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lazy people are the most helpful ones in times of crisis.

If you can find a way to motivate smart but lazy people, they are your biggest asset.

On somedays, talking to my boyfriend is akin to banging my head against a wall repeatedly. I accumulate a headache and absolutely nothing happens.

Peter P,

Smart but lazy people are a pain in the ass to manage. Even if you get them momentarily motivated, they're liable go back to their lazy ways.

The bright side is that they're often too lazy to look for more renumerative work.

I guess stupid but lazy people are even worse. Followed by stupid and hypercontrolling people. Followed by stupid, hypercontrolling, passive-aggressives -- maybe that how my boyfriend sees me (okay, so this might be a bad day for me).

Peter P,

Smart but lazy people are a pain in the ass to manage. Even if you get them momentarily motivated, they're liable go back to their lazy ways.

The bright side is that they're often too lazy to look for more renumerative work.

I guess stupid but lazy people are even worse. Worse than that are stupid and hypercontrolling people. Worse than that stupid, hypercontrolling, passive-aggressives -- maybe that how my boyfriend sees me (okay, so this might be a bad day for me).

Worse than that stupid, hypercontrolling, passive-aggressives — maybe that how my boyfriend sees me (okay, so this might be a bad day for me).

You are not stupid. How are you hypercontrolling? Do you ban certain food in your boyfriend's diet?

The post was visible for a while and then it got deleted???

Really? Can you post again?

Thanks... :)

I am exaggerating somewhat. He and I live on opposite coasts, after all.

He likes my cooking. If anything, I overfeed him

The problem is that we had basically agree in principle about what he'll do for the next couple months, but...I feel that he's squandering all his break-from-work time on his fantasy baseball leagues and analyzing network TV programming

Yesterday I asked him to set himself some firm goalposts for the goals we discussed and the phone call basically degraded into me asking him to call me when he's REALLY made up his mind.

In the rest of the world, sports are more of a social thing, as opposed to an addiction in this country.

I heard that in Europe there is a mythical sport called "football" in which a spherical object is kicked around.

GC,

Thank you very much, but I think I'll pass on your relationship advice.

How can I become a poliburo member of this board?

When the time is right you will know.

"He seems to make you feel bad about yourself."

Generally, it's because he's irritatingly well adjusted and rational.

How can I become a poliburo member of this board?

The Patrick.net Politburo just wrapped up one of our weekly world domination planning sessions, but the word is still "no membership for GC", very sorry :-( .

However, you are always welcome to register and request thread-starting rights from Patrick.

Now don’t go giving him any ideas.

Anyone can request. But Patrick has the absolute power here. ;)

Harm, I'm coming around to your view on the other thread. GC is either playing out some parttime antisocial personality online or he really needs help. Generally, I prefer erasing offending posts over banning if the person has some valid things to say, but even I have my ceiling on online Borat impersonators.

The clique dominating this board that is, oh so cool, and oh so sophisticated, and oh so witty, has created a suffocating environment.

The result-

Oh so boring!

justapeon,

We at the Patrick.net Politburo have taken your critique under careful consideration and have expansively debated the ramifications thereof, in a specially convened joint session with the Trilateral Commission. After thoughtful deliberation, we have come to the unavoidable conclusion that you are a tool.

But we thank you for your contribution. :-)

Harm,

Thanks for the note.

Paul

SQT,

I'm sorry that I sometimes give off a bad impression of my boyfriend as somehow highly critical or very flawed. Generally speaking, he is a great person be around and someone who stuck by me through lots of bad times.

Right now is one of the rare times when he's bringing conflict into our relationship. I'm a little worried about him and I feel powerless to help him make up his mind and move forward, so that's mostly what I'm venting here.

"HARM Says:

May 17th, 2007 at 5:10 pm
justapeon,

We at the Patrick.net Politburo have taken your critique under careful consideration and have expansively debated the ramifications thereof, in a specially convened joint session with the Trilateral Commission. After thoughtful deliberation, we have come to the unavoidable conclusion that you are a tool.

But we thank you for your contribution."

Thanks for proving my point.
Enjoy your chosen mental prison!
And pleeeeese shadup about your boyfriend, Astrid.
Oh, go ahead. I'm not coming back.
Your a bunch of bores.
Do you ever wonder why there are so few that hang out here?
Of course not. You are oblivious.
Enjoy your requisite witty, sarcastic ,parting comments!
You are all so clever!
Bye bores!

Astrid, conflicts are not all bad. Life is boring without some conflicts, right? Resolution is the key.

Just give him some time.

Peter P,

That's what I'm hoping for. I am worried though. He's already had two months off and did virtually nothing. He really should be taking summer classes (which he has refused...fine), take the patent bar and study for the LSAT with the free time he has this summer. He agrees with me in principle, but then everytime I call, he's still not done anything.

But it's best not to push him. He did say he had a dream about working the other night. Maybe it just takes a long time to get focused again.

Would be much better if he didn't have fantasy baseball though (at least the TV season is over).

GC,

Since no one left here is likely to be easily offended, I'm not going to ask that comment to be strucken...but it is in extremely bad taste. And if you asked it offline, you deserve to have a drink thrown at you.

And I don't answer that kind of questions, online or offline.

Astrid, sometimes it pays to sit back and think hard about the next step.

I practically squandered seven years of my time working in the wrong career. And I am still doing that.

But it is fine. Even though I am getting old I am still young.

Peter P,

I know. That's why I feel bad about it and I'm giving him space.

I'm not very tolerant of indecisive characters, that's probably what's irritating me the most. I would feel better if he decided to be a subway musician or mountaineer. -- that would be absurd, but it would be something. It's the unwillingness to act or think...(breath, give him more time...well, we'll see)

GC,

You already declared everything women say to be rubbish, more or less, so I'm not surprised by your response. As it is, although my boyfriend has a minor in German, he has no interest in Nietsche.

Anyhow, good luck with your search for a sugar mommy who'll put up with your neuroses. I know I won't be a candidate.

I’m not very tolerant of indecisive characters, that’s probably what’s irritating me the most.

You mentioned he is a Gemini, right? I afraid indecision is something you have to live with.

However, you can also help with the decision making. Who says that the man has to decide on everything? :)

I like playing sports just for the activity. I actually think people who waste half of a Sunday watching someone else play on TV and then actually yelling at their wives when their team loses is pathetic. One of my friends (actually a very bright guy but...) has instilled such an importance on Charger's victories that his little boy cries when they lose. That is so stupid it makes me question who I hang out with.

SQT and Peter P,

Thanks.

My favorite golfer has not won in a while. :(

I want his swing.

"Nigel Swaby"

If you're the real Nigel, which doesn't seem to be the case based on your IP address and email address, get lost. I think there's pretty universal agreement here that you are persona non grata.

If you're not, consider distinguishing yourself from that Nigel Swaby.

Nigel,
I suppose the masses need to feel involved in something. It really is easier than taking their kids fishing. Just sit around and get drunk for 1 out of their only 2 days off, and immerse themselves in something that they have absolutely no control or stake in. Then the next weekend comes by and they get to have that nail biting experience all over again, while being told that their lives won't be complete unless they get the new Chevy Tahoe.

I just wish I was a better uphill hiker. I hiked Dark Hollow Fall yesterday and I was absolutely pathetic. Right now, 75 year old ladies with one bad knee could probably outhike me.

Right now, 75 year old ladies with one bad knee could probably outhike me.

You can outhike me.

Peter P,

Consider hiking in China. Then you can hire a sedan to carry you all the way to the top. :)