I hated the Male Gaze, now I hate not getting it

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2023 Mar 5, 10:39am   673 views  9 comments

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I didn’t notice at first. It’s hard to sense the lack of a thing, like when you don’t realize your headache is gone until an hour after it starts to recede.

It’s not like I’d ever been a head-turner. Reasonably attractive, I’ve never stood out in the ways that make people either excited or uncomfortable. But I was pleasing enough (and pleasant enough) that I’d gather grins and glances.

But somewhere in my early 50s, people just stopped noticing me.

I started to have to say “Hello?” at the register to get the cashier’s attention. As I repeated my coffee order, I could see their eyes moving past me, lighting on younger, bolder, more interesting people.

“This is it,” I thought. “I’ve become invisible.”


The Lou Reed on the mixtape is insightful. She didn't know who it was, but if the guy wasn't hot, she'd pretend she'd know.

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1   Patrick   2023 Mar 5, 10:58am  

Men are tuned to notice female fertility, because this is what brought us down to the present day to even have this conversation. Without male interest in female beauty, none of us would be here.

And when does female fertility end? Oh, about 50, just like this woman points out. It's just mechanics.
2   Tenpoundbass   2023 Mar 5, 11:49am  

I find hot women over 50 more attractive in many ways than young hot women. Hot women that has maintained their figure, beauty, wits and personality, are very rare. Only one out of a hundred, probably it's more, much more, I just pulled those numbers out of my ass. But it's safe to say, that only one out of hundred young hot babes that you bang now, wont be embarrassingly hideous by time they hit 50. And if you haven't had 100 women, then your chances of being proud to nudge someone and say, "I hit that back when she was 20, and she's still smoking hot!" will be nil.
Beautiful women over 50, are a luxury brand of fine apparati.
3   HeadSet   2023 Mar 5, 12:04pm  

Tenpoundbass says

I find hot women over 50 more attractive in many ways than young hot women.

Yes, nothing sexier than an older woman who has kept her figure.
4   Ceffer   2023 Mar 5, 12:09pm  

Nothing worse than men who no longer serve. Watching the old birds around the hood in Santa Cruz demonstrates that they still exploit the old dumb sticks as much as they can get away with, all the while showering them with contempt if they are not wealthy, of status etc.

Women get so much added mileage out of their sex that they have no idea what it is like to be without it. Even if women are fat and ugly and old, they still get away with shit because they are women.
5   clambo   2023 Mar 5, 12:12pm  

Hot or not?
That is the question.
I have a hot friend who is 54; she gets a lot of attention.
I have another semi-hot friend who is 62 and she gets asked for her number pretty often.
As a confirmed voyeur I can say I stare at all of them; but sunglasses help keep it stealthy.
6   Tenpoundbass   2023 Mar 5, 1:25pm  

And also to Hot older fine women's credit. You wont see them in porn, they kept low mileage to get to where they are now.
Not to say there aren't any attractive old broads out there doing porn. But I don't consider them in the class of women I mentioned above.
7   FortwayeAsFuckJoeBiden   2023 Mar 5, 1:47pm  

have you tried starting with “whats up my nigga?”. guaranteed attention.
8   AmericanKulak   2023 Mar 15, 11:01pm  

Patrick says

And when does female fertility end? Oh, about 50, just like this woman points out. It's just mechanics.

This is a common myth. Really, infertility begins in the early 40s, when a woman has only 2% of the eggs left, they're error prone due to age, and fertilization is more difficult. Going by memory but there's less than a 5% chance of conception during the fertile period of the menstrual cycle for a woman over 40. And a huge percentage of those conceptions will end in miscarriages - 50% of them starting at age 40.

And, if they've never had a baby prior to 40, their chance of getting pregnant is much lower than somebody who gave birth earlier - the longer they wait to use it, the more they're likely to lose it.

ALL pregnancies after 35 are consider 'geriatric' due to pregnancy hypertension.

When is the most fertile period for a woman, when her body is at peak babymaking performance? Why, what a coincidence - at her universal hottest age, 20 to 24.
9   FuckTheMainstreamMedia   2023 Mar 16, 5:04am  

The woman that wrote the article sounds super confused.

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