible-based birth control method?” And no, this isn’t satire.

This was the largest conservative women’s event in the country — and according to the Times, it’s doubling in size every year. ...

And it’s working. According to the Times, these women aren’t being dragged rightward by their boyfriends or pastors. They’re empowered, and are leading the charge themselves. They’re cutting birth control, cutting processed foods, and cutting ties with feminism. They’re trading antidepressants for raw milk, and TED Talks for Titus 2. They’re not opting out of modernity. They’re diagnosing it.

Critics sneered at the irony of a “leadership summit” built around telling women to get out of the workforce. But the women didn’t seem confused. They seemed grateful. One college student told the Times she was “so relieved” to finally hear someone say what she’d long felt but couldn’t say out loud: that careerism and hookup culture weren’t fulfilling, and maybe — just maybe — she wanted something older, slower, and saner. ...

The piece highlighted one Rhaelynn Zito, a 25-year-old nurse —a healthcare professional, in other words— who lives in Raleigh. In 2023, she hit bottom. She went through an ugly breakup, lost a family member, and yearned for purpose outside work. Rhaelynn started listening to Alex Clark, whose show is found among the top ten health podcasts on Spotify.

After listening to Mrs. Clark, Rhaelynn said, she no longer identifies as a feminist. It changed her life. She started a Bible study group, cut down on drinking, and stopped dating casually. Instead, she is focused on finding a husband. She stopped using birth control, and has become dubious about abortions and vaccines. ...

Of course, the piece treated the movement like a quirky diet fad —part Goop, part GOP. But what’s really happening here mirrors the same movement among young men returning to faith: disillusionment with nihilism, a longing for order, beauty, tradition, and even —dare I say it— God. Only in this case, it’s wearing sundresses and quoting Proverbs.

Finally, the Times mentioned, but also underplayed, covid’s role:

The pandemic, for many women at the conference, had been a
moment of rupture, of questioning pre-existing beliefs. They were
stuck at home, isolated, uncertain about their futures and in some
cases distressed about the lockdowns and protests in their
communities. They began to seek out new political perspectives.

It was my theme from my Heritage talk. A moment of rupture? What was ruptured? Questioning pre-existing beliefs? Which beliefs? The pandemic shattered our conception of culture, of democracy and freedom, of checks-and-balances. It ruptured everything we’d thought we knew about the world we lived in. The Times can see it, as though through a glass darkly, but still avoids the profound implications.

Here comes The Reckoning.™ And we’re just getting started.

https://elizabethnickson.substack.com/p/is-the-feminist-stronghold-showing

I started the first feminist theatre in Canada. I know this because a grad student did her master’s thesis on Feminist Theatre in Canada (poor thing) and called to interview me. I was 22, and dumb as a rock. ...

I repent here and now. What feminism has become is anathema. I am actually scared of women. I am afraid of their anger, and I am afraid of their cruelty, their harshness, and I see it everywhere. Luckily through my work I have met women who think like me and we are friends and I am not afraid of them. But I shrink from all other friendships. Female friendships today are built on one thing: are you on side? Are you for abortion, against the patriarchy, for Hamas and most recently, the Mullahs, celebrate female politician wins as long as they are on side, ally with the LBGTZQ+ community, etc.? I am none of these things, so were I to venture into ‘women’s spaces’ eventually the furies would plot revenge. I would be cast afloat, thrown into the wild to fend for myself, as an uppity woman would have been in clan or tribal times, to which we are reverting. ...

Feminists did not become women with huge opportunity and the world open, they became men. And not nice ones either. The brutalism in public life is allowed by these women, they prosecute it, they push abortion up to birth, they push euthanasia of the elderly, they push vaccines that kill and maim. They are legalistic, certain that the next law, the next insane leader, will be the magic one that squares the circle, an equally unsolvable task. They have no compassion because they are cosplaying what they told each other a million times, that men were brutal, selfish, heartless. That, they decided, is the route to success and transformation of society in their image. Plus, deliciously, they get to show power and payback. The honk of a laugh of a woman in revenge mode. I’ve heard it and it always shocks me.

Patrick says

Yes, this is true. Does anyone remember all the sob stories on the news about bosses abusing women in the workforce? I think that was in the 80s. The news leads to the future. The news is the pilot of society.

What is AITA?

GNL says

What is AITA?

"I Am The Asshole"?

Ceffer says

GNL says

What is AITA?

"I Am The Asshole"?

I think you meant "Am I the Asshole?" Freudian slip?

Booger says

https://www.perplexity.ai/search/0503fd0b-e2d9-4f06-b6a0-a72496cc08ad

Glock-n-Load says

https://www.perplexity.ai/search/0503fd0b-e2d9-4f06-b6a0-a72496cc08ad

Yes, multiple studies and analyses indicate that porn featuring violence against women is more popular among women than men.

Data from Pornhub and other major porn sites analyzed by Dr. Seth Stephens-Davidowitz, a former Google data scientist, shows that women are more than twice as likely as men to search for videos where women are abused, coerced, or depicted as being raped. About 25% of all straight porn searches by women were for videos featuring violence against women, and 5% specifically for rape scenarios.

Patrick says

Glock-n-Load says

https://www.perplexity.ai/search/0503fd0b-e2d9-4f06-b6a0-a72496cc08ad

Yes, multiple studies and analyses indicate that porn featuring violence against women is more popular among women than men.

Data from Pornhub and other major porn sites analyzed by Dr. Seth Stephens-Davidowitz, a former Google data scientist, shows that women are more than twice as likely as men to search for videos where women are abused, coerced, or depicted as being raped. About 25% of all straight porn searches by women were for videos featuring violence against women, and 5% specifically for rape scenarios.

I’m open and honest to a fault sometimes. I remember attending a party in my early 20s (this was decades ago) and, among 5-6 people (some girls), I mentioned that most women have rape fantasies. That did not go over very well.

Glock-n-Load says

I’m open and honest to a fault sometimes. I remember attending a party in my early 20s (this was decades ago) and, among 5-6 people (some girls), I mentioned that most women have rape fantasies. That did not go over very well.

They have fantasies of being raped by Chad, yes. But being raped by most other men, no.

MolotovCocktail says

Glock-n-Load says

I’m open and honest to a fault sometimes. I remember attending a party in my early 20s (this was decades ago) and, among 5-6 people (some girls), I mentioned that most women have rape fantasies. That did not go over very well.

They have fantasies of being raped by Chad, yes. But being raped by most other men, no.

Yes, I imagine that’s a very important distinction. LOL

Glock-n-Load says

I’m open and honest to a fault sometimes.

Story of my life right there.

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Added video.

The secret: Nitter urls allow right-click to copy the direct link to the video (ending in .mp4) Then you can just paste that link into a comment.

https://newrightpoast.substack.com/p/the-four-commandments-of-reddit

In 2011, a woman blogged about being sexually harassed in an elevator at a male-skewing atheist convention. Richard Dawkins belittled her in his notorious “Dear Muslima” open letter, arguing that Western feminists have it pretty good under liberalism compared to those living under Islam, and should chill out. Dawkins wanted atheists to keep their eyes on the prize, fighting superstition and religiosity in all its forms. He faced fierce backlash from ascendant feminists within his own camp.

The letter:

Dear Muslima

Stop whining, will you. Yes, yes, I know you had your genitals mutilated with a razor blade, and . . . yawn . . . don’t tell me yet again, I know you aren’t allowed to drive a car, and you can’t leave the house without a male relative, and your husband is allowed to beat you, and you’ll be stoned to death if you commit adultery. But stop whining, will you. Think of the suffering your poor American sisters have to put up with.

Only this week I heard of one, she calls herself Skep”chick”, and do you know what happened to her? A man in a hotel elevator invited her back to his room for coffee. I am not exaggerating. He really did. He invited her back to his room for coffee. Of course she said no, and of course he didn’t lay a finger on her, but even so . . .

And you, Muslima, think you have misogyny to complain about! For goodness sake grow up, or at least grow a thicker skin.

Richard

My view is different: Women have ALWAYS been this way, they just didn't have the opportunity and they were aggressively shamed and trained to be less selfish and under their father or husband's control.

See also: Garden of Eden. Perfect Paradise, no work, everything easy. But there was just this one thing... I HAFTA HAVIT!

Interesting numbers, if they are true we are fucked as society

Bd6r says

Interesting numbers, if they are true we are fucked as society

It can't be that high.

RC2006 says

It can't be that high.

I think this is nature's way of human population control.