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Don't have the baby in a hospital. I'm guessing that decision is already done, but seriously, that was the worst part of both births.
Don't have the baby in a hospital. I'm guessing that decision is already done, but seriously, that was the worst part of both births.Thankfully the wife saw everything happening with COVID and decided we were doing a homebirth. It was a nightmare trying to find a midwife that didn't judge us for being unvaccinated, which struck me as odd because I would have imagined that homebirth midwives would be less militant about that stuff. I'll have to be specific about the umbilical cord stuff but I think I'll just take the duty of cutting it while taking my sweet sweet time. Breastfeeding will be the norm but I'm curious about that organic formula you mentioned. Almost all the formula I've seen are basically just corn syrup solids liquified. Is there a specific brand you used?
Sorry for a more personal thread and a shift from political topics. My first child's birth is pretty close now and I've realized that I still feel totally unprepared. I've never really felt simultaneously excited and terrified like this before. Any of you patnet fathers have any advice? Anything you wish you knew before that you learned the hard way?I know that this will probably be the most important thing I do with my life and I just want to be aware of how others navigate this because I don't really have any fathers in my life to ask for advice. Thanks, patnet.
but it's worth it.
7) I'm going to disagree with WookieMan (who I respect) and say help where you can. Parenting is a team effort.My point was don't be cucked by your wife. If you're working 50 hours a week and she's at home with a kid on maternity leave, it's 100% her job. You'll change a diaper here and there and feed, but it shouldn't be expected. Like you said she can nap when the baby naps. There's really not much sleep deprivation as the adult unless you jump every time the baby cries. Give it 10 minutes at least. By 20 minutes maybe check it out. Depends on the scenario. If you just changed them and know they're not sick they'll eventually bail on the crying. We were super hyper with our oldest and gave little shits about our youngest, not in a bad way. We just learned our overreaction led to making it worse. Our 2nd was sleeping through the night because we ign...
7) I'm going to disagree with WookieMan (who I respect) and say help where you can. Parenting is a team effort.
Oh, and space documentaries are great - soothing music, not to much flashing on the screen
I know that this will probably be the most important thing I do with my life
Learn about baby's poop, there is poop chart. They can go without pooping for up to 5 days.
I'm a grandfather now. It is easy to see where my shortcomings were when raising 2 girls. I needed more patience and understanding.
Men don't have patience really.
Your baby stays alive with me
Watch out for the terrible 2s which can last from 1 1/2 to 3 1/2 easily lol
Your baby stays alive with meLol. My wife tells me this all the time. "You just keep the kids alive." I'm like no shit? What's the alternative? I'm a Bill Burr type personality wise. Not as funny. But I'm raw. I also have boys, so it's easier in a sense to shoot the shit. I passively have told a friends daughter to fuck off when she was annoying me... she always does and she knows it... Regretted it as she is 11, but I'm used to my boys and did I mention she's annoying. She wasn't upset and laughed (she won that battle) and the parents gave no shits. If I did that in Chicago or Oak Park, IL I'd be immediately arrested for some reason.
Watch out for the terrible 2s which can last from 1 1/2 to 3 1/2 easily lolI'm in the terrible 12's currently. Voice change action going on. 20 minute showers and clogged drains... we all know what's going on there. I really need to have the real talk here soon, not the school one, but have been avoiding it. I was viewing porn online at my oldest kids age. Have fun with the baby DhammaStep. The fun is only just beginning. lol.
Yep most don't, we're mostly wired that way. I can take physical care of any baby probably better than 80% of mothers,
Lol. My wife tells me this all the time. "You just keep the kids alive." I'm like no shit? What's the alternative?
Men don't have patience really.Yep most don't, we're mostly wired that way. I can take physical care of any baby probably better than 80% of mothers, know what to watch out for and how to treat. Your baby stays alive with me, whatever happens. However when it comes to bitching and crying and screaming, to not sleeping or fucking shit up where I said no twice you will get zero patience and 100% consequences. That's why when they are newborns/infants, it's often better to just put them in a crib in another room and shut the door and take care of yourself. Most abusive violence to babies comes from mothers, and sometimes it started with wanting to be there for every little shit and cry until they reached a no sleep breaking point. Rule number one for parents is to take care of themselves first as long as the kid is healthy, they are far more brittle than their ...
Best thread I've seen on here in a long time. And the most important one.
Huge thanks to everyone in this thread that offered advice. It's all invaluable.Now, can anyone remind me what eight hours of sleep felt like again?
I could sleep 10 hours no problem pre-kids. I'm lucky to get 3-4 now. Not a joke. All mine are 10 plus age wise at this point. I'm just an insomniac and it sucks. Don't know if it was the kids or just natural/aging. It's been really bad lately. Took a break from weed for a job. Wife is traveling I think I might pound some tonight. I don't think I've had any since February.