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The problem with my marriage was simple:

I had cute little idiosyncrasies and he had annoying, disgusting habits.

I might add that one of the biggest problems with relationships is that we see the "ideal" Hollywood version of love, where boy meets girl, loses girl, changes his entire life and chases girl down to eventually win her over. There's never a problem, no one sweats, every woman cries "pretty," and there are never any real money problems.

So we look for that in our everyday lives, and it doesn't exist.

I feel she should be catering to my spoiled child while I judge her with my rigid superego. That only seems fair.

Ways to please your man when he arrives home from work (1950's):

Some Don'ts
Don't greet him with problems and complaints. Solve the problems you can before he gets home and save those you must discuss with him until later in the evening. Also, don't complain if he is late for dinner. Count this as a minor problem when compared with what he might have gone through that day. Don't allow the children to rush at him with problems or requests. Allow them to briefly greet their father but save demands for later.

http://www.tealdragon.net/humor/rules/50swoman.htm

The words to "Put Another Log on the Fire" a country song by Tompall Glaser:

Put another log on the fire, cook me up some bacon and some beans,
Go out to the car and change the tire, wash my socks & sew my old blue jeans
c'mon baby you can fill my pipe, and then go fetch my slippers... and boil me up another pot of tea
Then put another log on the fire, babe, and come and tell me why you're leaving me.

Don't I let you wash the car on Sunday?
Don't I warn you when you're getting fat?
Ain't I gonna take you fishing with me someday? Well, a man can't love a woman more than that.
Ain't I always nice to your kid sister? Don't I take her driving every night?
Then sit here at my feet, 'cause I like it when you're sweet...
And you know that it ain't feminine to fight.

(Great classic song)