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I read this yesterday:

https://spectatorworld.com/life/death-ladies-man-sex-lothario/

There used to be a tiny elite of men in London who, whenever their names came up at a dinner party, people would say, “Oh him! He’s slept with everyone!”

Women would laugh — and then confess: yes, they had too. In those days they spoke of these men with great affection and even admiration. They were seen as lovable lotharios; incorrigible and irresistible. Men like me, racked with envy, would sit silently with forced smiles on our faces wondering: how did they do it?

These men weren’t necessarily great-looking, super-successful or rich. They didn’t have charisma or much charm either, and yet they dated one beautiful woman after another. (One of these men dated both the young Rachel Weisz and Gillian Anderson.) What did these guys have that we didn’t?

What they had was audacity. They overtly hit on women, making it perfectly clear what they were about. There's not that much to it. Women may say the opposite, but they really do like audacious men and are willing to sleep with them as long as they can claim it was not their own fault somehow.

Of course these days one needs to quietly keep good records of emails and texts proving it was all consensual, in case of dispute.

There is a vast amount of practical advice at https://heartiste.org/2007/04/09/endless-dating/ I wish that had existed when I was young and unmarried, but I pretty much figured it out anyway.