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Sex and Housing


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2006 Oct 30, 3:14am   18,090 views  199 comments

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Some men who write to me complain that they know that a house is a horrible deal right now, but their wives want a house pronto, no matter what the cost. I get the feeling many wives are pressuring the husbands to buy, in the obvious way.

I know it's not politically correct to say so, but I think a lot of irrational house purchases are driven by female nesting instincts.

OK, how wrong am I?

Patrick

#housing

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107   DinOR   2006 Oct 31, 3:06am  

"Is southern Oregon really that bad?"

The scenery is wonderful and it really is a beautiful place. The problem is you can't eat scenery. Like Bend "pre-bubble", it's poverty with a view. The recent influx of CA's has introduced some level of sophistication but in most towns the first day of hunting season is the biggest day on the calendar!

108   Glen   2006 Oct 31, 3:07am  

If rich husband searching is an avocation for some women, does bedding hot materialistic women also count as an avocation for some men?

Yes. The hot materialistic women and the rich playboy men deserve (and can have) each other.

109   Randy H   2006 Oct 31, 3:09am  

Markets in action are a beautiful thing to behold at times. Take the "market" for coupling. While there is plenty of superficiality and randomness involved, somehow the "market" seems to "allocate" the proper "resources" to the best fitting "use" of those resources.

Or as FRIFY said, often where you find yourself is more a reflection upon you than upon everyone else.

110   DinOR   2006 Oct 31, 3:11am  

Lowball,

I understand. Even when directed to a single individual this is out of line. I don't know where you're at but I know of no one that's calling for 12% appreciation this year let alone the next 7!

In my business this is a major no-no. We've discussed the utter lack of accountability in RE endlessly. Until we get some measure of ethics installed we can all continue to look forward to these "gunslinger" tactics for some time to come.

111   Peter P   2006 Oct 31, 3:30am  

Markets in action are a beautiful thing to behold at times.

It is beautiful. From a less efficient state to a more efficient state, some people must be harmed. The market will not listen to their whining.

112   Peter P   2006 Oct 31, 3:34am  

Speaking of new architecture...

I do not mind a condo in a building like this. My wife will refuse to set foot in it though...

http://www.socketsite.com/archives/2006/10/were_thinking_gehry_no_not_geary.html

113   astrid   2006 Oct 31, 3:36am  

That building is begging to be brought down - terrorist, landmark commission, earthquakes...it looks like it's in the middle of an earthquake as it stands.

114   Peter P   2006 Oct 31, 3:38am  

it looks like it’s in the middle of an earthquake as it stands.

Perhaps The Big One will straighten it.

115   Peter P   2006 Oct 31, 3:39am  

I have an architect friend who is very much into curves.

I just love the oddity.

116   Peter P   2006 Oct 31, 3:39am  

It is terrorism-proof because the terrorists will feel sorry for it.

117   astrid   2006 Oct 31, 3:53am  

Peter P,

You forget the political market place. Rest assured that the non-share holding "stakeholders" usually find much to complain about.

118   Peter P   2006 Oct 31, 3:55am  

You forget the political market place. Rest assured that the non-share holding “stakeholders” usually find much to complain about.

We can take away their wooden stakes. All they do is poking around with their stakes.

119   EBGuy   2006 Oct 31, 3:58am  

Markets in action are a beautiful thing to behold at times.
And it can be quite interesting to see where the invisible hand turns up... Since we were talking about reinsurance companies recently, I noted an article a while back that SwissRE was starting to become very interested in global warming and the effects of climate driven natural disasters. Wonder when this will trickle down to the consumer (what does your carbon emissions profile look like and how high will the premium be on your gasoline CO2 emitter...)

120   Peter P   2006 Oct 31, 4:04am  

I guess I am just odd for liking apartments in cities.

I also love urban high-rise apartments.

My DREAM primary residence is a condo in 4S Tower or something like that. Must be new and modern.

121   requiem   2006 Oct 31, 4:17am  

Street level windows in cities are just asking for problems; without a good-sized yard to provide an outer perimeter, they're very insecure. (Which may subconsciously gnaw at people.)

122   skibum   2006 Oct 31, 4:21am  

@Peter P,
Sounds like you'd love living in one of those highrises in Vancouver. Ever consider that?

123   DinOR   2006 Oct 31, 4:24am  

requiem,

Interesting.

WRONG! But.........interesting.

There has never been a documented case of someone being able to commit suicide by throwing themselves out of a street level apt. window!

This accounts for Berwyn Illinois' low suicide rate.

124   Jimbo   2006 Oct 31, 4:32am  

Nah, this doesn't feel like a recession to me. Tech in the Bay Area is screaming hot, I know that for sure. But these kinds of things can turn on a dime, I know.

Right now there is a lot of VC money chasing deals.

125   Peter P   2006 Oct 31, 4:45am  

Sounds like you’d love living in one of those highrises in Vancouver. Ever consider that?

We have been priced out of that market. :)

I love Vancouver.

Their bubble will not burst until the global bubble bursts. But it will burst very hard. Probably before the Winter Olympics.

It is not a racially diverse place though.

126   FormerAptBroker   2006 Oct 31, 4:45am  

SFWoman Says:

> Yes, there are men for whom dogging after women
> is a vocation. In the 1980s in NYC there were guys
> who we called ‘model humpers’ because all they
> wanted to do was sleep with models.

All men want to sleep with models, but it’s only in NYC (where there are lots of models) that guys actually have much of a chance of sleeping with one.

Guys in the Mid West can only look at pictures of models while (as they said a few years back on Sex in the City) “NYC is like a giant petting zoo where you can see models in their natural habitat”…

127   requiem   2006 Oct 31, 4:46am  

DinOR,

You were just waiting to use that, weren't you?

Those people in IL are obviously doing it wrong; the plate glass is much less effective if you open the window before going through it.

128   Peter P   2006 Oct 31, 4:47am  

Nah, this doesn’t feel like a recession to me. Tech in the Bay Area is screaming hot, I know that for sure. But these kinds of things can turn on a dime, I know.

It was also very hot in 2000.

Right now there is a lot of VC money chasing deals.

Which means they will be less than careful in spending their money. Disaster ahead.

129   HARM   2006 Oct 31, 4:55am  

Agree w/Randy on the whole gold-digger/trophy wife mutual attraction phenomenon. Most dysfunctional couples that base a relationship on wealth and/or physical attractiveness generally deserve each other. Of course, sometimes one party or the other may be a decent but naive person who simply gets taken advantage of by the other, resulting in genuine heartbreak, which is sad. Overall, though, viewing the dating scene as an "efficient market" is a healthy way to look at it.

Got super lucky with my wife. Like Randy, we married into early poverty, so our relationship was "stress tested" very early on. Can't think of a more reliable way to prove the strength of a relationship than that. Despite whatever crap life throws our way, at least there has never been any doubt in my mind that she married me for love, not money, and will stick by me. That gives me genuine happiness no trophy wife ever could.

130   Peter P   2006 Oct 31, 4:57am  

Got super lucky with my wife. Like Randy, we married into early poverty, so our relationship was “stress tested” very early on.

In your case, the stress test would be getting very rich together. :)

131   Peter P   2006 Oct 31, 4:59am  

“All men want to sleep with models, but it’s only in NYC (where there are lots of models) that guys actually have much of a chance of sleeping with one.”

Is it just me? I think people should only sleep people that they intend to marry.

132   Peter P   2006 Oct 31, 5:04am  

What I like about models is that they are unusual and in some cases quite exquisite.

I rather eat blowfish.

133   DinOR   2006 Oct 31, 5:11am  

FAB,

Couldn't disagree more. My broker dealer is in St. Louis (that's the town just won a World Series AND America's most violent city btw) and the gals that work at the corp. office are "da' bomb". Seriously. What makes them even more attractive is the fact that they don't think of themselves as "hot". Why? B/c they look just like all the other gals that work there!

Could ALL of them become "models"? Well I rather doubt that but they are more than attractive and what's more important they absolutely knock themselves out trying to prove their competence to you!

If ever there is a dispute regarding a comm. or registration issue, they are endlessly patient and polite to the point of a fault. I can't imagine getting that level of dedication and service in NY.

134   HARM   2006 Oct 31, 5:15am  

Is it just me? I think people should only sleep people that they intend to marry.

Peter P,

Wow, and I thought I was old-fashioned when it comes to relationships! :-) I don't think sex before marriage is so bad, as long as you use protection and/or are in a long-term relationship (assuming your religion permits it, of course). We are only human, after all. When I was in my teens & 20s, I must admit I pretty much wanted to nail anything hot looking in a skirt. Hmmm... come to think of it... :twisted:

According to most Left Coasters, your notions of fidelity is "quaint" and "dated", much like your notions of fiscal responsibility. You should consider a New Paradigm relationship, or at the very least a Trophy Mistress. With upgrades.

135   DinOR   2006 Oct 31, 5:18am  

FAB,

If your business doesn't take you to Chicago, St. Louis etc. just watch as the camera pans across the crowd at a Cubs or Sox game (preferably a July game) vice the rail thin Sarah Jessica Parker crowd at Yankee Stadium! They all seem to have very pleasant faces. Will the rest of the long time married guys back me up here? Trust me, anyone that's been married a long time will tell you that you spend a lot more time looking at the other person's face than you do their body! (Just kinda works out that way). Oh...... unless you reside in a nudist colony.

136   Peter P   2006 Oct 31, 5:19am  

I don’t think sex before marriage is so bad, as long as you use protection and/or are in a long-term relationship (assuming your religion permits it, of course).

Well, if you are in a long-term relationship, you do have the presumed bona fide intention to marry, right? :)

137   Peter P   2006 Oct 31, 5:21am  

Trust me, anyone that’s been married a long time will tell you that you spend a lot more time looking at the other person’s face than you do their body!

I am learning to sense their aura instead.

138   DinOR   2006 Oct 31, 5:27am  

Hey! I just heard Reese Witherspoon is now "back on the market" for you ambitious and "discriminating" type fellows! Now if we could just get rid of that ninny Matthew Broderick!

139   Peter P   2006 Oct 31, 5:30am  

Why is crude oil bouncing back? Any ideas?

Why not? They are not making any more oil.

140   Claire   2006 Oct 31, 5:37am  

George

Just point out to your wife to be that renting for now could save both of you $30,000 of your hard earned income or how ever much you think prices will drop in your area - when stated like that I'm sure she wouldn't mind renting for a while - tell her to think of all the stuff she could buy for the house etc for that.

141   DinOR   2006 Oct 31, 5:42am  

Claire,

I'm sure you've just broken some unwritten "code" that women are NEVER supposed to reveal to men! Just another added bonus you can't get anywhere but at Patrick.net!

Actually George should even amplify on that by adding that each dollar they DON'T borrow is 3-4 they don't have to pay back.

142   e   2006 Oct 31, 6:38am  

Fortunately I did not buy a house, & I have a lot of other investments, but I sure paid the price for it.

I think that's the sad part for me. Even with this soft landing, none of my investments have done even closer to what buying would've done in 2002.

In the last 5 years, my 401k has only appreciated 20% - that's total. Not YoY.

Man I suck at investing/speculating. :(

143   skibum   2006 Oct 31, 6:41am  

@eburbed,

Just take ConfusedRenter's advice to heart:

Life is short, got to live it to the fullest! Not in fear or shame, but proud and with destiny!

and everything will work out for you!

144   FormerAptBroker   2006 Oct 31, 6:42am  

SFWoman Says:

> Nah, lots of men don’t like thin women.

Almost all (straight) men like thin women (defined as Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition thin, not 16 year old Heroin Addict thin).

The number of men that “don’t like” thin women (as defined above) is unbelievably small (about as small as the as the number of men that are in to amputees).

There are “lots” of men that “say” they don’t like thin women to make the chunky gal they are with happy (since they couldn’t attract a good looking thin gal).

Lots of people get to a point in life where they “say” that what they have is what they really want (but down deep wish they didn’t have a crappy job, a Geo Metro and a chunky wife)…

145   FRIFY   2006 Oct 31, 6:48am  

Life is short, got to live it to the fullest! Not in fear or shame, but proud and with destiny!

I missed that one. :-)

He's right! But I have a better solution than buying a house! I can accomplish all of these goals by strutting down the street naked, proud and with destiny! It will also only take $500 to bail out my ass after I sober up.

146   Peter P   2006 Oct 31, 6:49am  

Almost all (straight) men like thin women (defined as Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition thin, not 16 year old Heroin Addict thin).

Or Vegan thin.

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