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I didn't mean the prices are going up like the Energizer Bunny, although yes, they are still going up as the "rich foreigners" make their competing offers. But I was referring to the household spending in The Fortress residents my partner and I know as colleagues is going on like the Energizer Bunny, - cars, international travel, private tuition, NorthFace casual wear, etc. We are their colleagues, but my casual wear is from Target, except for the ones I got at Wal-Mart.

Wearing designer clothing, fancy cars, buying homes, and vacations doesn't mean they have family money. It's all about living paycheck to paycheck, credit cards, leasing cars, helocs, and option arms. This whole charade can be kept up for years and is the reason our economy is in the shitter. We went thru this discussion years ago. The whole "magical foreign money" argument was used to explain the explosion in Florida and Vegas house prices because there was no way to disprove it (until prices collapsed)

I'll give you a hint Sybrib - rich people don't just magically get rich, unless they are born from rich families. And rich people don't just magically stay rich while squandering all of their money. You see a family that is "wasting" money on private schools, houses in nice neighborhoods, nice cars, etc, but what you don't see is that their parents probably saved for generations and worked hard their whole lives to get there. In asian culture, kids who waste money are not trusted with more money.

You see people that seem "entitled" and don't have to work for their money. What I see are dual income families approaching half million annual income that have been saving money their whole lives and probably have very little debt. They probably have purchased their homes on a 15 year mortgage, made extra payments, and either paid it off already or have paid down the principal significantly. Their kids might go to Stanford but when they get out they'll be making six digit income and paying it back into the family. Asian families work great together because it's like a business venture where everyone that is able to generate income makes it for the family and invests in land and other assets.

I can see how you might be bitter and resent people for living like this, but they are just doing it better than you are. I'm sorry, but with your single income job and small savings, you haven't accomplished nearly as much as them. You can't hold that over their head because they worked harder than you, got more education than you, and were willing to sacrifice more than you.

Just do the best you can with what you have available to you.

lyoungblood says

I’ll give you a hint Sybrib - rich people don’t just magically get rich, unless they are born from rich families. And rich people don’t just magically stay rich while squandering all of their money. You see a family that is “wasting” money on private schools, houses in nice neighborhoods, nice cars, etc, but what you don’t see is that their parents probably saved for generations and worked hard their whole lives to get there. In asian culture, kids who waste money are not trusted with more money.
You see people that seem “entitled” and don’t have to work for their money. What I see are dual income families approaching half million annual income that have been saving money their whole lives and probably have very little debt. They probably have purchased their homes on a 15 year mortgage, made extra payments, and either paid it off already or have paid down the principal significantly. Their kids might go to Stanford but when they get out they’ll be making six digit income and paying it back into the family. Asian families work great together because it’s like a business venture where everyone that is able to generate income makes it for the family and invests in land and other assets.
I can see how you might be bitter and resent people for living like this, but they are just doing it better than you are. I’m sorry, but with your single income job and small savings, you Phaven’t accomplished nearly as much as them. You can’t hold that over their head because they worked harder than you, got more education than you, and were willing to sacrifice more than you.
Just do the best you can with what you have available to you.

ok I have a few issues with your comment: 1st, Sure in general Asians are better savers and usually work together as a family to accumulate wealth, but they are not immune to investment losses and market forces. 2nd, in general first gen immigrants are the savers, their kids..not so much. Many of them are spoiled entitled brats that get what they want easily. I have a relative who gave me crap about owning a big (tube) TV and throwing my money away renting. Later she buys her kid an brand new BMW to drive to college. pssha Yeah they were frugal all their lives but now their investment homes are barely above water if not under. And their kid can't hold a job after finishing engineering school. Yes he still has the car and has dropped who knows how much $ "modifying" it. (ie. Fully "riced out" with gaudy wing and body kit)