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Well I think you are ahead. A man should first have the choice to not pay child support if the child is proven by DNA to not be his. In several states, a man has to pay child support under threat of jail-even if it was proven that the child was not his!!

Yes, that one should come first, because it is even more unfair to men.

One more proposal: mandatory paternity testing at birth, so that there is absolutely no doubt about whose child it is.

Added link to this page on reddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/5oxcgn/mens_choice_movement/ so here's a link back to them.

rando says

A man should have the choice to refuse to pay all child support if he did not explicitly ask for and want the woman to have the child.

So the child should live in poverty, or somebody else should pay for it?

lostand confused says

A man should first have the choice to not pay child support if the child is proven by DNA to not be his.

This I agree with.

rando says

mandatory paternity testing at birth

This too.

FP says

So the child should live in poverty, or somebody else should pay for it?

Women should not give birth to children that the man does not want. If the man says no, it's still her choice: child with poverty, or no child.

If she's religious and feels she cannot have an abortion, then she probably wouldn't be pregnant to begin with. And if it happened, well, the traditional solution was adoption.

Ironman says

How about taking responsibility to use birth control, so the baby part doesn't even happen in the first place????

Woman are assumed to have zero agency of their own.

A man should have the choice to smoke some grass if he so chooses, but you nitwits sat there all complacent because you thought the unAmerican laws were just for the blacks.

First they came for the Socialists, and I did not speak out—
Because I was not a Socialist.

Then they came for the Trade Unionists, and I did not speak out—
Because I was not a Trade Unionist.

Then they came for the Jews, and I did not speak out—
Because I was not a Jew.

Then they came for me—and there was no one left to speak for me.

https://www.google.com/amp/mobile.nytimes.com/2017/01/18/health/rate-of-us-abortions-hits-lowest-since-roe-v-wade.amp.html?client=safari

While I do not like the idea of a child growing up in poverty, and would not allow this for any child of mine. But, there is no reason a woman can make this decision and it is immoral for a man to make the same decision. He is not the only one who can choose to use birth control. BTW, I would expect a rapist (legally proven in court) to pay for the child's upbringing.

Patrick says

If she has the right to refuse responsibility for the baby, he should also have the right to refuse responsibility for the baby.

Absolutely, and for the exact same reasons.

And women should consider whether or not the man is going to accept being a father when deciding if to become a mother. A child is a responsibility, not an accessory.

Ironman says

Patrick says

If she has the right to refuse responsibility for the baby, he should also have the right to refuse responsibility for the baby.

How about taking responsibility to use birth control, so the baby part doesn't even happen in the first place????

Sometimes it's a trap. She wants the kid and the money. Our even just the money.

This trap catches rich men all the time.

lostand confused says

A man should first have the choice to not pay child support if the child is proven by DNA to not be his. In several states,

If consent to have sex were consent to have a child, then abortion would not be a right. Equal rights under law for all requires that men cannot be forces to become fathers against their will.

rando says

One more proposal: mandatory paternity testing at birth, so that there is absolutely no doubt about whose child it is.

This should happen automatically, not only to protect men from massive fraud, but also to protect the baby from misinformation. Having misinformation about your genetic background and family medical history is far worse than having no information.

Of course, pseudo-feminists will venomously oppose this as it would expose a lot of paternity fraud.

rando says

Sometimes it's a trap. She wants the kid and the money. Our even just the money.

Our society should require a license to become a parent. To get the license you must prove
- you are financially capable of supporting a child (having at least $100k of savings and zero debt)
- you are financially stable (having an income of at least $50k/yr uninterrupted for each of the past 5 years)
- you are emotionally stable (no depression or bipolar issues)
- you are educated about being a parent (testing)

If a man & woman get pregnant,they should be executed.
~7.5 billion is a enough.
If they cared about this planet they would commit suicide.

rando says

If the man says no, it's still her choice: child with poverty, or no child.

So you are willing to sacrifice the child to make it fair for men. I am not willing. When we can't it make fair for everybody, we have to prioritize according to our values.

FP says

So you are willing to sacrifice the child to make it fair for men.

Isn't it the woman who is sacrificing the child if she chooses to have it in poverty?

She's also putting society on the hook as well.

rando says

FP says

So you are willing to sacrifice the child to make it fair for men.

Isn't it the woman who is sacrificing the child if she chooses to have it in poverty?

You think she should be forced to have an abortion?

If not, then you are fine with stamping the blame on her and letting the child live in poverty?

FP says

So the child should live in poverty

If the mother to be is too stupid to get an abortion, yes.

FP says

You think she should be forced to have an abortion?

If not, then you are fine with stamping the blame on her and letting the child live in poverty?

What? How did you jump to the idea that she should be forced to do anything? I never suggested any force.

I'm just saying that the man should have an equal right to decide on whether he wants to accept responsibility for the baby.

She has a right to choose. The man should have an equal right to choose.

Or do only women have rights?

"For the good of the child" seems to be coded speech for "whatever the woman wants".

Lawyers make a rather large % of their cases based on child rights laws. A law that would create an out for a mans responsibility would trim up to 10-20% of total Lawyers annual salaries.

Regardless of the merit of the idea - its not going to happen.

It will happen if the idea of equal rights can be presented to most men. This is part of that effort.

Dan8267 says

Our society should require a license to become a parent. To get the license you must prove

- you are financially capable of supporting a child (having at least $100k of savings and zero debt)

- you are financially stable (having an income of at least $50k/yr uninterrupted for each of the past 5 years)

- you are emotionally stable (no depression or bipolar issues)

- you are educated about being a parent (testing)

There are people in the public sector, Child Support, Child Welfare, Social Work, Country Childcare, School vouchers, city workers involved in daycare liscensing.

Again, the economy for assistance of low salaried husbands/wife and moms for the public sector is nearly a $Trillion dollar industry for the public sector. That those who work in the government assistance of poor families(who work in the private sector doing nearly all the menial work) - typically make 2-4X what the people make whom that are "helping".
A great financial analysis would be:
1. Determine the ratio of Fed/State/Local Jobs spent on low income assistance, (childcare/housing/school meals/welfare).
2. Sum up all the salaries and other direct costs of these child assisting public sector jobs from all states, fed, counties, cities.
3. Sum up all the cum salaries of the low income folks warranting the assistance to supplement their resources from all states, fed, counties, cities.
Divide #2/#3. If the ratio is greater than 0.4 suggest taking all the funds and giving them to the states, and gradually reducing the "public sector" children/family advocates by reassigning/attrition.
4. States take $$ that was spent on Public Sector children/family advocates (which in California would be in excess of $2.5 Billion per year) and spend 1/3rd of it on public works projects, 1/3rd on tax incentives to hire historically low income people, 1/3rd directly to the poor.

Another Idea.

Even time I go to the store, I see KGs of meat and chicken and other organic good near expiry.

What would a cost/benefit analysis be if we have "Freddie Mac" making food available to the needy?

- Provide Stores Tax incentive for food donations within 3-5 days of expiring.
- Stores could write off up to $4000 / per day of the retail costs (like income tax have a form Groc101 which is you donated food, the store could write off 25% of the retail cost of the food.
- Thus a store would have to donate $16K worth of food to get a daily $4K write off.
-Before you write off my idea, it likely costs $30K/day to run an supermarket (not counting the wholesale costs of food/goods recieved). So the savings to the store in some cases could approach 10% of costs. --Thus, the cost of labor to support the Donation of food would be nearly paid for.

FREE THE SPEWING DICKS! FREE THEM ALL!

For the sake of argument here, I hold the following to be true:

- The premise that men and women should be equal only makes sense if you are talking to a feminist.
- It is not the case that women and men are equal. They have different roles and responsibilities.
- Having a baby or not is her choice. It is basically deciding what to do with her body or not.
- A woman having a baby is not putting society on the hook, it has a net positive effect on society once the baby becomes a productive adult member.
- Women always bear a disproportionate portion of the cost in time of parenthood.
- The role of men in every society is to provide resources for the society to perpetuate itself, i.e. share resources with mothers who are spending their times on the child rearing task.
- It is obvious that men would benefit greatly from denying this support role and just keeping resources for themselves to enjoy life.
- Thus society needs a mechanism to force men to contribute their due whether through marriage or child support. If men could opt out of child support, then I would say all childless adults should pay a special tax as a compensation that would used to help single parents.

Discuss.

BTW, if a man consents to responsibility for the baby, he should be held to it. I'm not suggesting that men be able to give up responsibility after accepting it.

The key word is consent. For a woman to have a baby without the man's consent should free the man from forced payments. You would not force a woman to have a baby without her consent, so you should not force a man to be financially responsible for it without his consent.

Ideally, we'd all have children in normal marriages and none of this would matter. The problems start when women demand to have greater rights than men, as they do now.

Heraclitusstudent says

Thus society needs a mechanism to force men to contribute their whether through marriage or child support

So therefore you also agree than society needs a mechanism to force women to have babies, right? ;-)

Probably you don't agree to that. Just to forcing men to pay.

rando says

So therefore you also agree than society needs a mechanism to force women to have babies, right? ;-)

I would give men a chance to opt out but put a tax on childless adults (above say 30), including women. Having a baby would move them from support provider to supported.

Single parents could be men too and receive support as such.

rando says

What? How did you jump to the idea that she should be forced to do anything? I never suggested any force.

Good, I didn't think you did, just wanted to clarify this as it is the starting point.

Once we accept this, the situation between men and women becomes asymmetrical. They cannot have equal rights. If you want to give more rights to men, in this particular case about child support, you are taking them from the children.

FP says

Once we accept this, the situation between men and women becomes asymmetrical. They cannot have equal rights. If you want to give more rights to men, in this particular case about child support, you are taking them from the children.

I disagree. The situation between men and women would become symmetrical. Her choice and his choice. Not just her choice alone.

They can indeed have equal rights, and it would be very simple and fair to implement.

Giving men the same rights as women takes nothing from children. It is the woman's choice to have the child or not. The child has no say under any conditions.

Women can have children in poverty any time they want, right now. Giving equal rights to men would not change that.

All I'm suggesting is fairness outside traditional marriage.
Traditional marriage and motherhood is a far better solution for everyone, but that has been soundly and loudly rejected by feminism.

Heraclitusstudent says

The premise that men and women should be equal only makes sense if you are talking to a feminist.

1. Define feminist
2. Define equal. Are you talking about equal rights (equality under the law) or something else?

Heraclitusstudent says

Having a baby or not is her choice. It is basically deciding what to do with her body or not.

It's more than that. It starts out as just that when the egg is fertilized, but by the time the baby is about to be born, it's not just about the mother. A baby one minute before birth is not materially different from a baby one minute after birth. So yes, there is a time limit before the rights of the offspring must be considered. That doesn't happen at fertilization, but it does happen before birth.

Heraclitusstudent says

- A woman having a baby is not putting society on the hook, it has a net positive effect on society once the baby becomes a productive adult member.

1. No. The fact that we have financial safety nets like food stamps, assisted housing, public schooling, etc. means that there is most certainly a non-zero cost to society when a woman has a baby, and even more so when poor women have babies. In fact, there is considerable cost. We spent a lot of our local government spending and land on children from schools to parks to child-related services.

2. Not all people become net-productive people. I question if even half the people in our society contribute more than they consume.

Heraclitusstudent says

Women always bear a disproportionate portion of the cost in time of parenthood.

Yes, but this is irrelevant to the questions of
- whether or not men should have the right to opt in to parenthood
- whether or not there should be licensing for parents

Women have always had the better deal when it comes to reproduction. Barring death or infertility, they are guaranteed reproductive success if they want it. For women, reproduction is a right. For men, it's a privilege. There was a PatNet thread referencing that throughout history only about 5% of males actually reproduced and that changed only recently (past 1000 years or so).

Second women are guaranteed parental certainty. Without paternity tests, men have no such guarantee.

Heraclitusstudent says

The role of men in every society is to provide resources for the society to perpetuate itself, i.e. share resources with mothers who are spending their times on the child rearing task.

Should this be the purpose of man? To be a slave?

Heraclitusstudent says

It is obvious that men would benefit greatly from denying this support role and just keeping resources for themselves to enjoy life.

From an evolutionary perspective, this is a self-correcting problem. Simply require females to choose mates that will provide support and you'll get future generations in which men are supportive. If such support turns out to be unnecessary because women can support the children themselves and choose to shop for the best looking men rather than the best supportive men, then again, by evolution this is a self-correcting problem. Men cease to be needed for economic productivity and become simply peacocks. And if that is to be their function, then fine. Under such a system men should just be exercising, pruning themselves, fucking women, and playing x-box. If anything, women should be taxed to pay for the living expenses of all men in such a society. Men would just be reproductive children, but evolution is a-OK with that.

Heraclitusstudent says

Thus society needs a mechanism to force men to contribute their due whether through marriage or child support. If men could opt out of child support, then I would say all childless adults should pay a special tax as a compensation that would used to help single parents.

This argument is essentially, society needs slaves. The degree of slavery might vary, but it can never be zero. As a liberal, I reject that position.

The solution is to restrict reproduction to those who are licensed after demonstrating financial solvency. Any woman who violates this restriction gets fined and denied all social services including housing subsidies and food stamps.

Dan8267 says

Heraclitusstudent says

- A woman having a baby is not putting society on the hook, it has a net positive effect on society once the baby becomes a productive adult member.

1. No. The fact that we have financial safety nets like food stamps, assisted housing, public schooling, etc. means that there is most certainly a non-zero cost to society when a woman has a baby, and even more so when poor women have babies. In fact, there is considerable cost. We spent a lot of our local government spending and land on children from schools to parks to child-related services.

2. Not all people become net-productive people. I question if even half the people in our society contribute more than they consume.

Yes the costs are heavy, and it should be obvious that all these costs are absorbed always by adult working people and we still have resources left to eat, provide for the sick and the retired, etc... that proves that human beings on average are net producers even considering the cost of childhood, education, retirement and sickness when these human beings have to rely on others.

Heraclitusstudent says

Yes the costs are heavy, and it should be obvious that all these costs are absorbed always by adult working people and we still have resources left to eat, provide for the sick and the retired, etc... that proves that human beings on average are net producers even considering the cost of childhood, education, retirement and sickness when these human beings have to rely on others.

You are almost as bad at math and logic as Marcus. Average and median are not the same thing. The median person can easily be net-negative productivity while the average is net-positive. Furthermore, environmental degradation means that we as a society can be net-negative productive while still having resources left to eat, provide for.... etc., at least for some time.

Dan8267 says

This argument is essentially, society needs slaves. The degree of slavery might vary, but it can never be zero.

Call it what you want: it's what always happened, and will always happen, however you feel about it.
The notion that women will slave to raise children and provide for them while men care only for themselves is silly.
Civilization relies on sounds education and this cannot happen without men support.

Dan8267 says

You are almost as bad at math and logic as Marcus. Average and median are not the same thing. The median person can easily be net-negative productivity while the average is net-positive. Furthermore, environmental degradation means that we as a society can be net-negative productive while still having resources left to eat, provide for.... etc., at least for some time.

I've just showed that on aggregate (doing the sum) human beings are necessarily net positives. Divide that by the number of people and ON AVERAGE human beings are net positives.
Here's for your math, Einstein.

Heraclitusstudent says

Dan8267 says

This argument is essentially, society needs slaves. The degree of slavery might vary, but it can never be zero.

Call it what you want

What it's called is irrelevant. It's slavery by any name.

Heraclitusstudent says

It's what always happened, and will always happen, however you feel about it.

How I feel about it is irrelevant to my argument. The messenger is always irrelevant.

Second, just because something has always happened in human history does not mean it has to continue to happen. A mere two hundred years ago, you could truthfully said that most children died before reaching adulthood and that's the way it's always been. Is it true today, though?

Also just because something never happened in human history does not mean it won't be common from now on. Before 1903 no human had ever flown. Now it's common. Before 1940 no human had ever used an electronic computer. Now you have one in your pocket. Before 1975 no person owned his own computer. A decade later they were common household items. Before 2000 no one had smartphones and digital video cameras, now they are cheap. Yes, there are new things under the sun every day.

I appreciate the sentiment of the thread, but I'd like to step back a bit. If you agree to marry someone, your vows should mean something. For rich or for poor, in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, till death do you part. Where the fuck does it say "Until I get bored", or " Until its too much hassle". Life isn't easy, marriage takes work.
Now if you decide to have a child in your marriage, shouldn't that child have a choice? Shouldn't the child have human rights? And shouldn't you do everything, absolutely everything in your power to raise that child in the best environment possible, with a mom and a dad? Money NEVER replaces parents.

But what about outside of marriage, you didn't agree to be with this person forever. You made no vows. Fine, then WHY THE FUCK are you having a child with them.

Men's rights are important, as are all humans rights. But I think as a man or woman we suck it up and sacrifice some of our rights because children are more vulnerable, weaker, and we have a duty to raise our children ourselves.

Heraclitusstudent says

I've just showed that on aggregate (doing the sum) human beings are necessarily net positives. Divide that by the number of people and ON AVERAGE human beings are net positives.

Here's for your math, Einstein.

1. Your math is wrong because you aren't taking into consideration environmental degradation including pollution and resource exhaustion.
2. The average being positive would not imply, in any way or form, that the average or median baby born to poor women grow up to net produce.
3. The greater the population, the less productive each person is due to resource contention. If this were not the case, then an infinite population would be best. Obviously an infinite population is not best, or even possible, therefore there most be some point where population increases are net bad.
4. China empirically disproves your hypothesis that greater populations is best for economic productivity. China had to go to extremes to get its population under control.
5. Ditto for Africa. African women having lots of babies is one of the chief causes of starvation. It's the tragedy of the commons.

I never said greater populations is best for economic productivity. I said on average, whether the population is growing or shrinking, human being are net producers.
All the rest is straw man.