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Danny boy, I don't care how you take me. You fell for a simple tease like a silly teenage girl and then exploded like a complete idiot.

lostand confused says

Well in addition to that, sometimes when conception is by another man, the man "considered" as the father because of the lies is still forced to do whatever the fraud wants. No one cares he was defrauded , his heart broken, his life shattered-he still has to pay under threat of jail.

Every reasonable person thinks (or should) that is wrong.

And yes, women do have more choices after conception, but in general, they also have more responsibilities.

Plus, 99% of the time when a woman ends her responsibility, the man's responsibility ends too.

FP says

You fell for a simple tease like a silly teenage girl and then exploded like a complete idiot.

I exposed your stupidity. I didn't explode. It's pretty sad that you are so obsessed with trying to upset strangers on the Internet. Do you really have no life?

In any case, there is nothing you could say that would upset me. I simply do not give a damn what you think. I just like exposing idiots for what they are so that their stupidity doesn't spread. I'm not angry. I'm laughing at you.

There's a simple solution here.

Have the State force possession of the child to whichever party is financially capable.

1. Single mom keeps child. She can afford to raise it, so she does

2. Single mom cannot afford child, so The State steps in and forces custody to the father.

3. Neither party is capable of raising the child, so CPS steps in and The State takes custody, and the child is put for adoption

ch_tah2 says

Seriously? I can't tell if you are joking or if you've gone full SJW.

If someone can't tell if your batshit crazy or joking, that's on you.

Dan8267 says

ch_tah2 says

Seriously? I can't tell if you are joking or if you've gone full SJW.

If someone can't tell if your batshit crazy or joking, that's on you.

But I always think you are batshit crazy...

FP says

1. How about some originaliy, or you also have engineering background?

Anyone who disrespects engineers is a moron. The whole world you live in was created by engineers.

A man has choices

1. Condom
2. Pull out
3. Abstain
4. Vasectomy

www.youtube.com/embed/8-JZhsEbj5c

And then there's reality. The women have no respect for them.

It's time to go now. I really think your time would be better spent on men receiving longer jail sentences or other actual issues. You guys really seem like men-SJWs with this crap.

Final tip of the day...stop having sex with women you hate, who are going to steal your sperm while you sleep and remove you from the birth cert while extorting you for millions! It will really improve your life.

The entire conversation goes awry when everyone assumes men and women should be equal.
Women willingly take the burden of motherhood. Men are doomed to share their resources with them.
It's not symmetric, nor will it ever be.
Men choice movement is like SJW for men.
Like communists and feminists before them, they act out of egalitarianism: but this is a road to hell.
People are not equal. Admit it and go on with your life.

Heraclitusstudent says

The entire conversation goes awry when everyone assumes men and women should be equal.

Women willingly take the burden of motherhood. Men are doomed to share their resources with them.

It's not symmetric, nor will it ever be.

Excellent point!

Men and women are biologically very different. They should have different roles and responsibilities.

Right?

Of course once you admit that men and women are not "equal" in every respect, the feminism does not make sense. Feminism is the radical notion that women are men.

So you have to either give men truly equal rights to women, or admit that there is a biological basis for differing responsibilities.

rando says

once you admit that men and women are not "equal" in every respect, the feminism does not make sense.

Yes. Feminism is a lie. Women are still the primary caregivers — for children, aging parents and ailing relatives. Which means they rely on men. You can't simply let men walk out for themselves. But women can't claim they are independent when so obviously they rely on men for so many things. And men should recognize they rely on women for care giving.

Heraclitusstudent says

But women can't claim they are independent when so obviously they rely on men for so many things. And men should recognize they rely on women for care giving.

Sounds like (gasp!) you are advocating traditional marriage, where wives should be the primary caregivers for children, and husbands should work to support their wives and children. And men have certainty that the children they support are their own.

That kind of talk can get you fired these days. Or expelled from a university. Or physically beaten by an angry mob of leftists.

Mandatory paternity testing at birth would solve the problem of uncertainty.

rando says

you are advocating traditional marriage

I'm not. Though certainly things were more simple when we had marriage and no contraception. Then no one had "choice" (except sex or not).
Now we have choices, and men complaining they are left behind. But if you let men act like teenagers, walking away and caring only for themselves, then de facto you leave behind a very imbalanced equation. It's a practical matter. Idealism has nothing to do with it.

I don't think caring for a kid can be seen as acting like a 'teenager', but in any case, fair has nothing to do with it.
Otherwise how do you suggest we ensure good support for children given that men have completely different incentives in the matter than women do?

I'm happy for the suffering. It's rightful comeuppance for people who sat idly by while The State pulled massive injustices for decades. Hopefully you learn your lesson; Freedom isn't free. You must speak out against all injustices always, lest they run out of people to ruin and you wind up in their sights, with noone left to fight for you. And you realize you only have yourself to blame

Heraclitusstudent says

People are not equal. Admit it and go on with your life.

But prior to this century:
1. Women who got pregnant outside marriage either:
1a. subject to intense pressure to get married to the male involved (as was the male)
1b. subject to massive social consequences (in order to protect THEIR estimated virtue, other women would insult and degrade them)
1c. were kicked out of the tribe.

Today none of the countervailing pressures exist: unwed mothers and their partners are not pressured (inc. by the authorities as well as peers) into marriage, there are few social consequences and women circle the wagons around unwed mothers, and they get food stamps and free housing and other benefits if they can't support a child from the tribe.

It's sexual utopia for women: Reproduce where and whenever, men have no say, no negative reaction from society and for many a boon.

This is why the "Home for Unwed Mothers" Dormitory idea in lieu of food stamps and Section-8 is the key.

If more 14-25 year old indigent or near indigent women knew the fate of unwed motherhood was living in a dorm, with healthy but bland industrial meals, a curfew, scheduled work and course hours, instead of getting a place of their own and money and credit to spent as they please, things would change damn fast.

If you are indigent, and refuse to go to the Dormitory, your kids get CPS'd since you can't provide them with shelter or food.

I do see that an abortion is a burden for the woman, so to make things fair-ish, it seems that the man should pay for the abortion.

Here are the four possible cases:

1. He wants it, she wants it. No problem, he accepts the responsibility.
2. He doesn't want it, she doesn't want it. No problem, kid will not exist.
3. He wants it, she doesn't want it. He's fucked.
4. He doesn't want it, she does want it. He's fucked.

So in 2 out of four cases, her choice is fulfilled, and he is fucked.

T L Lipsovich says

This is why the "Home for Unwed Mothers" Dormitory idea in lieu of food stamps and Section-8 is the key.

I like it.

rando says

Men and women are biologically very different. They should have different roles and responsibilities.

Right?

The asymmetry of the sexes makes perfect equality regarding reproduction impossible. Women will always, and should, have unilateral control over the decision of whether or not to have an abortion. However, we should still strive to achieve as close to equality as is physically possible, even in reproductive law. As such, men should have the same choice about whether or not to take on the very significant responsibility of parenthood. Becoming a parent should not be forced onto any person. It's quite clear what equality of law means in this matter. Both genders have the right to say no, and no means no.

And for the idiots on this thread, consent to have sex is not consent to become a parent anymore than dressing provocatively is consent to having sex. Consent is explicit and willful. It is never implied. Not in sex, parenthood, or anything else.

rando says

Feminism is the radical notion that women are men.

If you ask a hundred people to define feminism, you'll get a hundred different and contradicting answers. The word has become meaningless. I don't judge a woman or man who claims to be a feminist, because there is no way of telling what they mean. So I just ask them what specifically they mean.

I believe in equality under law. That's liberalism. If feminism is equality regardless of sex, then feminism is just a narrow subset of liberalism. We don't need a word for that. We should all be liberals. We should all believe in equality under law and equal legal rights.

Some people talk about social equality, but they never seem to be able to define what that is. Does social equality mean we all get invited to the same parties? Have the same chance of dating the homecoming queen or quarterback? If so, we'll never have social equality.

And then there are the bitter haters who use the word feminism to refer to their warped views and spitefulness. Those people are not defendable.

Depends on the woman...

Heraclitusstudent says

Men are doomed to share their resources with them.

T L Lipsovich says

But prior to this century:

1. Women who got pregnant outside marriage either:

1a. subject to intense pressure to get married to the male involved (as was the male)

1b. subject to massive social consequences (in order to protect THEIR estimated virtue, other women would insult and degrade them)

1c. were kicked out of the tribe.

You mean prior to last century. I think that all went away in the 1970s if not before. Most people alive today weren't alive when those things were true.

With their lack of pussy driving the conversation, i was forced to do a FIFY...

Ironman says

Unbelievable, reading the posts in this thread today is so sad, a bunch of pussy whipped "women" playing my dick is bigger smaller than yours...

T L Lipsovich says

If more 14-25 year old indigent or near indigent women knew the fate of unwed motherhood was living in a dorm, with healthy but bland industrial meals, a curfew, scheduled work and course hours, instead of getting a place of their own and money and credit to spent as they please, things would change damn fast.

There is a moral hazard to letting it be too easy to reproduce and have the state raise your children. It allows women to choose really bad mates. This not only exemplifies the problems fiscally and culturally, but it also provides great evolutionary pressure for generating men who just impregnate 100 different women. And there is no way to force a man to pay for the raising of 100 kids. He simply does not have the resources to do so. The entire indentured servitude model breaks down when the man says, fuck it, I'll just spread my seed around since I'm already fucked.

Do we ultimately want to breed men into being worthless, unproductive members of society who just compete for sexual access? It makes far more sense to link reproductive success to productivity and responsibility. Taking away responsibilities and consequences from women's mating choices is terrible for our species. You reap what you sow in evolution.

Dan8267 says

I think these are guys, whether married or not, who are jealous of all the sex that single men are getting.

That's a good explanation. Had not considered it but it feels true.

Not just guys, but women often hate the idea that someone else can have sex and not have to pay for it somehow, when they themselves are having a hard time in the sexual marketplace.

rando says

Not just guys, but women often hate the idea that someone else can have sex and not have to pay for it somehow, when they themselves are having a hard time in the sexual marketplace.

It's all jealousy. People throw rocks at things that shine.

More examples why parenting should require a license.

www.youtube.com/embed/77LNBK8jZZg

Without a man's affirmative consent to paternity, it's rape!

A slide projected onstage defined consent through three "pillars": "Knowing exactly what and how much I'm agreeing to; expressing my intent to participate; deciding freely and voluntarily to participate."
Instead of waiting for your partner to say "no," speakers onstage told students, you should seek an explicit "yes." It could come in the form of a smile, a nod or a verbal yes, as long as it's unambiguous, "enthusiastic" and ongoing.

Shit, he really said that? Yeah, prostitution and sex for pleasure has existed before our ancestors were human. Hell female chimps and other female mammals gladly prostitute themselves for resources.

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He said "Sex as entertainment is a product of the pill."

Entertainment is much different than for resources

rando says

Without a man's affirmative consent to paternity, it's rape!

It's time to go back to single-sex colleges. This whole co-ed thing clearly isn't working.

Perhaps workplaces as well.

I guess since the college campus now want "contracts" for sexual activity, then perhaps the contract of "marriage" should come back in vogue. :)

T L Lipsovich says

Heraclitusstudent says

People are not equal. Admit it and go on with your life.

But prior to this century:

1. Women who got pregnant outside marriage either:

1a. subject to intense pressure to get married to the male involved (as was the male)

1b. subject to massive social consequences (in order to protect THEIR estimated virtue, other women would insult and degrade them)

1c. were kicked out of the tribe.

Today none of the countervailing pressures exist: unwed mothers and their partners are not pressured (inc. by the authorities as well as peers) into marriage, there are few social consequences and women circle the wagons around unwed mothers, and they get food stamps and free housing and other benefits if they can\'t support a child from the tribe.

It\'s sexual utopia for women: Reproduce where and whenever, men have no say, no negative reaction fro...

That was a very intelligent comment.

When I visited Año Nuevo beach near here 10 years ago to see the elephant seals, the female docent giving the tour made an interesting point I've never forgotten.

Docent: The strongest males gather a harem of females and have sex with them whenever they want.
Woman in the audience: Why do the females put up with that?
Docent: Because the top males protect their harem, preventing all the other males from raping them constantly. The females actually seek the protection of the top males.
Woman in the audience: Oh.