Ashes to ashes, and the closer to the ashes, the less celebration. However, I am grateful for what I have been given in reasonably good health and dodging the bullets of outrageous fortune.
that’s when I understood: your birthday isn’t about you. Men don’t like their birthdays.
Any man above 18 years old who is excited about his birthday is a walking red flag.
Why do men don’t like their birthdays?
Men don’t like receiving perks or rewards they didn’t “work for”. A birthday is a “celebration of you” you didn’t do anything to deserve. Men don’t like not being in charge. Birthdays, for whatever reason, always have an element of surprise. Men do not like surprises.
Men have to pretend they’re happy while they’re not or everyone is disappointed. This maybe is the worst part.
but the people that celebrate you want to see you happy, so you must be happy to avoid having them disappointed.
Then you receive gifts you didn’t ask for nor want or have the space to store and for which you have to smile and say thank you. A birthday is a sacrifice.
The person whose birthday it is is the scapegoat, “sacrificed” on the pagan altar for the happiness of everybody else feasting around.
The birthday boy gives up his autonomy and liberty for a day for others, paraded around and wearing a cone hat for the entertainment of the people like Louis XVI before lying under the guillotine.
Your birthday isn’t about you. Because what men enjoy the most isn’t to be pleased, but to please those they like.
With respect to government: • 16 or 17 — drivers' license. Although many kids these days can't be bothered. • 21st birthday was the last important one — alcohol and firearms. • 30th and 35th birthdays are no big deal if you're not going to run for senate or president. • 65 You can start getting back a tiny bit of decades of medicare wage garnishment. • Yay 65 (or somewhere around there). You can start getting back a tiny bit of decades of social security wage garnishment. If you're actually interested in the SS payments, though, you probably screwed up your retirement.
Same. Mine is Saturday. Since 2019 my birthday time has been shit. My dad died on fathers day. FIL birthday who is dead. Then my birthday. This week is a pile of shit for me. Everyone around me is mourning and gives no shits. I don't need the attention, but if being honest it sucks. These men get the attention and I'm a cast away even though I'm the leader of all our families. This week sucks.
If my memory serves correctly, my teacher picked up a date as my birthday for me in elementary school by ignoring my parents given one. Adjustment was part of my parents forced me to go with cousins who are 1 year older. My aunt picked one for me. Later wife and astrologers picked few more for me based on their math! While registering in various websites, I picked few more and noted them down. lol, Quite a few still sending greetings with my fake name Hey Foo,Bar…;) almost every other week. We rarely buy cakes to celebrate birthdays but there’s always a birthday around in case if I want one!
Hell yeah I am. I turn 53 shortly. The weekend before we’ll get together with my parents and my brothers family, and yes I enjoy getting gifts, usually all the stuff I genuinely need but am too cheap to buy myself . Weekend after, wife and I are going to a concert for actual country music with George Strait and opener Chris Stapleton.
If you don’t know who they are, George Strait has over 100 #1 country hits and I could probably be ok for the rest of my life listening to him and no one else.
Great country music does one thing. It tells a story. Here’s one of my favorite songs of his:
I loved birthdays as a kid. When I retire I may even post a super 8 video from my 6th birthday up here. Converted it to digital several years ago. I still love birthdays. It isn’t the attention. As an ISTJ attention is the last thing in the world I crave. It’s being with family, the surprise, and getting to do something special.
Speaking of which, my dads 83rd is coming up. I’m getting him some great seats to an upcoming dodgers game. He will love it. I imagine he may not so easily be able to attend in the near future. We got to go to game one of the World Series last year and he is still floating over that (for those of you that don’t follow sports, Dodgers won on a dramatic homerun with two outs in the bottom of the 9th inning, hit by a player who was hobbling and pretty badly injured. Dodgers went on to win the World Series, their first full season world series since 1988, and against their hated rival the NY Yankees to boot…the dodgers had won in the truncated Covid season in 2020)
Speaking of which, my dads 83rd is coming up. I’m getting him some great seats to an upcoming dodgers game. He will love it. I imagine he may not so easily be able to attend in the near future. We got to go to game one of the World Series last year and he is still floating over that (for those of you that don’t follow sports, Dodgers won on a dramatic homerun with two outs in the bottom of the 9th inning, hit by a player who was hobbling and pretty badly injured. Dodgers went on to win the World Series, their first full season world series since 1988, and against their hated rival the NY Yankees to boot…the dodgers had won in the truncated Covid season in 2020)
huh...the Dodgers kirk gibson hit that homer in 88 against the oakland A's..
I don't really celebrate my birthday, but if I'm dating someone at the time, it's an excuse to see her dress up and go out to some overpriced place to eat, and later "D&D" (Dogstyle Date), if we're not too full which has happened unfortunately.
Speaking of which, my dads 83rd is coming up. I’m getting him some great seats to an upcoming dodgers game. He will love it. I imagine he may not so easily be able to attend in the near future. We got to go to game one of the World Series last year and he is still floating over that (for those of you that don’t follow sports, Dodgers won on a dramatic homerun with two outs in the bottom of the 9th inning, hit by a player who was hobbling and pretty badly injured. Dodgers went on to win the World Series, their first full season world series since 1988, and against their hated rival the NY Yankees to boot…the dodgers had won in the truncated Covid season in 2020)
huh...the Dodgers kirk gibson hit that homer in 88 against the oakland A's..
I worded it poorly. Meant that Dodgers beat the NYY last year in the World Series.
But who doesn't a like a simple "Happy Birthday" text or email?
people like me who then feel obligated to reply.
I kind of enjoy replying too, just something short like "Thanks!" Makes me feel more connected to people, and human connections improve life tremendously.
But I agree on limits. I don't need candles or cards, anyone singing, or praise. That's all cringeworthy.
But who doesn't a like a simple "Happy Birthday" text or email?
people like me who then feel obligated to reply.
That and then if you forget their birthday and don't send a message they get pissy. Besides my wife, mom, kids and sister I don't acknowledge anyones birthday. 6 people. I'm on group texts and see people wishing a happy birthday to buddies and I ignore it. You do it once it's expected every year in my mind so I don't do it. I'd have to do 500 every year at least. I don't have that time or want to do it.
Basically I really don't care when you came out of your mom's vagina or stomach. I get repulsed by pregnant woman. If you have kids and have witnessed birth, it's probably a top 10 most disgusting day of your life. It's not beautiful or pretty. I've seen my wife's internal organs 2 times and had to feed a newborn for an hour or two while she recovered. Pure misery. Never held a baby until my first. Talk about getting thrown into the fire quickly.
I love my kids but HATE babies. Harsh, but they're helpless little fuckers that piss and shit themselves and cry. I do like my kids at their current age though. But I don't see the importance of a birthday outside of the government tracking you. Not sure that's something to celebrate. We're finally past the little kid party age. Go get some pizza and some ice cream with just us and the kids.
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Every year. Cake, candles, presents from the wife and kid. We celebrate their birthdays the same way.
Men don’t like their birthdays.
Any man above 18 years old who is excited about his birthday is a walking red flag.
Why do men don’t like their birthdays?
Men don’t like receiving perks or rewards they didn’t “work for”. A birthday is a “celebration of you” you didn’t do anything to deserve.
Men don’t like not being in charge. Birthdays, for whatever reason, always have an element of surprise. Men do not like surprises.
Men have to pretend they’re happy while they’re not or everyone is disappointed.
This maybe is the worst part.
but the people that celebrate you want to see you happy, so you must be happy to avoid having them disappointed.
Then you receive gifts you didn’t ask for nor want or have the space to store and for which you have to smile and say thank you.
A birthday is a sacrifice.
The person whose birthday it is is the scapegoat, “sacrificed” on the pagan altar for the happiness of everybody else feasting around.
The birthday boy gives up his autonomy and liberty for a day for others, paraded around and wearing a cone hat for the entertainment of the people like Louis XVI before lying under the guillotine.
Your birthday isn’t about you. Because what men enjoy the most isn’t to be pleased, but to please those they like.
I don’t like that people close to me waste their money on presents that I do not really need
If I want to drink a few beers I do not need an excuse
I do not see what is the point of celebrating what is in essence a random day
I do not like getting older, and every birthday is a reminder of that
I do not like attention
• 16 or 17 — drivers' license. Although many kids these days can't be bothered.
• 21st birthday was the last important one — alcohol and firearms.
• 30th and 35th birthdays are no big deal if you're not going to run for senate or president.
• 65 You can start getting back a tiny bit of decades of medicare wage garnishment.
• Yay 65 (or somewhere around there). You can start getting back a tiny bit of decades of social security wage garnishment. If you're actually interested in the SS payments, though, you probably screwed up your retirement.
Same. Mine is Saturday. Since 2019 my birthday time has been shit. My dad died on fathers day. FIL birthday who is dead. Then my birthday. This week is a pile of shit for me. Everyone around me is mourning and gives no shits. I don't need the attention, but if being honest it sucks. These men get the attention and I'm a cast away even though I'm the leader of all our families. This week sucks.
I'm not into gifts, especially since they are unlikely to be anything I really want.
But who doesn't a like a simple "Happy Birthday" text or email?
lol, Quite a few still sending greetings with my fake name Hey Foo,Bar…;)
almost every other week.
We rarely buy cakes to celebrate birthdays but there’s always a birthday around in case if I want one!
I think the Poles are traditionally named from the list of Catholic saints.
And every day of the year has some associated Catholic saint, so that day is your name day. I guess mine would be St. Patrick's Day.
Haha 100% agreed. Or for wives
If you don’t know who they are, George Strait has over 100 #1 country hits and I could probably be ok for the rest of my life listening to him and no one else.
Great country music does one thing. It tells a story. Here’s one of my favorite songs of his:
https://youtu.be/sKXdnBGIcm0?feature=shared
Chris Stapleton probably has the best voice in modern country music, certainly the most soulful. He even makes the songs of others sound better:
https://youtu.be/maLr0lekFoo?feature=shared
I loved birthdays as a kid. When I retire I may even post a super 8 video from my 6th birthday up here. Converted it to digital several years ago. I still love birthdays. It isn’t the attention. As an ISTJ attention is the last thing in the world I crave. It’s being with family, the surprise, and getting to do something special.
Speaking of which, my dads 83rd is coming up. I’m getting him some great seats to an upcoming dodgers game. He will love it. I imagine he may not so easily be able to attend in the near future. We got to go to game one of the World Series last year and he is still floating over that (for those of you that don’t follow sports, Dodgers won on a dramatic homerun with two outs in the bottom of the 9th inning, hit by a player who was hobbling and pretty badly injured. Dodgers went on to win the World Series, their first full season world series since 1988, and against their hated rival the NY Yankees to boot…the dodgers had won in the truncated Covid season in 2020)
huh...the Dodgers kirk gibson hit that homer in 88 against the oakland A's..
I can confirm this.
people like me who then feel obligated to reply.
You don't sacrifice a goat?
Depends if the gift givers really know you.
Then tell your friends to stop having the man in the thong jump out of your cake.
I worded it poorly. Meant that Dodgers beat the NYY last year in the World Series.
I kind of enjoy replying too, just something short like "Thanks!" Makes me feel more connected to people, and human connections improve life tremendously.
But I agree on limits. I don't need candles or cards, anyone singing, or praise. That's all cringeworthy.
This.
More than anyone else here(except Patrick and Wookie) I need to meet you someday.
That and then if you forget their birthday and don't send a message they get pissy. Besides my wife, mom, kids and sister I don't acknowledge anyones birthday. 6 people. I'm on group texts and see people wishing a happy birthday to buddies and I ignore it. You do it once it's expected every year in my mind so I don't do it. I'd have to do 500 every year at least. I don't have that time or want to do it.
Basically I really don't care when you came out of your mom's vagina or stomach. I get repulsed by pregnant woman. If you have kids and have witnessed birth, it's probably a top 10 most disgusting day of your life. It's not beautiful or pretty. I've seen my wife's internal organs 2 times and had to feed a newborn for an hour or two while she recovered. Pure misery. Never held a baby until my first. Talk about getting thrown into the fire quickly.
I love my kids but HATE babies. Harsh, but they're helpless little fuckers that piss and shit themselves and cry. I do like my kids at their current age though. But I don't see the importance of a birthday outside of the government tracking you. Not sure that's something to celebrate. We're finally past the little kid party age. Go get some pizza and some ice cream with just us and the kids.
nothing a woman likes better than to be hammering her pussy and blowing a loud massive fart mid pump.