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Anyone like me ? 40 , married with kid and renting...


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2011 Apr 15, 4:18am   26,226 views  87 comments

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I am just curious if there is anyone out there who has a profile like. I am married, 40 and have a daughter and rent in a great neighborhood in LA. Wife and I have always wanted to buy a home but it just seems still expensive. We earn a decent salary way above the average and daughter goes to elementary school which has great ratings. We miss the "living at our own home" feeling and sometimes feel like "losers". Especially since almost all of our small friends circle have bought homes during the peak and have lost on the equity.

Deep within I know we are still way better than other financially and socially. Like we go on cruises, travel around, weekend movies and all that but our friends hardly do that.. So i do understand that even though we dont have a home to call ourselves, our lives are more colorful and merrier than other home owners...

Just wanted to vent and see what peoples opinions are..

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55   FunTime   2012 Aug 28, 4:17am  

Gudhjem says

Keeping a bunch of cash in the bank, in the face of increasingly desperate government action, makes me lose more sleep than I think having a mortgage will.

If I start thinking that way, I'm starting a compound with AF. How does that make sense when banks ultimately hold the mortgage too?

56   bob2356   2012 Aug 28, 4:56am  

FunTime says

Gudhjem says

Keeping a bunch of cash in the bank, in the face of increasingly desperate government action, makes me lose more sleep than I think having a mortgage will.

If I start thinking that way, I'm starting a compound with AF. How does that make sense when banks ultimately hold the mortgage too?

Move your money overseas while you can, more and more foreign banks are refusing to deal with Americans any more because of the IRS, but you can do it if you want. I don't keep much cash in the US.

57   everything   2012 Aug 28, 5:13am  

Nope, they say it costs $250k to raise a kid these days, figured I'd never be able to come up with the money. Looked into marriage as well, dated lots of girls, feminism reared it's ugly head, and I decided I was going to be the one to tell me what to do and not her. To many people, mostly girls, I'm not just a loser, but a selfish loser. I secretly admire my independence. Could I afford to buy?, sure, but they don't make many houses around where I live single people size and I won't pay taxes on a pile of sticks, concrete, glue, plastic, and oil.

58   justme   2012 Aug 28, 5:15am  

Katy Perry says

Thanks Patrick.

DC

I have a question, I accidentally pressed dislike then like, but the dislike still is counted. Is that a bug, Patrick?

(was intending to "like" your post, Katy Perry)

59   New Renter   2012 Aug 28, 5:34am  

everything says

Nope, they say it costs $250k to raise a kid these days, figured I'd never be able to come up with the money.

If that were true then you would see the birthrate in this country approach zero. Few would be able to afford one, let alone multiple children. Yet such families exist and those kids do just fine.

60   Rin   2012 Aug 28, 6:39am  

Darrell In Phoenix says

Rin says

western MA

The berks aren't exactly "the" place to be.

Not exactly Berks, though I have plenty of friends there, more in the zone approx 1 hr from Rte 495 and 1 hr to Northampton/Amherst college towns. When I work on 495, I don't rent a sublet; I only rent, when my work brings me to Boston (or North shore of MA), Providence, or Hartford-New Haven. Thus, I have 3-4 days of clothes, packed for the road.

I basically write off that extra cost, circa $500-$600/month x 6 mos contract or $3K-$4K (i.e. http://providence.craigslist.org/roo/index100.html), since it's away from the tax home, primary residence, and near a place where I conduct business.

61   everything   2012 Aug 28, 8:01am  

That's only 13k per year, of course if you've noticed the explosion of single parenting, you can let the government help pay for it instead that way. I pay for it through my taxes, so I'm raising someone else's kids already either way you look at it.

New renter says

everything says

Nope, they say it costs $250k to raise a kid these days, figured I'd never be able to come up with the money.

If that were true then you would see the birthrate in this country approach zero. Few would be able to afford one, let alone multiple children. Yet such families exist and those kids do just fine.

62   B.A.C.A.H.   2012 Aug 28, 12:22pm  

E-man says

We'll see whose kids will be ahead of the curb financially in the future

Haha that's a good one, on different levels. Ahead of the curb. Yeah, we know what dogs and drunks do in the curb. Ahead of the curb. Yeah that's right.

63   Eman   2012 Aug 28, 1:20pm  

B.A.C.A.H. says

E-man says

We'll see whose kids will be ahead of the curb financially in the future

Haha that's a good one, on different levels. Ahead of the curb. Yeah, we know what dogs and drunks do in the curb. Ahead of the curb. Yeah that's right.

Ah. That should have been "curve". Too much real estate thinking and not enough women thinking. ;)

64   New Renter   2012 Aug 28, 1:49pm  

everything says

That's only 13k per year, of course if you've noticed the explosion of single parenting, you can let the government help pay for it instead that way. I pay for it through my taxes, so I'm raising someone else's kids already either way you look at it.

New renter says

everything says

Nope, they say it costs $250k to raise a kid these days, figured I'd never be able to come up with the money.

If that were true then you would see the birthrate in this country approach zero. Few would be able to afford one, let alone multiple children. Yet such families exist and those kids do just fine.

Where did that $13k come from?

65   New Renter   2012 Aug 28, 1:50pm  

E-man says

Send them to public schools instead of private schools. Send them to community college for 2 years before transfer to a university. That should save a bundle.

People are so anal about education so they deserve to pay through the nose for those private schools. I'd rather take that $500k and invest it. We'll see whose kids will be ahead of the curb financially in the future.

Agreed.

66   thomaswong.1986   2012 Aug 28, 1:56pm  

everything says

That's only 13k per year, of course if you've noticed the explosion of single parenting, you can let the government help pay for it instead that way. I pay for it through my taxes, so I'm raising someone else's kids already either way you look at it

How about getting that kid a part time job.. after 2 years in jr. college their last 2 years is fully paid without govt help.. thats how people in the past did it.. and it works!

67   W.C. Varones   2012 Aug 28, 9:09pm  

I sat out the bubble too but finally ended up buying.

Prices are down, rates are 3.75%, 8% GDP deficits suggest a high probability of future inflation.

Declare victory and move on.

68   nuke   2012 Aug 28, 10:58pm  

As a 55 year old professional, my wife and I raised two kids and have a wonderful granddaughter, but we never owned our house. Around the time when we were planning on buying, an opportunity to simply rent in the same neighbourhood where we wanted to live came up. Fortunately it was newer townhouse in public housing. The rent has stayed low and is about 10% of income. Over time we have had the house completing renovated with new windows, furnace, patio, roof, hardwood kithchen with ceramics, new bathroom, new appliances etc. The rent sometimes goes up but many years did not. The average increase was less than 2%. Fortunately my own income over the time I rented has tripled and now that I am close to retirement the rent will still be a small fraction of my pensions.

The homes in the neighbourhood are still expensive at about 1 to 1.5 million. Using Patrick's rent to own calculator is a good tool to use and it shows our opportunity cost to owning is massive.

There has been incredle freedom renting. A vacation to Hawaii with my family and my mother-in-law (who is great) and another vacation in Israel and Jordan likely would be difficult if I didn't feel comfortable with my cash flow. Owning a house would mean that I would have too much personal equity in a non-productive asset and that as the property appreciated the property tax, insurance and overall expenses would also increase.

69   bg   2012 Aug 28, 11:40pm  

benviews says

The main problem with this scenario is my inability to "do up" a rental place... So I find myself facing rental options that are either overpriced or a little worn at times.

We fixed up our rental about 18 months ago. We aren't leaving the area in the next 10 years. We looked at the price of a nicer rental and the cheap rent on where we are. The math worked out to rent and spend about 5k on the rental.

70   bg   2012 Aug 28, 11:45pm  

Sean7593 says

Remember the story of the grasshopper and the ant:

The ant works hard in the withering
heat all summer long, building his
house and laying up supplies for the winter.

The grasshopper thinks theant is a fool
and laughs and dances and plays the summer away.

Come winter, the ant is warm and well fed.
The grasshopper has no food or
shelter, so he dies out in the cold.

Just some food for thought while you are enjoying your next cruise

When you don't own a house with a tanking value that costs more than an equivalent rental, you can save money and go on a cruise.

I don't think you are going to die out in the cold.

71   New Renter   2012 Aug 29, 1:50am  

Sean7593 says

Remember the story of the grasshopper and the ant:

The ant works hard in the withering
heat all summer long, building his
house and laying up supplies for the winter.

The grasshopper thinks theant is a fool
and laughs and dances and plays the summer away.

Come winter, the ant is warm and well fed.
The grasshopper has no food or
shelter, so he dies out in the cold.

Just some food for thought while you are enjoying your next cruise!

The real ending to that story however is is the grasshopper being well rested and in good health from a summer of leisure easily "liberate" all the food from the ant. The ant, exhausted from his summer of back breaking labor, is cast out into the cold to die penniless and alone while the grasshopper enjoys the fruits of the ant's labor throughout the winter. The next summer the fat grasshopper simply finds another industrious ant victim to prey upon.

The original story is told by the grasshoppers to encourage the ants to work harder, to not worry about the lazy grasshoppers as they will get theirs in the end. The grasshoppers do "get theirs" but not in the way the ants think.

72   Tenpoundbass   2012 Aug 29, 2:02am  

Don't soil your hands like those silly ants, come laugh and sing and play and dance... "Oh the world owes us a living..."

73   bg   2012 Aug 29, 2:21am  

Gudhjem says

One thing that's pushing me, that I haven't seen anyone mention here, is nervousness about wealth preservation as a renter. Keeping a bunch of cash in the bank, in the face of increasingly desperate government action, makes me lose more sleep than I think having a mortgage will. Watching coming inflation eat away at my down payment is an uncomfortable thought.

I worry about that, but I feel that the loss in value in a house is pretty compelling at the moment.

74   swebb   2012 Aug 29, 2:39am  

elliemae says

AF is rapidly becoming my (snotty) hero. LMAO

He had me at "plant potatoes"

75   Patrick   2012 Aug 29, 2:49am  

Gudhjem says

Watching coming inflation eat away at my down payment is an uncomfortable thought.

There's a limit to what the government or the Fed can do, and it's imposed by the bond market.

The bond market will demand higher interest rates if inflation goes up, and higher interest rates will drive house prices down.

It looks like we're following Japan's example pretty closely: low interest rates and deflation for years to come.

76   dublin hillz   2012 Aug 29, 2:52am  


Gudhjem says



Watching coming inflation eat away at my down payment is an uncomfortable thought.


There's a limit to what the government or the Fed can do, and it's imposed by the bond market.


The bond market will demand higher interest rates if inflation goes up, and higher interest rates will drive house prices down.


It looks like we're following Japan's example pretty closely: low interest rates and deflation for years to come.

Except in those situations where archstone raises rents by 30% while "high yield" savings account pay 0.2% lol

77   michaelsch   2012 Aug 29, 3:06am  

56, four kids. Two of them on their own now: one in a medical school another after college. Two kids still at home.

Renting in So. Pasadena the same three bedroom appartment for last 14 years.

Great neighborhood, with a lot of highly educated people around: JPL researchers, Caltech, USC etc teachers and grad students, doctors and lawers all renters. Buying here would be still too expensive. Buying in less expensive area makes some sense, but my kids (especially the young one) would hate it.

78   Giacomo57   2012 Aug 29, 3:46am  

55, no kids. Bought our first house in 1994, in Pasadena, CA. Yes, there was "pride of ownership," but also stress, even though paying the mortgage was never a problem. Suddenly you have to care if the roof might have a leak, the bathroom sink is draining slowly, or the next-door neighbor is hosting all night parties. You're stuck. You can't move quickly, at least not without taking a huge loss, and this fact influences what jobs you can consider.

Sold in 2006 (taking bow) and moved to rural area, and renting a house on acreage now, working over internet. Can't hear the neighbors. House needs repairs, but I've learned not to care unless my belongings are getting wet. Have to be more careful about acquiring loads of "toys," but that's probably a good thing. Have been moving every few years as landlords default on their mortgages --or we just find a better house to rent.

It's not perfect, but we sleep well at night. We're enjoying life, have many options, and our savings are safe. We've throw off the burdens of "keeping up with the Joneses" and have stopped measuring our happiness by our proximity to coffee bars and opera houses.

Home ownership = happiness. It's a lie, perpetrated by real estate industry and supported by politicians and social engineers (who want captive, "invested" adherents) and old industry (which wanted a stable, "invested" immobile workforce).

Buying a house ought to be instead regarded be a luxury purchase, something you MIGHT opt for after you're completely set otherwise.

79   EBGuy   2012 Aug 29, 4:40am  

E-man said: I'd rather take that $500k and invest it. We'll see whose kids will be ahead of the curb financially in the future.
Your kids will thank you for their inherited Prop 13 tax basis.

80   Patrick   2012 Aug 29, 5:28am  

justme says

I have a question, I accidentally pressed dislike then like, but the dislike still is counted. Is that a bug, Patrick?

Not a bug. You can like and dislike a comment. Maybe I should add an undo somehow.

81   chip_designer   2012 Aug 29, 7:02am  

mnsweeps says

our lives are more colorful and merrier than other home owners...

how about sex life? good too?

82   New Renter   2012 Aug 29, 7:03am  

CaptainShuddup says

Don't soil your hands like those silly ants, come laugh and sing and play and dance... "Oh the world owes us a living..."

Not the world, just the ants.

83   New Renter   2012 Aug 29, 7:15am  

EBGuy says

E-man said: I'd rather take that $500k and invest it. We'll see whose kids will be ahead of the curb financially in the future.

Your kids will thank you for their inherited Prop 13 tax basis.

Unless of course the price remains stagnant or drops.

84   SanPedro   2012 Aug 29, 7:20am  

Not exactly, but being a 33 y/o PHX resident, I feel like I've endured 20 years of RE "are you going to buy?" pressure in the last 8. It ratcheted up after marriage, but we kept our 1bd with great landlords, rearranged some furniture, and kicked up our feet with some bubbly.

The plan has always been to save, cautiously invest, travel a little, and keep an eye on the long term. Things are starting to change; we're looking at the long-term career path for both of us and that likely means relocating, at least for a while. One more reason renting was a good choice.

85   New Renter   2012 Aug 29, 7:22am  

EBGuy says

E-man said: I'd rather take that $500k and invest it. We'll see whose kids will be ahead of the curb financially in the future.

Your kids will thank you for their inherited Prop 13 tax basis.

You are also assuming the kids will live nearby AND be in a position to either assume control of the property or become landlords. If however they are living hundreds of miles away dealing with the vacant house will be a HUGE PITA for them. Not everyone is up to the challenge. They'd likely be happier if you had invested that $500k instead.

86   Eman   2012 Aug 29, 4:45pm  

New renter says

EBGuy says

E-man said: I'd rather take that $500k and invest it. We'll see whose kids will be ahead of the curb financially in the future.

Your kids will thank you for their inherited Prop 13 tax basis.

Unless of course the price remains stagnant or drops.

Totally possible. In fact my educated guess is that home prices will remain stagnant or decrease starting in the 1/2 half of 2013, which is fantastic. It will give me an opportunity to pick up a couple more properties.

I met with an individual from Patnet and her spouse earlier this year. They were interested in investing and flipping properties. However, my conservative estimate of the potential return didn't meet their expectation so we parted. At that time, I suggested buying condos and townhomes if they want to buy & hold. I gave them the parameters and approx location of these units. I hope they did something with the information. I bought two more properties, scheduled to close one more next week, and in contract for two more with my partner since then.

All of the properties that I bought for myself and my partner have appreciated a good $40k-$50k. To be fair, I always offer the property to my partner first, if he doesn't want it, I'll buy it for myself. He reads and posts on here. EBguy knows his handle. According to my partner, these properties are minting money right now.

Properties that I bought in 2009 has appreciated even more. So yes. Prices should stagnate to decrease is definitely in the cards.

I will likely sell most of the properties on the next RE cycle except 3 or 4, which I intend to keep forever. Kids can cash them out whenever. Hopefully the properties will worth some nickels by then. I just want to give my kids a head start. Education is good and all, but I refuse to pay through the nose for it. No freaking way.

87   JodyChunder   2012 Aug 29, 5:54pm  

E-man says

Totally possible. In fact my educated guess is that home prices will remain stagnant or decrease starting in the 1/2 half of 2013, which is fantastic. It will give me an opportunity to pick up a couple more properties.

Now you are thinking. Stay out of Victorville, though. This is Chunderland.

I met with an individual from Patnet and her spouse earlier this year. They were interested in investing and flipping properties.

Ewww. Step away from the HGTV, nerds.

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