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Rin says

Why do you think Bill Gate's company is called Microsoft?

Bwahahahahahaa

Robber Baron Elite Scum says

Indiana Jones says

Which SF tech companies have the men with the largest genitalia?

The ones which mainly employ niggers.

it's quite certain that some readers will completely miss the fact that Robber Baron Elite Scum is a parody of an archetype.

Are there are any African-American tech CEO?

If we are going to delve into this, we also need to find out which female CEO has the tightest vagina.

A more difficult metric to be sure.

Dan8267 says

A man cannot. If only it were true, I'd be CEO of America by now.

Learn to take a dick in your ass and find a gay boss and be willing to suck his cock and have your asshole stretched.

It's almost cute when CIC attempts humor. Maybe given a few hundred more years he'd get it right.

it's a brilliant illustration of how men are not offended by "sexist" talk.

Men would gladly use their sex appeal to further their finances and careers if they could. Pretty much all women who can do that will do that as well. The difference is that men will admit to using this tactic while women won't. We're all sluts and whores if we can be and ugly if we're not. But must we be hypocrites as well?

I think you're confusing fact with your homosexual fantasies about me. You seem to think a lot about my penis.

http://aboutmaleprivilege.tumblr.com/page/3

"Why can’t there be a male hooter’s equivalent where male servers are shirtless and highly sexualized for their bodies and looks

Male Strip clubs. You’re thinking of male strip clubs.

No. Not a male strip club. A strip club is a strip club. I want a place called Cahones where waiters wear Speedos and are forced to stuff if they don’t fill out their uniform well enough. I want them to giggle for my tips. I want it to be so normalised and engrained in our culture that women bring their daughters there for lunch (because whaaaaaat the wings are good! Geeze sensitive much?) where they’ll give playful little nudges like, “Wouldn’t mind if you dad had those. Heh heh heh.” that their daughters don’t even understand but will absorb and start to assume is just the normal way grown up women talk about grown up men. I want to playfully ask my waiter if I can have extra nuts on my salad and for him to swat my arm with an Oh, you because he knows if he doesn’t his manager will yell at him. I want other men to pretend to like going there so I think they’re cool. I want to go to Cahones during my lunch break at work and when I come back and tell the other women in the office where I went they chuckle slightly and the men around us suddenly feel self conscious and they don’t know why."

Indiana Jones says

I want a place called Cahones where waiters wear Speedos

How many women are wealthy today because they used their physics to marry well off men?
How many men have this possibility?

As much as you desperately want this to be fair and symmetric, well... it isn't.
Women (at least most) have the possibility to use their attractiveness, as well as their skills.

Stop blaming people who have nothing to do with this fact. It's not gonna change. Get over it.

Heraclitusstudent says

How many women are wealthy today because they used their physics to marry well off men?

How many men have this possibility?

http://www.nytimes.com/2010/01/19/us/19marriage.html?_r=0

" “Men now are increasingly likely to marry wives with more education and income than they have, and the reverse is true for women,” said Paul Fucito, spokesman for the Pew Center. “In recent decades, with the rise of well-paid working wives, the economic gains of marriage have been a greater benefit for men.”

The analysis examines Americans 30 to 44 years old, the first generation in which more women than men have college degrees. Women’s earnings have been increasing faster than men’s since the 1970s.

“We’ve known for some time that men need marriage more than women from the standpoint of physical and mental well-being,” said Stephanie Coontz, a professor at Evergreen State College in Olympia, Wash., and research director for the Council on Contemporary Families, a research and advocacy group. “Now it is becoming increasingly important to their economic well-being as well.” "

Indiana Jones says

men need marriage more than women from the standpoint of physical and mental well-being

Huh? Many married men are miserable. Who came up with this idea?

The fact is that a successful man, only needs to see escort gals. And in 10 to 15 years, they'll be sex robots.

This article is irrelevant. First because 78% of men still make more money than their wives and second because men who marry richer women are not picked by women because of their physical attributes, at least not to the same extent as the opposite.
Anyone with half a brain understands the basic economics of life. Mothers need financial support. Men want beautiful women.

Rin says

Indiana Jones says

men need marriage more than women from the standpoint of physical and mental well-being

Huh? Many married men are miserable. Who came up with this idea?

Single men have too much fun. They abuse good stuff, drink too much, do crazy things, and generally die maybe happy but young.

Heraclitusstudent says

Anyone with half a brain understands the basic economics of life. Mothers need financial support. Men want beautiful women.

bingo.

but dangerous to say out loud in modern times

Heraclitusstudent says

Single men have too much fun.

You got that part right and in life is too short not to.

I'm wondering about men whose minds are focused on big dicks.

Rin says

The fact is that a successful man, only needs to see escort gals. And in 10 to 15 years, they'll be sex robots.

Rin, I get your schtick, and we can agree that the icon of the modern American woman is quite a fucked up thing to comprehend (as is that of the modern American "man"). But don't we make life even more meaningless when we have no continuity with other human beings? Just fucking a new escort/sexbot every different day for the remaining 40-60 years of our lives doesn't really add much to our human experience other than satisfying animal needs (like eating, shitting, and sleeping).

Or do you propose that men and women can't have meaningful, continuous relationships based on anything beyond sex? If so, where shall humanity be found--or this is just a construct and not even necessary, a la Neil Stephenson or Phillip Dick?

Philistine says

Rin says

The fact is that a successful man, only needs to see escort gals. And in 10 to 15 years, they'll be sex robots.

Rin, I get your schtick, and we can agree that the icon of the modern American woman is quite a fucked up thing to comprehend (as is that of the modern American "man"). But don't we make life even more meaningless when we have no continuity with other human beings? Just fucking a new escort/sexbot every different day for the remaining 40-60 years of our lives doesn't really add much to our human experience other than satisfying animal needs (like eating, shitting, and sleeping).

Or do you propose that men and women can't have meaningful, continuous relationships based on anything beyond sex? If so, where shall humanity be found--or this is just a construct and not even necessary, a la Neil Stephenson or Phillip Dick?

You're overthinking things. Many of us, have childhood friends, who we're close to, male or female. For the most part, in platonic situations, relationships can form. We've been doing this thing for ages now.

The problem, afterwards, are these cultural cul-de-sacs, known as romantic relationships. This is the arena of half-truths/lies, which draw men and women together.

Once we eliminate the biological instincts from our real friendships, then things can evolve. I'd much rather bone a robot and then, have associations with old friends, then to waste my time, chasing women in the old fashion way.

I'd much rather bone a chinook, and bbq over mesquite with a little bit of santa maria seasoning...

Rin says

I'd much rather bone a robot and then, have associations with old friends, then to waste my time, chasing women in the old fashion way.

Indiana Jones says

Why can’t there be a male hooter’s equivalent where male servers are shirtless and highly sexualized for their bodies and looks

There are. They are called gay bars.

A 20-year-old woman flashes men. The men are all grateful.

A 20-year-old man flashes women. The women call the police.

That is why there are no venues that celebrate exploit male sexuality. Men most certainly would be willing to be sex symbols objects of desire, but both men and women suppress male sexuality while glorifying female sexuality. Just look at T.V. It's ok to show scantly clad lesbians, but not two fully clothed gay men kissing. How many times have you seen men kiss other men on t.v. and how many times have you seen women kiss other women?

Our society says: female sexuality good, male sexuality bad. It's not the women who are oppressed. It's the men.

Now in other societies like Japan and the Middle East, it's the opposite, but in ours it's men who need the next sexual revolution.

From the Journal of Political and Military Sociology, 2008, Vol. 36, No. 2 (Winter): Page 178, women make up 16.4% of the military and men make up 83.6% despite that there are equal numbers of young men and women. Considering that most video games are military games, I'd say that women are over-represented.

Dan8267 says

That is why there are no venues that celebrate exploit male sexuality. Men most certainly would be willing to be sex symbols objects of desire, but both men and women suppress male sexuality while glorifying female sexuality. Just look at T.V. It's ok to show scantly clad lesbians, but not two fully clothed gay men kissing. How many times have you seen men kiss other men on t.v. and how many times have you seen women kiss other women?

Our society says: female sexuality good, male sexuality bad. It's not the women who are oppressed. It's the men.

That is certainly a twist in logic. Thank you for showing me how a person can completely miss the difference between glorification of female sexuality and sexual objectification by males. Women would love it if men/society actually glorified their sexuality. This means also honoring, respecting, celebrating a woman's sexuality. Instead in our society female sexuality is often used and degraded for the purposes of male gratification, a la Hooters, strip clubs, prostititutes, carl's jr. commercials, etc. Corporate America is excellent at using sex in general to sell, so yes, male sexuality is also exploited though less often, and often for the gratification of homosexual men. Count the male strip clubs and prostititutes vs. female.

Why are lesbians kissing on TV and not gay men? Because heterosexual men don't want to see a man kissing a man. But they are totally into two women kissing. And yes, men still run Hollywood.

Dan8267 says

A 20-year-old woman flashes men. The men are all grateful.

A 20-year-old man flashes women. The women call the police.

Women are not walking around exposing their gentalita to men and then getting off on the shock value. See these articles:

http://www.smh.com.au/nsw/flashing-why-do-they-do-it-20120904-25bth.html

http://www.mykawartha.com/news-story/4252592-why-do-men-expose-themselves-to-get-a-reaction/

" "Why do men flash their genitals in public in the first place?

While there’s no definitive answer, Trent University psychology professor and sex researcher Terry Humphreys says attention seeking is at the core of this unsociable behaviour.

“Yes, they usually masturbate. Yes, they usually flash and they have an erection. But what they are getting off on is the shock or the disgust or that strong emotional reaction they get from others,” explains Dr. Humphreys. " "

Women do not flash for the above reasons. Women are flashing their boobs because they have learned they get something for it -- approval, adoration, sex, a stupid plastic necklace, whatever reward the man is offering. Our society teaches girls/women they are smart if they use their bodies to get what they want, and teaches men to objectify women -- they are merely a means to the gratification of men. When this continues in a society you get a person like Rin who doesn't care who or what sexually gratifies him -- it doesn't matter as long as his needs are taken care of and intimate personal connection is thrown out the window.

Indiana Jones says

Our society teaches girls/women they are smart if they use their bodies to get what they want, and teaches men to objectify women

BS.
It was like that long before "our society" came along.
It's called the "oldest profession" for a reason.

Considering women have something that men want and not the other way around, you should logically admit that this is to the advantage of women not men.

Only in your twisted logic is this translated into "women are oppressed".

Indiana Jones says

you get a person like Rin who doesn't care who or what sexually gratifies him -- it doesn't matter as long as his needs are taken care of and intimate personal connection is thrown out the window

And at the same time, I have a slew of friends and acquaintances, plus a successful career and hobbies, so it's not like I'm some isolated individual with zero social life.

You see, since women didn't put in a genuine effort into having a meaningful relationship with me, prior to that age of 29, when I finally saw the forest from the trees and realized it wasn't to my benefit, to waste time dating anymore. It'll be 4 years this spring, since I'd broken up with "Alanis Morrissette", the whack job Canadian, and I have no problems maintaining my dating-free lifestyle. Halleluiah!

Indiana Jones says

Thank you for showing me how a person can completely miss the difference between glorification of female sexuality and sexual objectification by males.

Instead of complaining that I missed what you wanted to convey, why don't you give specific details about what the hell you mean by "sexual objectification" and what specifically you want to say.

Indiana Jones says

Women would love it if men/society actually glorified their sexuality. This means also honoring, respecting, celebrating a woman's sexuality.

This is a perfect example of a meaningless statement. A man who looks at a woman and finds her attractive could be said to be honoring, respecting, and celebrating that woman's sexuality or he could be said to be a perverted, chauvinistic pig. The difference has nothing to do with what's going inside the man's head as you don't have access to that information. Instead, the difference is the arbitrary opinion of the person casting the judgement and it often has to do more with the man's perceived social status than his behavior.

Instead of talking in vague generalities like "honor" and "respect", you need to think about the subject matter more thoroughly so you can build up a detailed mental model of how you want men and women to behave and why. Then you need to write a specific, not vague, illustration of this and justify it to the rest of us.

Remember, it is you who are asking everyone else to change their behavior to conform to your standards. That means you must be able to outline the specific rules you want us to follow and you have to justify those rules to all of us. We are free to reject your rules if we find your reasons compelling.

Indiana Jones says

Instead in our society female sexuality is often used and degraded for the purposes of male gratification

First of all, is male gratification a bad thing? I take objection to that. Both male and female sexual gratification is a good thing. The complexities of sexual relations arise from how to achieve maximum gratification and the various trade-offs and dilemmas that occur in sexual relations, most of which revolve around intrasexual competition. I.e., the real secret of the battle of the sexes is that it's not a battle of men against women but rather a battle of men against men and women against women.

Second, you are implying, intentionally or not, that men being sexually aroused or gratified -- which by the way doesn't happen at Hooters -- is degrading to women. Perhaps you should start by specifying exactly what constitutes denigration. I sincerely doubt that all women have the same opinion on this. Some women think that showing their faces in public is degrading.

Sayeeda Warsi says women should be allowed to wear burkas at work

Wearing a burka does not prevent Muslim women ‘engaging in everyday life’ in Britain, the Conservative Party chairman Sayeeda Warsi claimed yesterday.

Now you and I might find the idea of a burka as oppressive, but who the hell are you and I to tell women who want to wear it -- and there are tens of millions of such women who strongly want that -- that they can't.

On the other end of the spectrum there are plenty of female nudists who have no problem with men seeing their bodies. There are also women making far more money than you or I are simply by modeling in a bikini for a beer billboard. These women do not find their work degrading. It's an easy way to make more money and live a better lifestyle than 95% of Americans while working a few hours a month. Hell, if that's degrading then sign me up.

What makes you think that the arbitrary lines you draw are representative of what all women in the world or even our country want? That's why you need to be damn specific and you need to be able to justify your opinion. And yes, this is all about your opinion not some fundamental, absolute, unchanging moral truth.

As for the reason there are Hooters and female models selling beer in bikinis and not the male equivalent, it's because female sexuality is valued by our species and our society while male sexuality is not. It's a biology thing. A male dies and no big deal because a single male can impregnate all the females in the tribe. A female dies and it's a tragedy because that's one less womb producing children. Like it or not, we still have the same brains, and thus the same values, as our Stone Age ancestors. If we valued people based on their contributions to our society, male engineers would be sexier than rock stars and athletes. But wishing evolution would catch up with technology isn't going to work. We'd have to change the human genome with genetic engineer.

Indiana Jones says

Women are not walking around exposing their gentalita to men and then getting off on the shock value.

They are getting off from the attention. Please see the documentaries listed here. There are hundreds of hours of young women demonstrating that they are thrilled to get attention by exposing themselves. They aren't receiving financial compensation for doing so. It's purely about the attention and revealing in the power they have because of their sexual appeal.

I happen to be an expert on this area having done ample research, but if you want I can do more.

But who are you to judge those women as being morally inferior, stupid, or wreckless? They are enjoying their youth. Now we can objectively discuss the various trade-offs their behavior constitutes, but applying a judgement to their behavior is entirely a matter of opinion.

Rin says

You see, since women didn't put in a genuine effort into having a meaningful relationship with me, prior to that age of 29,

This is very true. Women for the past 40 years have been following an almost exclusively short-term mating strategy during their peak sexual years only to scramble to get a long-term relationship once they reach their 30s and their bargaining power diminishes greatly.

Whether or not they are doing the right thing is an opinion. I prefer to understand the phenomenon first and only come to judgements later if at all.

Dan8267 says

Rin says

You see, since women didn't put in a genuine effort into having a meaningful relationship with me, prior to that age of 29,

This is very true. Women for the past 40 years have been following an almost exclusively short-term mating strategy during their peak sexual years only to scramble to get a long-term relationship once they reach their 30s and their bargaining power diminishes greatly.

Whether or not they are doing the right thing is an opinion. I prefer to understand the phenomenon first and only come to judgements later if at all.

Assuming that the above is accurate, I'd say that it's too late for them today. The idea is that ppl need to grow together. And thus, that partnership is that of growing together as a team, not as adversaries, during one's formative years.

And here, it's that one party (the females) who get to be a long term teenagers while the other party is told to 'man up'. Well, now that I'm long past my 20s, I see no need to hang out with aged teenagers in some charade-like ritual for spiritual and personal growth. That's New Age horseshit, not the reality we live in.

In summary ...

Dating & Romantic relationships are unsatisfying

Boning Hoes are satisfying.

It's as simple as that.

Heraclitusstudent says

It's called the "oldest profession" for a reason.

Considering women have something that men want and not the other way around, you should logically admit that this is to the advantage of women not men.

If a person feels empowered by prostituting their body, I have no problem with it -- it's their choice.

Most people prostitute themselves out during their lifetimes in some way or another. I believe whenever we compromise ourselves and do something that doesn't honor our selves, in return for something we believe we need or want, we are prostituting ourselves. In this way we are all "exploited" or "oppressed" -- men and women. Prostitution is obvious but ask ourselves: Am I doing work I dislike but I make good money? Are my talents/youth/energy/experience/good looks/intelligence etc. being exploited by my employer? Is money and good benefits worth it? Or am I exploiting others? Either way it's an individual choice. All I am asking for is awareness of what is actually happening.

Dan8267 says

Instead of talking in vague generalities like "honor" and "respect", you need to think about the subject matter more thoroughly so you can build up a detailed mental model of how you want men and women to behave and why. Then you need to write a specific, not vague, illustration of this and justify it to the rest of us.

Remember, it is you who are asking everyone else to change their behavior to conform to your standards. That means you must be able to outline the specific rules you want us to follow and you have to justify those rules to all of us. We are free to reject your rules if we find your reasons compelling.

I am not asking anyone to conform to my standards. Not at all. I am another voice here. I also am not making up a detailed mental model of how others should behave. That is absurd. It comes down to this: Are you using the other person or not? Everyone can ask themselves that and come to their own conclusions.

Dan8267 says

Second, you are implying, intentionally or not, that men being sexually aroused or gratified -- which by the way doesn't happen at Hooters -- is degrading to women. Perhaps you should start by specifying exactly what constitutes denigration. I sincerely doubt that all women have the same opinion on this. Some women think that showing their faces in public is degrading.

Of course everyone is free to do whatever they feel they need to do. A man being sexually gratified in a consenting intimate relationship with another person is not degrading. And yes, the Hooters girls signed up for the job so you can argue they have consented to letting men enjoy their cleavage. I am talking about systemic wide exploitation in using a person's body and sexuality to sell anything, whether it is a beer at Hooters, calvin klein jeans or a ticket into a strip joint. It has more to do with in the marketplace the ends can justify the means. Dan8267 says

But who are you to judge those women as being morally inferior, stupid, or wreckless?

Where did I say that? Those are your words. I have no judgment on what a woman decides for herself. I am interested in the underlying dynamics that lead all persons to prostitute themselves.

Indiana Jones says

I believe whenever we compromise ourselves and do something that doesn't honor our selves, in return for something we believe we need or want, we are prostituting ourselves. In this way we are all "exploited" or "oppressed" -- men and women.

So doing work you don't like is being exploited? As long as it is not forcefully imposed on you, why is that exploitation or degradation? It's just people struggling to survive.
And bottom line: in this effort women have an option men don't have. Nothing prevents them from taking the same crappy jobs men do.

Indiana Jones says

I am talking about systemic wide exploitation in using a person's body and sexuality to sell anything, whether it is a beer at Hooters, calvin klein jeans or a ticket into a strip joint.

This is exploitation by men? and not women FREELY choosing to use what nature gave them to get ahead?

Again, you've twisted an advantage women have into a perceived "exploitation". That's your perception. Nothing else.

Let's face it: If someone were to forbid women to ever use their beauty or attraction to derive a revenue, feminists would fall on that person like ‎smallpox on low Irish clergy. But absent such interdiction, they are happy to bitch about how women are "exploited".

Rin says

And here, it's that one party (the females) who get to be a long term teenagers while the other party is told to 'man up'.

This is true. However, both genders face the same problem. Ever since the invention of the pill, every successive generation has prolonged childhood. It used to be that at 18 your were an adult and expected to have a job, settle down, and start a family. The Boomers pushed it to the early 20s. Gen X pushed it to the late 20s. The Millennials don't think adulthood really begins until you reach 30 and your 20s are just for playing around.

Now we can prolong childhood as long as we want, but we all still age at the same rate as our Stone Age ancestors. Biologically, humans are evolved to select mates and reproduce in their teens and early 20s. Delaying long-term mate selection and engaging in short-term mate selection during the teens and 20s is the prime reason why today men and women are largely dissatisfied with their long-term romantic relationships.

The pill is a disruptive technology, like all significant technologies, and we have yet to create new mating rituals and rules to deal with the consequences of the pill. I think that eventually our society will, but it may take a few more generations. In the meantime, the mating market is a mess and strongly favors short-term mating at the expense of long-term mating. It's not men or women who are better off due to the pill, it's men and women following short-term mating strategies who are better off and happier, and men and women seeking long-term mates who are worse off and less happy as a result. After a few more generations, this may change.

Rin says

In summary ...

Dating & Romantic relationships are unsatisfying

Boning Hoes are satisfying.

It's as simple as that.

Um, yes, that's a shorter way of saying it.

Most young people don't date. That went out in the late 80s. By the early 1990s high school and college relationships were about "hooking up" rather than dating. You had one or more casual sexual partners, but it was a very ambiguous relationship. Neither party knew where they stand or whether or not they had a boyfriend/girlfriend or just a hookup partner.

It's not the situation I wanted when I was back in college -- I was one of the rare men seeking a long-term relationship and hunting for a wife -- but in retrospect I should have simply embraced the cultural change. I would have been happier back then.

The down side to this culture is that those few seeking long-term relationships are basically doomed to failure because no man or woman in the age range of 18-22 believes there's a snowball chance in hell that their romantic partners in college (or high school or post-high-school) are going to become their spouse. So everyone engages only in short-term relations and thus the criteria for choosing mates changes. It becomes far more superficial. This is bad for anyone seeking a long-term relationship or a potential life partner, but it's great for those seeking lots of short-term mates.

Now that I'm older and no longer desire to settle down, this plus the fact that the Millennials is a much larger generation than Gen X works greatly in my favor. Is it worth giving up finding your "soulmate" in college and settling down with him or her right away? Probably not, but that's not an option today anyway.

Indiana Jones says

I believe whenever we compromise ourselves and do something that doesn't honor our selves, in return for something we believe we need or want, we are prostituting ourselves.

Honey, you and everyone else prostitutes yourself every time you show up to work. Do you really want to be spending your time working for a corporation? You are trading your most precious commodity, time, for money. But you do that because you have to in order to make a living. It's not ideal, but it's hardly degrading.

As for sex, young men and women both want it and a lot. Young people are horny, like it or not -- and personally, I like it -- and that includes women. It is your opinion that a woman being horny and lusting after people and wanting to expose herself is degrading or prostituting or not "honorable" whatever the fuck that means. It certainly isn't a fact that feeling lust and being turned on by looking at or being looked at is somehow dishonorable or degrading.

Certainly there are trade-offs between short-term and long-term sexual behaviors and certainly the current system, for reasons too advance to get to in this discussion, is not the optimal solution for happiness for either gender. However, discussing those trade-offs and deciding what behavior will yield the maximum satisfaction in all aspects of one's life does not entail making some moral judgement against those who choose a different path than the one you like. Every person owns his or her sexuality and ultimate has no one to answer to except himself/herself and his or her long-term, committed mates.

I do agree that long-term relationships are more beneficial and stable, and obviously so given even basic game theory, but that's a practical assessment, not a moral one. In my opinion, the morality of sexual relations comes not in the choice of long-term vs. short-term, but rather in the choice of cooperation vs. defection. It's not immoral to seek short-term relations, which both genders do in abundance. However, It is immoral to pretend to seek a long-term relation with someone when you are really seeking a short-term one, and this is something both genders do. In males, this comes in the form of having a relationship lasting years, typically with a woman in her early to mid 20s, giving all the overtures of relationship that may lead to marriage but never having any intention of marrying her and then leaving her when she's older and he acquires a younger version of her. In females, this comes in the form of marrying a man for financial security and to have a father to help raise the children she has, almost always secretly, with another male.

I have had 26 sexual partners in my life so far -- I'd have had far more if I hadn't seeked long-term relationships exclusively in my teens and early to mid 20s. Not once did I pretend to be seeking a long-term relationship when I wasn't. Most of my sexual partners have been short-term ones that I did not love or intend to marry. However, I made no pretense that our relationship was more than sex and maybe friendship. As such I see no way in which I have ever degraded a woman. If you want to make the argument otherwise, then give me a reason why my actions were somehow "dishonorable" to the willing and quite frankly enthusiastic sexual partners I had. Also explain why the denigration seems to only go one way in your mind.

I'd say that looks and height are more important than money and power when it comes to scoring with chicks. Women love them a hot toned guy, and if he's also smart and nice, it will be hard to make them leave him alone. As long as he's self sufficient, well groomed, and doesn't reek of desperation, women will spread their legs.
Honestly, it's hardly difficult to get women to boink with these days. What's hard is maintaining a relationship with one long enough to have and raise kids. I get more enjoyment from my kids than my sex life, but whatever. You make your choices in this life, and there are trade-offs to every arrangement.

Hard or soft? :-/

Quigley says

As long as he's self sufficient, well groomed, and doesn't reek of desperation, women will spread their legs.

Honestly, it's hardly difficult to get women to boink with these days. What's hard is maintaining a relationship with one long enough to have and raise kids.

And you see how both of these things are related to each other and to the pill, right? The pill resulted in a dramatic shift in the mating market -- and yes, it is a market like it or not -- from long-term to short-term. This has made it almost trivially easy to get laid for men, but it has also made it nearly impossible to establish and maintain a life-long relationship or to find a quality life-partner. Note that life-partner and sexual partner mean completely different things.

Quigley says

As long as he's self sufficient, well groomed, and doesn't reek of desperation, women will spread their legs

I need names and phone numbers please......

I don't disagree with you on this, Dan. The current culture is extremely hostile to marriage and committed lifelong relationships. Women are constantly encouraged to seek their own wants and needs and ignore the needs of their partner. Men are subjected to extreme cultural criticism about their looks, style, hair, job, wealth, education, and even their penis. Whenever something goes wrong, it's up to the man to fix things, and if fixing things takes too much time or effort you can be sure the woman will complain about that too. Men are expected to repress their feelings but be in touch with hers and willin to listen to hours of the most mind numbing drivel as she bitches about the trivial inconveniences in her life, but they mustn't zone out or stop listening! No, that is death if she catches them! Oh, and men should keep their own problems to themselves, no matter how horrendous and soul crushing. Admitting difficulties to a woman raises a red flag in her mind that the man might be on the road to Loserville, which triggers an automatic flight or seek-a-new-man syndrome.
And that's the best case scenario.

Sometimes I think those Muslims have it right with the way they treat their women.

Dan8267 says

Honey, you and everyone else prostitutes yourself every time you show up to work. Do you really want to be spending your time working for a corporation? You are trading your most precious commodity, time, for money. But you do that because you have to in order to make a living. It's not ideal, but it's hardly degrading.

Now that I've known a bunch of prostitutes, I can say one thing, many would rather go that route than to take on a "real" job.

For instance, one wanted to be in financial services, but after a few months of 50 hour work weeks, she dropped it, to see clients at $200/hr, which is the going rate with a lot of Australian escorts. The average Australian accountant earns ~$54K/yr. She makes that, seeing 2 or 3 clients per week for a few hours. Obviously, she does more work because it looked like she traveled a lot to England, Singapore, etc, but it's not like the work is taxing. I mean it's just BJs and spreading her legs.

Quigley says

Women love them a hot toned guy, and if he's also smart and nice, it will be hard to make them leave him alone.

Actually, women love hot, toned, and tattooed douchebags. Or if the woman wants pure white collar, an abusive sales executive or sociopathic litigator. But yes, they're both categories of douchebags, though douchebags, conceptually, are more associated with rogues/thugs.

The man in your statement is actually me and for the most part, until I'd left STEM for financial services, women were not that interested in me. But today, I'm no longer 'nice' just outwardly polite. And I don't care to date women anymore.