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I'm sorry to hear about your tragedy. Spend as much time with her as you can, she won't be there forever. I had family members die too, and every time I had regrets of not spending enough time with them.

As far as house, I believe it will be a probate property between you and your brother. Here is an faq.
http://www.scselfservice.org/probate/prop/frequentlyaskedquestions2.htm
You can also Google "CA probate law".

Thank you, Chris, I will read the info. on the link you posted. I know her net worth has got to be under 100K, so it may not be probated. We just lost our mom in Oct. so we are stunned at my sister's illness. Life is so unpredictable.

May you get the strength to pull through your tough times. God bless u.

Thank you Bubblesitter, I sure need it right now!

PN:

By chance can you afford to speak to an estate attorney asap: perhaps even have the attorney go to your sister if she can not make the trip. It may be invaluable to your sister for any planning she may wish to do, and for you when unfortunately things must be sorted out later. If you can not, perhaps Legal Aid can at least give you some timely advice and guidance.

If you call and explain the situation, I am sure at least one or two will try to accommodate the circumstances as best everyone can. Best of luck and I'm so very sorry to hear about this. My best wishes to you and your family.

I am sorry to hear. Please ask to speak to an estate attorney asap. There is a boyfriend in the picture, so you never know how the decision will be made.

She has spoken on the phone to an excellent estate atty my brother knows. I think she is leaning towards leaving her estate to her "friend." He is her ex husband and best friend. He is the one in the trenches caring for her and we adore him, he is a good guy. I think she is being stubborn and in denial about her illness so she not committing to anything. We don't want her house or her money, we want her to decide where it should go....

If she's in pain she needs hospice. if she doesn' t have health insurance, call around and one will take her on anyway.

My cousin died, said she had a will but her mentally ill (greedy) boyfriend was able to discard it. She was worth quite a chunk of change. He cared for her and so I figure it's a wash - but I wish he had kept some of her personal items for the family.

Yes, she has insurance, Kaiser, and she's in the hospital right now. I think the end is pretty near. She will most likely be released to hospice care. She is comfortable and on morphine. We won't be able to do a Trust but we have spoken to an atty. In CA if you die "in testate," everything technically freezes for 3 or 4 months before probate. We will just have to deal with it then. Her friend who's caring for her is staying with her at the hospital day and night, but I don't think he wants her house after all, too many memories. He will probably move up to Barstow where his family is. The home will go to my brother and I and neither of us want it either. I guess we will find out our options when the time comes, but right now we need to focus on my sis's remaining time on this planet
Thank you all for the comments.