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Should I pay for mortgage or for a private school?


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2011 Mar 28, 7:38am   32,913 views  138 comments

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If you had a child that is about to start school this year, would you:

1. Pay at least 700K for a house to live in an area where she can go to public school
2. Pay 450K to live in area where she needs to go to a private school (which is ~12-15K a year)
3. Rent 2K to live in area where she needs to go to a private school (which is ~12-15K a year)
4. Rent 3.5K where she can go to public school

I am dumbfounded and so tired of thinking about making a jump and buying.

We have a very high income (projecting 230K combined this year)
We cna put 20% down.

#housing

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99   cloud13   2011 Mar 31, 8:03am  

I looked for years in 95124 and know every street in and out , so here is my take on it.

I bought near houge park , this area is marked as free zone-1 on leigh high school map.
So our high school is going to be Leigh high and elementary would be Farnham elementary and then the middle school is Price Charter middle.
Farnham elementary is the only school in 95124 whcih offers after day care until 5:00 PM (great for working parents) and it cost only $200 per day.
There is a YMCA whcih all the kids access for free who goto Farnham and ofcourse the API is 858.
One of my neighbour who is a director in Apple sends his 3 kids there and his wife volunteers in Farnham (prolly both of them don't have to work anymor :-) ).
There are some SJPD cops who send their kids to Farnham. To me After Day Care was very important because both of us are working parents.

So coming back to my original point, Look at Leigh High School's map and buy in Free Zone-1, doing this you won't have to pay too much for south of 85 and your kid will still attend the Leigh high school. Another good thing about Free Zone-1 is that All the homes here have very large lots ( around 9000 sq feet)

100   junkmail   2011 Mar 31, 8:30am  

It doesn't matter. Either your kid has it or they don't. You can make yourself go broke paying for good schools, doesn't mean they will be a good student or successful.

My wife finally agrees with me on that (took her 16 years to though)

My kid has been to private, public-magnet, higher learning SAS, now a REALLY fancy boarding school on the west coast... last year he got suspended for drugs. He get's drug tested at school now... not sure if his scholarship will hold up next year, which means he's out because I'm not paying full amount $45,000 for high school (are you crazy?)

Truth is he was a great kid (still is but I'm biased)... but he hit teenager at 100mph and went off the rails. Now he's pretty lost and doesn't know what to do etc... Not going to bore you with my life...

But it shows, amazing kids come out of shitty schools and dullards exit private expensive ones. I believe the onus falls on me as the parent to create a viable seed, not the school. So something went wrong there. I went to public schools all my life and have done fairly well for myself. I look at my kid and he's had it jammy... great schools all the way down the line. Problem is we (wife and I) have created a being that I can't really relate to. His experience and mine were worlds apart and the truth is I don't think it's been that beneficial.

So my advice is... try put your kid through the same experience you went through, it will make you closer, you'll have the same values and hey... if you can afford all the things mentioned above... the same experience should set them up in the same position come later life. Options are good.

101   Fisk   2011 Mar 31, 8:35am  

cloud13 says

Farnham elementary is the only school in 95124 whcih offers after day care until 5:00 PM (great for working parents) and it cost only $200 per day

$ 200 per day ??!!!

102   ShakeQuail   2011 Mar 31, 8:44am  

I wasn't going to bother with this thread but here I go ....

Forget high school completely. This is not our HS anymore. The 'American Graffiti' era is over; one can't waste those years going fishing, hanging out at diners, or drag racing with pals. Today's world is about FaceBook bullying and dysfunctional behaviors.

Homeschool your kids. Have them take college classes part-time, then full time, and either transfer into a regular BS/BA program (junior yr), circa age 17, or one of the continuing ed programs (at even top tier schools have these); many schools confer BS/BA degrees in nontrad ways.

Now, instead of looking into the standard way, (see aforementioned BS/BA completion path), look at condensed postgrad programs in pharmacy, nursing, physician's assistant, or some other licensed field. This way, your kids will be clearly in a line of employment by ages 20-22, instead of just another degree holder. And for medicine/law, really, one needs to rock the MCAT/LSAT more than anything else.

Traditional brand name colleges are really there for fields like let's say management consulting or finance where recruiters specifically only pick up candidates from let's say Univ of Chicago, Columbia, Stanford undergrad for junior analyst positions. If you child wants to do the above, he/she needs to do high school on his own, finish a part-time BA (reduced costs), & transfer to a 1-2 yr post-grad program at Wharton, London Univ, or an MS program at Univ of Chicago but at a relatively early age, like 20 or 21. This shaves off 2+ years of tuition and costs and still suffices for those elitist fields which require the *pedigree* (but no actual knowledge). Another way, of course, is to start one's own hedge fund but that's another story.

103   OO   2011 Mar 31, 8:47am  

Fisk says

cloud13 says

Farnham elementary is the only school in 95124 whcih offers after day care until 5:00 PM (great for working parents) and it cost only $200 per day

$ 200 per day ??!!!

should be a month. Or everyone will be sending their kids to private schools. In the Bay Area, the only advantage of private school vs public school is that you don't have to pay for after-school, which is a saving in itself. The other more subtle advantage is networking among parents, but you have to belong to the same class (for elite private schools). Otherwise, your kid is gonna come home from PBS asking why you are not taking them to a long weekend ski vacation to the Alps like Jimmy's parents.

104   allysally   2011 Mar 31, 8:47am  

just don't forget that in areas like when you have a super high mortage and a super high taxes you will hit AMT and not be able to take the deduction. Is the additional interest you will be paying all those years really that much more than the price of private schools (one person wrote that you will get the extra $250K back, but you won't get the interest back and the interest will end up being another $250K and you may not be able to deduct it.
I am in a similiar financial situation to yours and live in Fairfield county and deciding if we should pay $200K more for a house in a nicer town than we live in or do private high school once the kids get there, but the fact is that I won't be able to deduct all the mortage additional mortage interest since we already hit AMT with our current smaller mortage.
I'm in the same boat as you, just pointing out that the finances are not as black and white as some of the other comments indicated.

105   OO   2011 Mar 31, 8:53am  

Really not sure about the doctor route for my kids' generation. I will definitely live to see the collapse of our Healthcare system, which means, the highest earning doctors of the world will be in for a big shakeup. Just FYI, other developed countries pay their doctors significantly less. For example, Australian internists only make $80-100K a year, and their specialists rarely make more than $500K, UK doctors make slightly more, but definitely not in the league of ours.

Our medical school training system is set up in expectation of big pay down the road. Other countries don't have medical schools, if you follow the UK system, you can finish a 5-year medical degree at undergrad level and proceed right to residency. Same for law school, 3 years at undergrad level. So if our doctors and lawyers are going to make significantly less in the future, the whole medical school/ law school system will collapse as well.

106   Menya   2011 Mar 31, 8:55am  

Well, we just put an offer on a house in 95124. Fammatre elementary, Ida Price middle, Branham high. It's come to about $335/sq foot. Great house, average lot (6K), decent street (off of Leigh).

WHAT HAVE WE DONE????????????????????? :) WOAHHHHHHHHHH

107   cloud13   2011 Mar 31, 9:17am  

Yay Yay..........Good to know that

108   thomas.wong1986   2011 Mar 31, 9:19am  

OO says

So if our doctors and lawyers are going to make significantly less in the future, the whole medical school/ law school system will collapse as well.

Medical Tourism are already taking place.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Medical_tourism

Employer-sponsored health care in the US
Some US employers have begun exploring medical travel programs as a way to cut employee health care costs. Such proposals have raised stormy debates between employers and trade unions representing workers, with one union stating that it deplored the "shocking new approach" of offering employees overseas treatment in return for a share of the company's savings. The unions also raise the issues of legal liability should something go wrong, and potential job losses in the US health care industry if treatment is outsourced.

Employers may offer incentives such as paying for air travel and waiving out-of-pocket expenses for care outside of the US. For example, in January 2008, Hannaford Bros., a supermarket chain based in Maine, began paying the entire medical bill for employees to travel to Singapore for hip and knee replacements, including travel for the patient and companion.[41] Medical travel packages can integrate with all types of health insurance, including limited benefit plans,[42] preferred provider organizations and high deductible health plans.

In 2000 Blue Shield of California began the United States' first cross border health plan. Patients in California could travel to one of the three certified hospitals in Mexico for treatment under California Blue Shield.[43] In 2007, a subsidiary of BlueCross BlueShield of South Carolina, Companion Global Healthcare, teamed up with hospitals in Thailand, Singapore, Turkey, Ireland, Costa Rica and India.

109   cloud13   2011 Mar 31, 9:26am  

bearishbull,
I, My realtor and my wife have called Campbell High School district many times and Leigh High school is the homeschool for FreeZone-1 and Leigh High is the best high school in Campbell union high- there is no expiration date :-).

Also Farnham elementary charges only $10 per day ,or about $200 per month. And there are many parents who just volunteer there.
And Comeon guys elementary school kids are aged 5 to 10, those are just kids , not prone to high energy levels which causes teenagers to vandalize and stuff..
So if you keep your high school good, and elementary school more than 800 API, in my mind you are Rocking and Roling already.

110   B.A.C.A.H.   2011 Mar 31, 11:55pm  

Good choice. Branham. Congratulations.

111   glass.torch   2011 Apr 1, 4:07am  

bearishbull says

I assure you that if your kid is sharp, it will be because of your parenting and not so much a function of the school. A good school might make up for a lazy parent, but a good parent can make up for anything. I think if your child finds good friends with good parents, then it will rub off on your child and vice versa. Make every effort to do this no matter what school your child goes to. Kids who go to private schools are sometimes troublemakers too.

You, sir, are one smart cookie... no use in beating your head against the wall trying to get a brainwashed pleb to realize they are wrong.

What is written below is not for SF Ace- it is for those that can see reality.

SF Ace said:

Here’s mine whatever it’s worth. (WITH REGARD TO SCHOOLING>>>)

* Employers are a lot pickier now than 10 years ago. 10 years ago, medicore education credential led to a decent start and subsequently you can do the right things to advance in your career. Today, that mediocre credentials don’t even get a look at the resume screener. In 10-20 years, I expect things to be even more competitive. Don’t look at your 40 something colleague going to a second tier college as inspiration, every Google and Facebook recent gard employees are Ivy League, MIT caliber credentials with rare exceptions. This is going to spill over to other major corporations and professional firms doing high level work.

HIGH LEVEL WORK= "ripping off the taxpayers"

* the fallback option like working for the government or union would not be anywhere as lucrative as before.

FALLBACK OPTION= "only stoopid people fallback..." I chose to leave the private side for stability during the peak. Do you have any clue as to how many overqualified unemployed people are looking for that "fallback" position right now? Fallback is a derogatory remark and I'll return the favor. YOU ARE DENSE.

* A capitalistic society creates winners and losers. Winners win because they have drive, determination, courage and some luck. From the persepctive, I want to train my kids to have drive, courage and determination and take on challenges that are a little more than they can handle.

Sure- right before your offspring steps in front of that alt form of transpo on rails... then a new tune will be sung.

* From a personal development perspective, It’s better to be the worst in the peer group than the best in the peer group. You learn nothing from people who are below you but everything from someone with more success.

I have learned more from those below me BY FAR than by anyone of these "supposed" best in their peer group individuals. Keep looking up whilst making that effort to see around the boot on your face by that peer you so highly regard. You learn nothing from people who are below you? I've learned to blow glass (both boro and soft), how to frame pictures, construction, and how to get my hands on software so overpriced I couldn't get my hands on it but through illegal means. Then I TAUGHT MYSELF how to use it instead of paying for a college course desgined to help only the slowest in the room. All done while attending a lowly state college at 15-22 credits a quarter AND WORKING 3 PART TIME JOBS.

SF ACE needs a head shrink. Not a psycologist- someone to actually shrink his self imposed oversized head.

Let's teach our children how fiat money really works, what a home should actually cost based on income, that entertainment on HDTV is not how you should aspire to live your life, to get involved in politics and call out those that serve only the rich, how to grow their own food, to get involved within their community and help serve those who are less fortunate (those low life peers that SF Ace mentioned), and the courage to stomp the snot out of those attemping to chain our futures through debt and inflation.

NOT ONE OF THESE ISSUES IS EVEN MENTIONED IN ANY FORM OF EDUCATION I'VE BEEN PRIVY TO.

Shizo

112   Pay4Knowledge   2011 Apr 1, 4:44am  

This is a very interesting subject. It has nothing to do with being racist as few people have mentioned in the post. However, I believe that segregation of kids to neighborhood schools is more racist than anything else. It is racism based on "Class". Brilliant kids from poor neighborhoods are denied entry into the rich neighborhoods schools.

Let's look at the facts closely:

The public education system is consistently going down in California over years due to budget cuts and I am more than sure that it will continue its downward spiral. This is due to the fact that the politicians do not regard public education as a key to America's survival. The politicians send their kids to private schools and do not feel the pain that average American families have to go through.

Now back to my feedback. I have not bought a house and I don't want to buy a house, and it has nothing to do with a good or bad neighborhood, or mortgage tax deductions (which is a wrong thing), or a sense of security. House buying brings nothing but insecurity in life – house in the US is not yours until you completely pay it off – and until it is not yours Banks are the real owners. You get stuck in a bad job and want to continue because the liability of the house. You dare to take a risk because of the same thing.

My personal income is the same as your combined home income. My wife does not work because she is a stay home mom taking care of the kids and working on their future. She has been doing it since my salary was less than 75% of what I am making today and we will continue this.

I will send all my kids to private schools and not only that I will also work on them to make them a good kid, a good citizen and a successful person. It will cost me around $300K + over 12 years and I am looking forward to it. I am probably never so sure about anything in life but getting my kids the best education money can buy. If you can get the same at a public school (I doubt it even in the best of the best neighborhoods of California) then go for it.

At the end of the day you need to sit down with your spouse and go over the priorities and make the decision and I am sure you will be able to make the decision.

Good Luck!

113   Menya   2011 Apr 1, 1:45pm  

Offer accepted. No idea if this is a mistake or not, but the house is beautiful and being in it will make us happy. So the kiddo will go to very solid Cambrian elemntary and middle school. We are excited.

114   OO   2011 Apr 1, 1:48pm  

Congrats Menya.

115   cloud13   2011 Apr 1, 3:22pm  

congrats Menya, you made the right move.

116   PasadenaNative   2011 Apr 3, 4:21am  

Syphilis says

danacebi says

protip: being a good parent is best.

won’t happen.

being a good parent is hard.

buying an overpriced house in a good school district and letting the teachers take care of the kids is easier.
the sheeple have been brainwashed into thinking good schools are the answer to everything.

just like the sheeple were brainwashed into thinking home prices couldn’t go down.
what’s funny is that parents are so motivated to have “successful” kids, they have forgotten that raising your kid to care about people, have a sense of humor, a good attitude and great work ethic costs nothing.
these well-adjusted kids will have a much happier life than the over achieving, over ambitious alpha-dogs caught in the rat race of keeping up with the Jones’.

jokes on them.

Love your comment. Right on! Plus, some kids are sensitive souls and won't be able to handle the high pressure to achieve. What if they don't even want to go to college or want to be artists or healers/free spirits? There is room for us all out there :-)

117   B.A.C.A.H.   2011 Apr 3, 6:35am  

This is not the Mandarin States of America. Nor is it the Brahmin States of America. Nor is it the API Test Score States of Cupertino Schools America.

This is the United States of America.

It sounds like OO may call himself Chinese, but he sounds more like an American Dad to me.

I pasted below what can happen when Tiger Parents act like Tiger Parents to their American kids. There's also several versions of the story along the CalTrain tracks near Gunn High School (Palo Alto).

OO says

I am Chinese too, but I am afraid to be living in a neighborhood with too many first gen Chinese immigrants, which I am as well. The reason being, I know how hard we as a group can save and how academically demanding we can be with our kids, I don’t want to be a Tiger dad whipping my kids’ ass against other Tiger dads and moms.

http://www.paloaltoonline.com/news/show_story.php?id=5662

Sgt. Paul Henry outlined the evidence in support of the suicide conclusion at a press conference Thursday morning but he said police do not know why the 23-year-old graduate student took her life. He said no one interviewed reported her stressed or depressed and there was no indication she was pregnant.

Yitong Zhou, May's father, insisted last week his daughter was murdered and he said an autopsy in May arranged by his family in San Diego disclosed blunt force trauma to her head and extremities.

An autopsy by Dr. Kelly Arthur of the Sonoma County coroner's office found no outward signs of trauma to Zhou's body and toxicology test results determined Zhou had 6.1 milligrams per liter of diphenhydramine, the active ingredient in over-the-counter sleep medication in her system, Henry said.

118   cloud13   2011 Apr 14, 8:59am  

To all my friends who are sitting on the Fence and are looking in Cambrian.

( Insider info)
This is one heck of a home,

http://www.redfin.com/CA/San-Jose/15111-Stratford-Dr-95124/home/1333989

This guy has spent money on the home like anything

119   closed   2011 Apr 14, 9:08am  

Years ago when my kid was little, we moved to San Leandro for the schools. By the time he was in 4th grade, the schools weren't so good anymore. We moved to Piedmont for 5th grade. Piedmont schools are among the best in the state. The city has insane property values and insane property taxes. We rented.

And fwiw, the are fair number of people in Piedmont who end up sending their kids to private school anyway.

120   thomas.wong1986   2011 Apr 14, 2:35pm  

PasadenaNative says

Right on! Plus, some kids are sensitive souls and won’t be able to handle the high pressure to achieve.

Vodka is a choice of stress relief in Cupertino.

121   desibaba   2011 Apr 14, 3:06pm  

Menya says

Offer accepted. No idea if this is a mistake or not, but the house is beautiful and being in it will make us happy. So the kiddo will go to very solid Cambrian elemntary and middle school. We are excited.

You are lucky, you did not try anywhere in 95014 or 95129. The market is damn hot that all the house here seem to fly in 1 day, with 80-100K over asking. Obviously, the houses are the standard pieces of crap - 1950's issue. minimal to no upgrades.

122   desibaba   2011 Apr 14, 3:14pm  

Look at this: http://www.redfin.com/CA/San-Jose/1042-Corvette-Dr-95129/home/794170

Date Event Price Appreciation Source
Apr 05, 2011 Sold (Public Records) $956,000 -- Public Records
Apr 05, 2011 Sold (MLS) (Sold) $956,000 -- Inactive MLSListings #81108395
Mar 05, 2011 Pending (Pending (Do Not Show)) -- -- Inactive MLSListings #81108395
Feb 24, 2011 Listed (Active) $878,000 -- Inactive MLSListings #81108395

123   thomas.wong1986   2011 Apr 14, 5:57pm  

desibaba says

Look at this

Or this... low 200s to low 800s (3x) in 10 years... good luck with that one.
Did school scores go up as much as well ? Naaaaa! your dreaming, LOL!

http://www.redfin.com/CA/San-Jose/1132-Miller-Ave-95129/home/1076090

Property History for 1132 MILLER Ave

Date Event Price Appreciation Source
Apr 14, 2011 Sold (MLS) (Sold) $920,000 --
Mar 23, 2011 Pending (Pending Without Release)
Mar 16, 2011 Listed (Active)
Feb 23, 2006 Sold (Public Records) $853,000 13.0%/yr Public Records
Jun 23, 1995 Sold (Public Records) $231,000 -- Public Records

124   cloud13   2011 Jul 9, 1:29am  

This is the best thread so far...reviving it so that more people can conribute about what they think about schools and stuff.

125   Hysteresis   2011 Jul 9, 2:00am  

"Should I pay for mortgage or for a private school?"

1. Pay at least 700K for a house to live in an area where she can go to public school
2. Pay 450K to live in area where she needs to go to a private school (which is ~12-15K a year)
3. Rent 2K to live in area where she needs to go to a private school (which is ~12-15K a year)
4. Rent 3.5K where she can go to public school

5. rent cheap and spend the money saved on a private tutor

126   Waitingtobuy   2011 Jul 9, 2:38am  

As others have said, this is an interesting thread for me on many levels. Some of the comments are way off-kilter here too.

Im very active in education, serving on the local school board. I went to public K-8, a very good private all boys school 9-12, and state universities for both undergrad and MBA. Ive met really smart people in public schools, and private schools. Ive also met some not so smart people in public and private.

Having recently bought a place, I have come to the conclusion that buying (preferably) or renting in a good public school system is the better alternative. My K-8 experience was in a middle to upper middle class neighborhood, and 9-12 I went to a very upper class, sheltered private school. Sure, a number of my classmates went to Ivies, or top private and state universities. A number also went to lower quality private or state schools. I got a great education. What I was missing is the interaction with kids that were not the same as me.

Private school tuition is rising rapidly. If you have two kids, you are looking at a good $600K K-12. Considering that is the price of a house in a lot of places, why would you consider this? There are lots of very good public school systems in CA. You are locking in on the price of a home for 30 yrs with a mortgage, part of which includes the cost of the school systems. Plus, you get to deduct your property taxes...cant deduct private school tuition.

The comment "Most public school districts in California rely on property taxes...which are based on bubble house prices. Pop the bubble and public education gets the pain." is incorrect. All public school systems, with the exception of basic aid districts (very wealthy like Laguna Beach) receive close to the same amount of state funding. The formula is determined by the state, not by where you live. The Serrano case means that all school districts receive ADA (average daily attendance) funding within a couple of hundred dollars of each other from the state. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Serrano_v._Priest It is city governments whose funding is determined by the wealth of the area. Your property taxes have little effect on this.

I prefer buying in a good to very good school system. But I also recommend getting very active too as a parent in your kids' education. Ultimately, that, as well as a good local school board that hires excellent administrators is what makes a public school system great, or can make it crappy. Hold teachers and principals accountable. Build great facilities to support the education your kids are receiving.

Junkmail's comments are dead-on. There is too much pressure put on kids to succeed these days. If you focus in on the social, emotional, and physical changes that kids go through, especially in their teenage years, they will do well in school. Otherwise, you risk having a bunch of misguided, poorly adjusted students.

127   Hysteresis   2011 Jul 9, 7:51am  

Waitingtobuy says

. Otherwise, you risk having a bunch of misguided, poorly adjusted students.

describes some of the posters on patnet.

128   bayhousehunter   2011 Jul 10, 2:58am  

It might cost almost $400K to send your kid to Harker. It might cost a premium of $400K to buy a house in the Cupertino/West SJ/PA/LAH (best school districts) compared to the neighboring cheaper cities (and it will mostly be a dump with multiple offers for the 1.3M++ price range).
So, another option is to buy in a school district with low APIs (prices are well down and you might get a good house), send your kid to public schools there (silicon valley schools are safe, no guns etc so far). And spend the $400K you saved on tutoring and sports training etc to make sure that your kid comes in at the top 5% to get into UC?

129   js27   2016 Jan 19, 4:30pm  

It is nonsense that the top public schools send as many kids to the Ivy leagues. Harker sends a third to a half of its class to the top tier schools (Ivies+Stanford+MIT), which is 50+ kids. THe best high schools rararely send over a dozen to these schools, in spite of graduating classes three times Harkers' size.

3-year Matriculation Rates at Mountain View High School
=====================
7- Stanford
5- Upenn
2- Harvard
3- Brown
5 - Columbia
6- Cornell
2- Princeton
1- Dartmouth
2- MIT
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So 11 kids/year went to Ivy league schools (+Stanford) per year, from Mountain View High School. 25 a year are National Merit Semifinalists.

A sizeable number went to other well-respected schools:
2- Duke
UCBerkeley – 46
Cal Poly – 34
UCLA – 27
Other UC’s – 100+

Put differently, if your kid can be in the top ten at MVHS (from a diverse class of 400-450 kids), you’re pretty well set for Ivy league admission. They do offer all 25 AP courses, and a huge number of electives, so exposure or opportunity should not be an issue. At Harker, the number for Ivies is likely in the 40-50 range. It is likely almost as hard to be in that top 50 as it is to be in the top 10 at MVHS, although the culture at the private school likely offers fewer distractions.

Source: http://www.challengeteam.org/Documents/MVHS%20School%20Profile%202013-14.pdf

For Los Altos High School (often ranked in the top 10 schools in the state, and in the same school district as MVHS), the numbers are similar:

3-year Matriculation Rates
=====================
15- Stanford (faculty kids "quota", I'd venture to guess)
1- Upenn
1- Harvard
2- Brown
1 - Columbia
5- Cornell
2- Princeton
2- Dartmouth
6- MIT
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http://www.mvla.net/view/13617.pdf

130   tatupu70   2016 Jan 19, 4:43pm  

js27 says

It is nonsense that the top public schools send as many kids to the Ivy leagues. Harker sends a third to a half of its class to the top tier schools (Ivies+Stanford+MIT), which is 50+ kids. THe best high schools rararely send over a dozen to these schools, in spite of graduating classes three times Harkers' size.

But how much of that is correlation and not causation? The old money families would get into the Ivies wherever they went to high school.

It's not like W. was a top notch student...

131   Tenpoundbass   2016 Jan 19, 5:07pm  

Why not do both? What good is a great education, if you're ashamed of your slouchy parent picking you up in a used car, then driving you back to the extended stay Quality Inn?
Or check your White privlege and send an inner city kid that "Good School" disctricts rob of an equal education.
Did I say it right Marcus?

132   FortWayne   2016 Jan 19, 5:24pm  

You folks have excellent income. In your scenario the best option is to go with whatever option gives you comfort. Raising a child is not an easy task, they require a lot of time and attention and expenses, and stability. As a parent who has raised a family, I would recommend to go with whatever you can comfortably do with single income, just don't stretch yourself thin. Because unexpected expenses will come, a lot of new stress will arise. Having to not worry about mortgage will keep your relationship a lot more stable and you much happier as a family.

If you can buy and be comfortable, buy, with family that is a much easier in a long run than renting. If you were single that would have been a different story.

Hope this helps.

Option 2 could be much better than option 1, it is a smaller mortgage with a $12,000/year for private school. You can look at it as you are investing 12k into your child, instead of paying it to the bloodsucking bank in interest over next 30 years. Because if you are going with a loan, your entire payment for first 20 years will be interest only for most part.

133   Waitup   2016 Jan 19, 9:55pm  

Now I'm curious. So what option did Menya go with? I'm hoping option 1.

Edit: Never mind. Read the posts above after making this comment.

134   tatupu70   2016 Jan 20, 7:41am  

FortWayne says

Option 2 could be much better than option 1, it is a smaller mortgage with a $12,000/year for private school. You can look at it as you are investing 12k into your child, instead of paying it to the bloodsucking bank in interest over next 30 years. Because if you are going with a loan, your entire payment for first 20 years will be interest only for most part.

Not saying buying is better, but I think the above logic is flawed. At current low mortgage rates, the payment is not all interest--not by a long shot. It's more like 50 principal/50 (interest + property tax).

135   zzyzzx   2016 Jan 20, 8:35am  

I'm adding your story to my long list of reasons not to have kids.

136   B.A.C.A.H.   2016 Jan 20, 10:08am  

They said "pay", not "borrow".
So with that kinda cash they can do whatever.

137   raindoctor   2016 Jan 20, 9:34pm  

Not all Ivy leagues are alike. They are tier-1 Ivy leagues, they are called HYP (harvard, yale and princeton). If you are looking for a job at McKinsey, Goldman Sachs, Blackstone, KKR, yes, HYP is the stepping stone. The proportion of tier-2 Ivy admits to that of total Ivys that a school has sent is very high at schools like Harker. So, don't pay top dollar for "Ivy": look for tier-1 Ivies that a particular school has sent.

BTW, Cornell, an Ivy league, is called poor man's Ivy on the east coast.

Same with companies: there are tier-1 companies. Tier-1 companies love to recruit students from tier-1 Ivy schools. It is true that McKinsey recruits from tier-2 Ivys like Duke, Columbia, etc. Tier 1 companies recruiting at tier-2 Ivies is like Harker sending to tier-2 Ivys.

Tier 1a Investment Banking(IB): Goldman Sachs, Morgan Stanley
Tier 1b IB: JP Morgan
Tier 2a: Citi, Barclays, credit suissie
Tier 2b: UBS, Duetsche Bank
Tier 3: Wells, HSBC, Nomura, etc.

Just working at Citi does not make you a top tier IB guy, any more than going to duke does make ya top tier Ivy. Yes, there are outliers; even these outliers have to do with the family pedigree. For instance, Brown used to recruit kids of famous hollywood actors, actresses, dumb kids of billionaires. And Goldman Sachs love to hair that dumb kid from Brown; this is an outlier.

Consulting:

Tier 1: McKinsey, Bain, Boston/BCG. Even here, McKinsey > Bain/BCG

Private Equity:

Tier 1: Blackstone, KKR, etc

MBA schools:
Tier 1: Harvard, Stanford
Tier 1.5: Wharton, which is called MBA Factory these days.
Next tier: Chicago, Northwestern, Columbia, MIT

Law Schools:

Tier 1: HYS: Harvard, Yale, Princeton
Next tier: T14 schools minus Tier 1.

When you don't have any pedigree beyond the school--and this is the case with the majority of American population including immigrants, you have to scheme to top tier Ivies, top tier IB/Consulting/PE, etc. This is a very hard game. Most of the time, most of us don't know how this layered system works. From the outside, every Ivy appears to on par with every other Ivy; every IB job appears like every other IB job.

Just go to collegboard.com, wallstreetoasis.com, to see how some kids/parents have been trying to scheme to get to the top (the top money making potential. not so much of learning/intellectuality).

138   anonymous   2016 Jan 20, 9:40pm  

Tier 1: ASSHOLES!
Tier 2: ASSHOLES!
Tier2a: ASSHOLES!
Tier 14: ASSHOLES!

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