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My wife paid for our wedding because I didn't have any money and had just got my first job back in California. The wedding was in a beautiful old Church just off the French Quarter in New Orleans.

I guess it worked because she still has me. Some women never learn.

Any guy who marries today must be nuts or mega rich.

We all want personal privacy, personal space, personal retirement accounts, lock our phones so dimwits can't read our texts, we lock pictures in separate folders, etc. etc.

But, some guys mysteriously want to allow the government into their 1. personal life 2. personal assets

The same government with the encouragement of a female who can't control her emotions nor her innate (in her DNA) greed will go enter your life in every respect.

Renting is vastly superior to owning expensive things like women.

I think that one point of an expensive wedding is to increase the husband's sense of commitment and obligation.

Bride: "Look at how much my parents paid for this wedding!"

It's all about getting or increasing commitment from the husband. This is why expensive engagement rings are normal as well. It is a proof of the guy's commitment.

On the other hand, all this depends on the norm of strict sexual loyalty of women. Men were willing to pay a lot and commit themselves to marriage in order to get sex from a virgin who would be socially pressured to be loyal. This guaranteed that children from that marriage would really be his own. When women are no longer virgins at their weddings, they just don't seem as valuable to men. The risk of cuckolding and raising some other guy's kid is higher.

Women started sleeping around a lot as soon as the pill came out because they could do it with essentially no risk of pregnancy. Ultimately the pill was a disaster for monogamy and marriage.

The only time my wife was able to save anything before we got married was the $8K she saved for the wedding. I paid for basically nothing except the wedding rings. She even bought her own engagement ring.

Such are the benefits of being a situational alpha at the time.

In return I gave her the love of her life - her son, and managed everything else except cooking, cleaning, and her son's education. She does the SAHM thing.

Is life perfect now? Hell no, but my wife can actually think rationally for limited periods of time. Dread game keeps things in check when rationality fails.

If it's a fun and memorable wedding spending money is fine. But that should be separate from expectations around the durability of the marriage as womyn, and sometimes even men, are loose cannons. If you don't want to have family and kids go with the above advice and never get married. Otherwise roll the dice and make sure you earn enough fuck you money.

I told my wife before the wedding, "I hope our wedding day is the worst day of our marriage, because then it can only get better."

Idiots doing the "Princess" weddings ruin the marriage by creating unrealistic expectations in the bride. Nothing could ever live up to the dream wedding she had, etc.

A wife's greatest virtues are humility, loyalty, and empathy.