12
0

RIP turtledove


 invite response                
2016 Nov 15, 2:44pm   75,718 views  248 comments

by MMR   ➕follow (1)   💰tip   ignore  

I just heard some extremely sad news that turtledove passed away recently, quite possibly over weekend. Had been in touch with her regarding a family issue and I got an email from her husband today indicating that she had passed away before I had a chance to reply . I am not privy to any other details.

Was very thoughtful of her husband to contact me, given his level of grief and work responsibilities in light of the bad news. She was a kind generous person who asked her husband to reach out to me on deathbed to meet up and discuss our case with us.

Personally, I'm in shock, as it seems to have happened this past Saturday or Sunday.

« First        Comments 168 - 207 of 248       Last »     Search these comments

168   527d   2016 Nov 18, 11:44am  

Hello, everyone. I'm Turtle Dove's stepmother and found this site searching for information. I will gladly let everyone know more information as we receive it. We are in contact with S-I-L and hope to have final arrangements in next couple of days. This is a very sad time for us and after reading all the comments here, we know that she had an amazing group of friends. Thank you for all your kind words. Yes, she was a beautiful woman and will sorely be missed. Please be patient, we will have more details soon. Cynthia

170   Indiana Jones   2016 Nov 20, 12:52am  

I will miss you Turtledove. Thank you for your wit, intelligence and courage in representing the women on Patnet. Sympathy for her family and their tremendous loss.

171   HEY YOU   2016 Nov 20, 8:43am  

Have we been giving Turtledove too much credit?
Anyone on patnet deserves no credit.
They deserve psychiatric care.

172   indigenous   2016 Nov 20, 9:26am  

Projecting are we?

173   HEY YOU   2016 Nov 20, 9:51am  

indigenous says

Projecting are we?

The truth is not always pleasant.

174   indigenous   2016 Nov 20, 10:01am  

Is that what they are calling it now days?

175   FNWGMOBDVZXDNW   2016 Nov 21, 9:01am  

^She had migraines and was often up late many nights. She fell down the stairs. She was hospitalized, and then she died. That's what we've been told in this thread.
She could have had some undetected trauma (brain bleed or something) or some drug interaction that contributed, but we don't know. We don't really have any right to know any more than what we've been told. Those details are not really of any consequence to anyone here personally other than to satisfy curiosity, so we might as well be respectful, and leave it alone.

TD was one of my favorite regular posters, and it seems that many others shared that opinion.

176   Tenpoundbass   2016 Nov 21, 9:12am  

YesYNot says

TD was one of my favorite regular posters, and it seems that many others shared that opinion.

I know I was busted up pretty good upon hearing of this tragedy.

177   Blurtman   2016 Nov 21, 9:28am  

The funeral service details have been posted in post 180. Are any of the local PatNetters going to pay their respects in person?

178   Eman   2016 Nov 21, 9:33am  

I've been sad reading this thread. We love you turtledove. You will be missed courageous lady.

R.I.P!

179   Patrick   2016 Nov 21, 9:44am  

I'm still stunned by the whole thing. I just met her in person for the first (and last) time in July in SF. Met her kids too. She was great in person, just like online. It's surreal.

180   zzyzzx   2016 Nov 21, 10:44am  

YesYNot says

We don't really have any right to know any more than what we've been told.

We already know way more than we would be told in most cases, and we need to be grateful for that. There is already a chance that we have already lost at least one other person, but never noticed except they stopped posting and nobody mentioned it. At least we got some closure here.

181   NDrLoR   2016 Nov 21, 11:39am  

zzyzzx is deplorable says

There is already a chance that we have already lost at least one other person,

Rin? Wouldn't surprise me, though, considering the company he hung out with.

182   Rin   2016 Nov 21, 11:42am  

P N Dr Lo R says

Rin? Wouldn't surprise me, though, considering the company he hung out with.

What horseshit! There have been numerous folks, before me, who'd f.ucked hoes! And P N Dr Lo R isn't actually original. Even Emmanuel Swedenborg kept telling ppl that he'd spoken to god everyday, as a way of feeling better than those who'd simply f.ucked hoes!

183   Rin   2016 Nov 21, 11:44am  

Rin says

Emmanuel Swedenborg

And now, this enlightened dufus will tell us that Swedenborg was a heretic! So typical of a born again loser!

184   Y   2016 Nov 21, 12:48pm  

Hoes fuck a lot of people.
People who fuck hoes fuck a lot of people.
AIDS is passed by promiscuous people
Being 'careful' is not bulletproof.
But hey, don't let the facts get in the way of your self-inflicted death virus...

Rin says

P N Dr Lo R says

Rin? Wouldn't surprise me, though, considering the company he hung out with.

What horseshit!

185   popsicle10   2016 Nov 21, 1:23pm  

Jez, there are some seriously fucked up people here, commenting on an RIP and they turn it into nasty shit all about abusing each other

186   elliemae   2016 Nov 21, 10:54pm  

Patrick says

anonymous says

"Are you suggesting that Ellie Mae is not a woman ?

She is a woman. I'll write her to see if she's OK.

I do think women in general avoid unmoderated forums.

Especially with all the 4 letter words that are so commonly used."

I'm here, am all woman, can hold my own and can swear like a mutherfucker. It is very sad to hear about Turtledove, and (of course) sadder still to read all of the bullshit comments made about the possible causes of her death and to make even a little light of it.. It's a difficult time when a family suffers a loss, and it's a double whammy when someone who was as loyal to Patnet as she is vilified by some of the assholes here. "spousal abuse" - WTF???? "i'm not saying she's alive, but there's some details that don't really feel 100% authentic..." Again - WTF????

I took a vacation from ya'll. I miss some of you, many not-so-much.

Turtledove was well written, spoke her mind and had much more patience than many of you give her credit for. She had a husband, a family, a life IRL. Show some respect, if you can pull it out your ass.

187   anonymous   2016 Nov 21, 11:08pm  

elliemae says

"i'm not saying she's alive, but there's some details that don't really feel 100% authentic..." Again - WTF????

i stand by that - a fall down stairs is the most random fucking thing ever to kill a middle aged adult. and for a shocked husband to take any time whatsoever to email a random fucking loosely connected internet dude is fucking WEIRD.

188   MMR   2016 Nov 21, 11:26pm  

landtof says

elliemae says

"i'm not saying she's alive, but there's some details that don't really feel 100% authentic..." Again - WTF????

i stand by that - a fall down stairs is the most random fucking thing ever to kill a middle aged adult. and for a shocked husband to take any time whatsoever to email a random fucking loosely connected internet dude is fucking WEIRD.

1. Turtle dove was an online friend
2. I was discussing a real life family issue with her that her husband is eminently qualified to address.

I would say that I was slightly surprised to hear from him, but mostly appreciative. Maybe he just has patients to treat/procedures to do and has to hold it together for the sake of his family at home and work.

If the investigation brings up any signs of foul play, I'm sure it will make the news.

189   Tenpoundbass   2016 Nov 22, 5:17am  

elliemae says

I'm here

Glad to hear?

190   elliemae   2016 Nov 22, 7:37pm  

Turtledove obviously cared about the imaginary friends here at Patnet. One might argue that her husband honored her by letting us know.

I'm actually kicking around driving 500 miles to attend the service. Not sure I can take time off work, I guess I'll let ya'll know.

191   Patrick   2016 Nov 29, 7:02pm  

@elliemae did you go?

If not, any idea if we can get the death certificate? I still don't quite believe it. Turtledove was quite healthy and happy from what I could tell in July.

192   527d   2016 Dec 1, 9:01am  

The memorial celebration is scheduled for December 9, 2016 at 3:30 pm at the Lesneski Mortuary, 640 South Camino Real, San Clemente, CA for anyone inquiring the status. If anything changes, I'll leave a message here. Cynthia

193   elliemae   2016 Dec 1, 12:14pm  

No - I didn't go. I might be able to make it to the memorial. Will keep you posted.

194   justme   2016 Dec 1, 4:03pm  

Something funny happened today. I was driving at lunchtime and flipped on AM960 (Bloomberg Radio) at 12:51 and they were just starting to talk about turtledoves (the bird), and how they were in short supply compared to partridges (something to do with Christmas, I suppose).

From wikipedia:

Perhaps because of Biblical references (especially the well-known verse from the Song of Songs), its mournful voice, and the fact that it forms strong pair bonds, European turtle doves have become emblems of devoted love. In the New Testament, two turtle doves are mentioned as the customary offering during the Presentation of Jesus at the Temple.[15] In Renaissance Europe, the European turtle dove was envisaged as the devoted partner of the Phoenix. Robert Chester's poem Love's Martyr is a sustained exploration of this symbolism. It was published along with other poems on the subject, including William Shakespeare's poem "The Phoenix and the Turtle" (where "turtle" refers to the turtle dove).

195   KgK one   2016 Dec 1, 4:20pm  

Sorry to hear about any death of patnet member. We just lost one opinion /idea. She was great and active, also provided female view

197   anonymous   2016 Dec 6, 10:44am  

Dang she was a Philly girl at heart, makes sense. She was a tough cookie

198   Ironworker   2016 Dec 6, 10:52am  

Life is short!

Stop stressing about money. Have it as a hobby only!

Live life in the moment. Slow down! Don't pay expensive mortgages! Spend time with your kids and loved ones.

That's pretty it. We are all heading there. Remember it and use it as a tool for a good life.

199   B.A.C.A.H.   2016 Dec 6, 6:56pm  

rando says

I'm still stunned by the whole thing. I just met her in person for the first (and last) time in July in SF. Met her kids too. She was great in person, just like online. It's surreal.

And to think I missed that event because I got stuck in 880 traffic on our way to the BART.
Thank you for sharing.

If turtledove's family sees, this, I am sorry for your loss. Please know that even though I didn't know her, and we didn't even know each other's names, her snarkey (but never in a mean way) comments brightened many a day for me.

200   Ceffer   2016 Dec 6, 7:08pm  

It's heartbreaking every time I hear about our poor Turtle.

201   anonymous   2016 Dec 6, 7:30pm  

I was singing Christmas songs with my kids driving home on Sunday, and The Muppets 12 days of Christmas had me a little choked up when Fozzie Bear breaks out Two Turtle Doves 🙁

202   HEY YOU   2016 Dec 6, 7:57pm  

sugarbean says

http://m.legacy.com/obituaries/latimes/obituary.aspx?n=susann-stephanie-arsuaga-sills&pid=182995109&referrer=0&preview=True

". She served as managing partner and co-founder of the Center for Advanced Genetics, the IVF & infertility practice based in Carlsbad, California.. She served as managing partner and co-founder of the Center for Advanced Genetics, the IVF & infertility practice based in Carlsbad, California."

Too bad she didn't discover a fix for patnetters' retard gene. DOH!

203   tropical   2017 Jan 19, 5:50pm  

@d40a, so very sorry for your daughter's troubles. You are from TN, but did you know he also is from TN? You say "this is not over yet... mark my words". Is there information we should know?

205   Patrick   2019 Apr 30, 7:25am  

This is excellent news. I'm not certain of the guy's guilt, but I truly did suspect him from the first moment I heard of Turtledove's untimely death.

Hopefully the justice system is working as intended.

A San Clemente doctor was behind bars Friday on suspicion of killing his wife more than two years ago.

Eric Scott Sills, who will turn 54 on Saturday, is accused in the Nov. 13, 2016, death of his 45-year-old wife, Susann Stephanie Arsuaga Sills, according to the sheriff’s department. Jail records show Sills was arrested Thursday and is being held on $1 million bail.

There was no immediate information on the woman’s cause of death, a possible motive or what prompted Sills’ arrest.

Susann Sills was managing partner and co-founder of the Center for Advanced Genetics fertility clinic in Carlsbad. Eric Sills is the center’s medical director.

According to his online biography, Eric Sills holds a doctorate from London’s University of Westminster and earned his medical degree at the University of Tennessee. He has practiced in-vitro fertilization in Europe and the United States and authored several books on the topic along with more than 100 peer-reviewed journal articles. He also collaborated on the discovery of three previously unknown human gene mutations, according to his biography.

Eric and Susann Sills were the parents of twins.

Eric Sills was tentatively expected to appear in court in Santa Ana Friday afternoon.
207   WookieMan   2019 Apr 30, 7:52am  

Patrick says
This is excellent news. I'm not certain of the guy's guilt, but I truly did suspect him from the first moment I heard of Turtledove's untimely death.

Hopefully the justice system is working as intended.


Wow. I always suspected foul play given her age like you say. Feel bad for the kids though. IF he did it, I hope the kids land in a good place. Sad story, but that should be the concern/focus now IF he's convicted. Even if 100% innocent, there's going to be some mental and emotional damage for everyone involved. As you say, let the justice system do its work.

I know some family has visited here, so trying to be tolerant/respectful, but this is turning into a movie or hour long Dateline episode. Wherever the path leads for the people involved, I do hope things end up as well as they can. Never expected to see anything about this again.

« First        Comments 168 - 207 of 248       Last »     Search these comments

Please register to comment:

api   best comments   contact   latest images   memes   one year ago   random   suggestions   gaiste